Why don't girls like muscles on men?

Question

I've heard they like to look at men who have them but they don't like to have a boyfriend that got muscles. What are the reasons?

I mean the defined muscle look. Not the chubby chubby muscles look, where the man can't even move normally. I mean defined muscles: Big arms, chest with six pack. I mean what's wrong to have a boyfriend who's got muscles like that:

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Tigerlily · Accepted Answer

Personally I'm not necessarily that into muscles... but if I was, I think there'd be a few problems with actually dating a guy who looked like the guy in the picture:

1) You say the girls you spoke to said he'd have little time for them because he'd be at the gym... this is true. As much as you both have to have your own hobbies and that, and obviously if he was going to the gym just a few times a week for an hour at a time then that's not a huge problem, I wouldn't want a guy who practically lived there. My little brother is an example of this - he's only 16 but he runs for an hour every morning, gets home and does an hour's strength training, and he does other activities a few times a week like a workout at the gym or martial arts classes or cross-country. There's a girl we know who fancies him and I think she's probably thinking she likes his muscles... but hasn't really thought about the fact that he spends most of his day working out. He's past just looking after himself and staying fit - he lives to exercise. She'd come over to see him and he'd have to go work out for an hour, then go to a martial arts class, then he could come home and do nothing for an hour, then he'd do some bedtime exercises, then he'd be asleep because he can't be tired for the next day, then he'd get up at 5am to go for a run, then he'd be at school, then he'd be working out again... he doesn't have time for a girl if he really wants to keep up his workout regimen.

2) It's kind of the same as guys not wanting to date a model because she'll only order a salad and a glass of water if you go out to dinner - the guy who wants to build up his muscles (could be a male model, funnily enough) has to make sure everything he eats is low-fat and high-protein. Again, I know this from my little brother. He keeps 4 different types of protein powders and a couple of different pills to supplement everything. He lives off vegetables and lean meat like chicken, turkey and salmon. You can't build muscle unless you have protein and vitamins in large amounts, so when you're thinking of making dinner for the two of you, you've got to either eat what he wants to all the time (which you'd get bored of, unless you were also an exercise freak) or make something separate for yourself. If you're going out to eat, it always has to be somewhere that does that sort of meal. Takes the fun out of a lot of things. In moderation it's fine - eg you go somewhere he wants and he has his chicken salad, then you go somewhere you want and have pizza and ice cream, and alternate - but guys who are serious about their bodies often have to keep up their diets. If they had that pizza and ice cream, they'd work it off - which means he's gonna be gone for a few hours to burn off the fat, so you're left alone again.

3) Image. A guy who values his image that much might be really shallow. He might think his muscles make him entitled to any woman he wants... (ctd in next post!)

Tigerlily · Accepted Answer

(ctd from last post) So he could be a cheater or something. This isn't always true, it may be that he's a decent guy who just happens to enjoy working out or having a career in sports or whatever. But the stereotype is that a guy with big muscles is the most attractive to women. He may get big-headed because maybe it's proved to be true - maybe he went to the beach with some friends and girls fell at his feet. Even if it's not true, maybe he thinks it should be. So when he gets a girlfriend, he sees her for a while, then there's this other girl and he has both because he's just good-looking enough to do that. Maybe he screws other girls on the side. Maybe he leaves when we're getting attached because he's just bored. Either way, we feel like we're not going to have this guy all to ourselves.

4) Another part of his obsession with image/working out is that he might project it onto us. We're thinking of getting a Chinese and he asks how we can even think about eating it because it's so fatty/unhealthy/whatever. We need to go to the supermarket for something but the car's at the garage, and he doesn't understand why we won't just walk or run there. We don't want to get a gym membership because we'd rather spend the money on going shopping/drinking/to the movies with friends, and he thinks that's lazy and unhealthy. He criticizes our lifestyle because it doesn't fit with his. A girl below says she works out and takes care of herself so would expect a guy to do the same - guys think that too. Of course you have a right to want to be with someone like that, but you can't change someone, which we think this guy would if we got with him. Also, just the fact that he has a right to want to be with a fellow exercise freak is enough in and of itself - he wont' date us, we're not going to cry over it, he wants a gym bunny and we want someone we can have fun with. Simple.

