If you could only have two, which two would you choose?

[Anonymous]

If in a boyfriend or girlfriend, you could only choose two of the three traits, which two would you choose? Whichever you don't choose will be the polar opposite of what is desirable:

a) intelligence

b) emotional stability

c) attractiveness

Which trait could you live without and why?

Intelligence

Emotional stability

Attractiveness

[Bluemonk]

Intelligence and attractiveness. I get to choose two right? haha.

This is because their intelligence should help them with their emotional stability. Mature and intelligent people are usually more emotionally stable as it is.

Being wildly emotional for no reason is just stupid/illogical. If they are smart enough they will be able to deal with their own problems and be able to communicate their problems with the relationship effectively enough to handle them.

And attractiveness is 50% of the equation to me, if I don't find someone physically attractive, we can be good friends but taking it into the bedroom would be a lie. "You're so great so I'll grit my teeth through sexual things with you" isn't happening lol.

[Whim_Q]

Intelligence helps with emotional stability? That would be so nice if it were, true, but history proves it dead wrong. Sylvia Plath, Edgar Allen Poe, Lewis Carroll, and Camille Claudel (as well as countless other genii), were all fairly clever --as humans go-- but it didn't save any of them from going completely mad. Intellect doesn't instill, or even encourage, common sense; brilliant people are quite as likely to shut their heads in ovens as mediocrities.

[morthim]

intelligence and attractiveness are the most important to me.

emotional stability, aka stoicism, I find ugly.

if emotional instability was the second trait, I'd go with emotional instability and attraction.

[Whim_Q]

Since I'm not currently looking for a long-term relationship, intelligence and attractiveness (by which I assume you mean qualities that would make the person attractive to me) would come before stability. A little bit of madness would be kind of fun for a bit. Though it seems shallow to pick C over B, a relationship in which the parties don't actually have a mutual attraction should be platonic. Otherwise, what's the point of labeling something "romantic?"

[emzy-89]

i couldn't be with someone that I didn't have emotional stability with or that I didn't find interesting/intelligent. usually if a person has other good qualities eg good personality/intelligent etc I can find them attractive physically even if they wouldn't normally be my type.

[curiosa18]

thats hard but id pick a and c honestly and I'd help to work on b! people always have some type of problem I think all people should see therapist sometime in their lives. just my opinon..

[Anonymous]

Out of the 3 traits you gave, I would pick intelligence and emotional stability as musts.

out of those 2, the one I can't live without would be emotional stability

[Anonymous]

Intelligence & emotional stability. That would make him attractive for me :) attractiveness is the presence of traits that I find attractive & like ;)

[xxxworldisminexxx]

what do you mean by emotional stability exactly?

[Asker]

Sane, for one thing, and not a trainwreck all the time.

[xxxworldisminexxx]

OHH OK well I choose emotional stable and intelligent. I wouldn't be able to live without someone being intelligent. I can't tolerate being who are unintelligent. If someone had emotional problems every now and then, I'd be OK because we all have those days where we can just be a wreck.