I want to please him, but it's tearing me apart...

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend says he's happy with my body but I'm not... I hate it, well not all of it just my chest.and he hates when I complain he says he loves it but I don't. when I suggested I get a procedure he flipped out... it wasn't anything big.. just a breast reduction. then I said well maybe I'll just diet & exercise... but he didn't like that so much either. I'm very unhappy with my appearance to the point that it deeply upsets me, I've wanted them gone for so long... not flat chested but just a b cup ... but he doesn't want me to change... what do I do? I want to please him, but its tearing me apart

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Well your boyfriend was right to be opposed to a breast reduction... I mean honestly b cups are like perfect. And if you got them reduced you would be like practically flat.

Try not to think so negatively about yourself. It's definitely easy to do and we all have moments where we doubt ourselves, or think we're not good enough, or think that a part of body is just terrible.

But you need to cast all that aside and have some faith in yourself and in your body. If your boyfriend thinks you look fine, well, chances are you do then! He can see how beautiful you are, and so you should try to do the same. I'm not saying it's something that you can do quickly and be satisfied with; often such low self-esteem can be hard to raise. But really, try to find time to appreciate yourself and who you are each day, and hopefully after a while you'll be able to build up your confidence.

Good luck to you!

[Asker]

I guesss but no my goal is to have a B cup.. I'm a double right now. && I try to feel comfortable about it but there just there and its hard to ignore. guys stare.. people ask to grab them I mean they notice my chest before they notice me ... can you not see why id want a change?

[TheoryOfAvarice]

I don't know what sort of people you're hanging around, but that sounds ridiculous. I mean I can understand if you think people are staring at your body / your chest before they bother to talk to or notice you... but you shouldn't have to change yourself for those people, whether it's to get more attention or to make the attention go away.

Also I'm sorry, but guys will always stare.

For real, if anyone gets too close or touchy, just tell them to back off! You don't have to put up with that b.s.!

[cookiesncream]

Honestly, do what you feel is right for you. Consider if it's really what you want. I recommend trying to get them down naturally then surgically. If your chest size truly stops you from being comfortable in your own body then do what you need to do. If your boyfriend throws a fit, well, he's clearly putting his needs before yours, assuming you've told him why you want to do it.

Really though, I'm a b and I'd be happy to have a bigger chest. but to each their own =] just really try to think it over.

[authentic]

1. Don't look at yourself through other people's (there are >6 billion on Earth) eyes; that is the fastest way to throw your happiness out of the window, all of it.

"I want to please him, but its tearing me apart"

2. A mature person knows that one's happiness is one's responsibility, and no one else's. Meaning, you are responsible for YOUR happiness, not his. Vice versa.

[dreamtime]

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[superdudeman]

Yeah I thought the same thing about my penis, it was just too damn big.

It just got in the way, you don't know how embarrassing it is to always be accused of shoplifting.

"no I don't have anything down my pants, I swear!"

So yeah I can understand your need for a breast reduction. They just get in the way, you know.

[Asker]

OMG I died laughingg

[Kaileb]

He just wants your t*ts. Sorry I may be wrong but that's what it sounds like. And you don't want big boobs?

[Asker]

Nooo, having big boobs is a curse...its all everyone looks at, or talks about half the time. its why people approach me, random people even ask to touch them, they'' talk about my chest and then look at my face and say I'm pretty or w.e blah blah.... ugh its so annoying I want them gone so maybe people would notice more than my chest

[Kaileb]

Sorry.

[foolycooly1001]

get therapy. it sounds like you have a distorted body image.

[rikooprate]

I second that...