The image part holds true as well. He may believe that because he's such a good-looking stud, he needs to have a sex siren on his arm. There are so many questions on here asking why you always see good-looking guys with ugly girls, or vice versa. People are shallow. if this guy conforms to all of that, then he doesn't want to be seen with an average-looking girl. He wants the girl with the long legs, toned stomach and big boobs. We have chubby thighs, a soft stomach and B-cup boobs. So we know he either isn't going to want us, or he'll get with us and then try to encourage us to lose weight/work out/get a boob job, or just outright put us down and insult us. It's not going to work.

It's a lot of assumptions, but in a lot of cases, they can be true. If a great guy came along and he had muscles but he also was willing to have fun, didn't care about what other people thought of us, thought we were beautiful anyway, and actually spent enough time with us, then that's amazing. Pretty damn rare though.

meili · Accepted Answer

I think it's mainly the stereotype of guys that have those characteristics. They're usually depicted as jerks or meat-heads (no offense everyone!). There's nothing wrong with toned muscles like that. Also it can be intimidating for some girls because it puts pressure on the girl. They'll might feel like their body should be at that level as well and threatened by other girls who seem "more fit." I personally like guys with no muscles and a little pudge because I think it's cute and feels more comfortable when they hug you, but that's my preference :)! I'm sure a lot of girls like muscular guys too!

IamThisGuy · Accepted Answer

One thing I've heard from girls is that yeah sure a body like that is nice for a little bit. But after awhile he gets annoying. To have a body like that you have to SERIOUSLY work at it 24/7: You must exercise so much during the week and you must meet a strict diet. And for some girls that bit is the turn off. They don't like a guy who's obessed with going to the gym all the time. One girl said it best on the subject: "You're getting the salad? I thought I was the girl in this relationship!" lolz You get the idea. Also yeah some girls think theyre players. But that's just really their own messed up head on their part. Because it is possible to be a nice guy and still have a rock hard body...

WeaponZero · Accepted Answer

My theory on the matter is that girls see built muscular guys in the same way we see girls who walk around all the time looking like they're fit to hit the club.  It's nice to look at, sure, but you're hesitant to make a move cause it just SCREAMS high maintenance.  I see those types of girls as being more fling/one night stand material than girlfriend material and I'm guessing girls are the same way about muscular guys.  Just a theory.

iluvcartman · Answer

I don't know what girls you know but I'd date a guy who looks like that.  But just because you have muscles doesn't mean you're automatically attractive.  My friend told me that one of her boyfriends friends thought I was cute and he has a great body...it was his face (and the fact that he was a llittle annoying) that made me uninterested.  Good bodies aren't a free pass to getting girls

starbucksaddict14 · Answer

Honestly, I would think they're a player.. But that may be based on my past experiences dating a guy who had a body like that haha.

It's not a turn off, and I'm almost positive a lot of girls would date someone with a body like that, but I'd rather day a guy who has enough muscle and is toned and isn't a player/self-obsessed than a guy who has a body like that and is.

Anonymous · Answer

whatever girls you talking to seem kinda high mantinance because they need the guy to spend more time with them and not at the gym. I'm telling you right now, any guy who has muscles like that is probably being chased by a lot of girls. I love arms and abs. they are a huge turn on. I feel like I sound creepy right now ha ha but literally arms are such a turn on for me.. ha ha also I work out and try to take care of my body so I would love a guy to do the same with his

hellayeah · Answer

wtf? who ever said that was a turn off?  it isn't...  a guy with muscles is definitely a turn on.  it feels amazing when they hug you.

funnyjoke · Answer

Muscles look good, but let's face it, they really don't serve any purpose in the information age.  I think girls prefer a guy who looks healthy, and makes good money to one with big muscles who spends all his time in the gym.

Ann-Sophie · Answer

I actually fall for guys like that... But his personality has to be good as well!

ladyinred1989 · Answer

i actually like guys with muscle but not a lot...just a toned body does it for me

Anonymous · Answer

Girls likes muscles my girlfriend always wants me to join gym but I have no time due to  engaged in full time job

Anonymous · Answer

If chicks didn't like guys with six packs and muscles then half of the celebrities you see in the movies would keep their shirts on.

Honest-Matt · Answer

Firemen bodies ladies? Yay or nay?

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