Why are my girlfriends hating on me because I lost so much weight and am skinny now?

[Anonymous]

ok I got tired of being fat so I got up and did something about it. I started working out and eating really healthy. I would eat three complete meals and 2 snacks a day. I was on a strict diet thought. ALL healthy foods, not any unhealthy at all. Breakfast would consist of maybe: cereal, orange juice, and a banna , lunch: a sandwich, baked chips, a drink.dinner: grilled chicken, veggies, and a side. this is just an example. I would work out every single day ( maybe take a day of or so) for an hour. Switching between cardio and weightlifting so I would not burn out my body muscles.

it took me a lot of motivation to stick with this plan because I wanted to make a change in my life. I wouldn't eat anymore than around 1700 calories a day maybe more if I worked out alot. I lost 23 lbs in 6 weeks. It wasn't easy. now my friend tease me saying I starved myself, and it was unhealthy. They make comments like my cheeks are pinched ( meaning I have an eating disorder).it really hurts my feelings because I worked my ass off to lose all that weight and now I look in the mirror and I am finally happy. Why do they tease me so much? And what's so unhealthy about what I did?

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One of my friends actually admitted she was jealous. she was like " now , you are perfect.you are going to get all the guys".but I am not sure why the others would be. I mean I admit that I turn down their dinner dates at chinese places and such.

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it because I had a strict eating schedule during my diet. they would always want to eat late at night like 10 or 11. I always ate my last meal at 7pm and only ate a light snack afterwards if really hungry. Maybe because I turned down those dates, they

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thought I was starving myself

[RockemSockem]

First of all, congratulations on your weight loss! =) I bet you look fantastic!

I'm in a very similar situation as you because I have also lost quite a bit of weight (50+ lbs) and it was done the old fashion way : diet and exercise with a TON of motivation along with it, haha!

A few of my friends would say "you're starving yourself" or "this won't hurt" and blahblahblahblah. I finally found out why they were teasing me so badly: THEY WERE JEALOUS. They wanted to sabotage my good diet and hard work just because they didn't have the dedication to lose the weight they wanted to. It took me a while to figure out that those who did that weren't my real friends afterall.

That diet sounds pretty good to me, but if you want to double check, I would make a visit to a doctor or nutritionist just to see what's exactly right for your body. =) For right now, just roll with the punches and don't let their teases get to you. It's your body, you lost the weight in a healthy fashion, and you should enjoy yourself! Best of luck! (and sorry for the really long answer, haha)

[green-sun]

maybe they aren't aware of the actual physical challenge you faced.losing weight is NOT an easy thing to do, especially for lazy people.im not sure how exaclty your friends are emphasizing their words, but they may just think that in six weeks it was a lot of weight to lose, but everyone is different! they may be just looking out for you and trying to get you out of hurting your physical and mental self. try not to let it bother you. your friends' words might not mean as harmful as you think :)

[Asker]

Its not a lot of weight to lose if you stay motivated.........and don't cheat at all on your routine.........when you stick to a diet thoroughly the lbs fall off.

[Asker]

How could anyone possibly think that working out is harmful. I am in the best shape of my life. if I were starving myself I'd be weak and puny. I actuallly have definition in my arms and legs. I am the strongest I have ever been in my life. I know one of my friends is jealous because she admited it, but I don't know why the other would be???

[ALWAYSclassy]

If one of your friends is jealous then they probably all are for the same reason. You probably look better than her now and she's jealous. Tell her to eat a pie lol

[VAGitarian]

It's because they are jealous! You worked your ass off for it and you should enjoy it, who cares what thye say! You are probably just really good looking now and those other girls don't like it?

[Asker]

But I don't understand why they would be jealous, they are all really pretty. I was just always the fat one in the bunch but now I am slim and toned. I know I shouldn't care but I can't help it when I see these girls every day.

[Thorzilla]

Unhealthy? Absolutely nothing! They are just jealous because you've achieved the goal you proposed yourself, and maybe they are jealous because there's a goal they still haven't reached.

[ALWAYSclassy]

Congratulations!

You did a great thing! You know you did it the right way and were being healthful. Another congrats for that because some people don't have the willpower to do that. You know they are just jealous of you. They wish they had the willpower to push away from the table. They are not as disciplined as you obviously, and being around you probably makes them feel like fat pigs. Which is so not your fault - it's not rocket science how to lose weight but most people won't do it because it's not easy.

Also since you look great, they see you as competition. You're going to attract more guys than them and they're jealous. They want you to keep being the fat one and not get all the attention.

[Anonymous]

Because most girls have trouble losing weight. I'm extremely thin (my metabolism is high). Also, most girls won't even work to lose the weight, they starve themselves and eat only desserts. So they're going to be jelous. And probably mean because they can't lost the weight. So, they're going to make you feel bad no matter what. Don't let it get to you. They're going to be bitchy about it. Also, if they make fun of you, they're not really your friends. Also, tell them about your eating habits. If they don't get the fact that your trying to be healthy and not starving yourself they'll get it. If they don't believe you, then forget them. If they do, invite them to work out and follow the same program you set for yourself if they want to lose weight too. Just tell them about it. and Good for you being healthy!

[HaggardDiva]

You lost your weight totally legitally. And you shouldn't feel bad about that at all. And if they are all really pretty and you used to be the "chubby" one, that right there is why they are jealous. There are a lot of girls out there that like to have the "chubby" friend. No offense, but the friend that makes them look better. And now that you got to their level they don't like it. I might re-evaluate your friendship with them if I were you.

[ALWAYSclassy]

I agree, if they can't appreciate the slimmer healthier you, then what kind of friends were they?

[irresistible]

They are very jealous of you. Oprah Winfrey lost a lot of her friends because they were jealous she lost weight.

[crazycool]

There trying to make you feel down on your self because you may have become competition to them

[Anonymous]

they seeeee meee rolllinnnnn

they hatinnnnnn

does it matter? all that matters is what you know you did? or something like that

[PHYSICALSPECIMEN]

they are jealous, congrats on your success