My family jokes about my weight?

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows that I am VERY sensitive about my weight, But they insist on joking about it. And saying dang you gain weight or look you pregnant. My mom especially is the MAIN one who is Obese...I am a size 12-14. They are plus size women...I have been gaining weight because of depression and I am sick of tired of people saying that...When they are 10 times bigger than me.

It hurts my feelings...

I try to ignore them but it will never stop...they knows it bothers me regardless.

How to deal with this?

They really think that I am pregnant...I am 23 year old freaking virgin...What the hell? I haven't gain that much weight.

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When I was on diets before they would still make fun of me no matter of what...I can't win...

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Disclaimer: to the Anony user, be careful what you say and do because who knows what the future may bring...You have no idea what I been through in my life. You are just insensitive and immature person.Who think that they know the future. What you are now

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is not what you will be in the future...I like how life changes..."The same people you meet up, are the same people you meet coming down" lol

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First off all, how did we turn this thing into how to lose weight. I was trying to get help of dealing with people that makes fun of me because of my weight. THAT IS WAY BIGGER THAN me...I shouldn't even posted this question because people think they are

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a Psychic, Psychologist, and Nutritionist. You have no idea of my health...Some people can't go off of what you said about controlling calories.Somethings are just genetics. YOU can't control just genetics. There is logic...Can you control it? I wish

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We went from someone telling me 12-14 is too big..Which is rude as hell. To someone who is bragging how they became successful. It doesn't mean anything. Everything is temporary in LIFE...Your car and the girl that said she is going to 3/5 forever. Sure!

[ShishKabob]

If I'm wrong, please disregard this, but it is worth putting out there.

A lot of people seem to have the mentality that people who are doing better had it better than they did. This is not always the case, quite often the opposite. The people I know that really bust it at the gym are there getting their anger and aggression out. Further, they're usually already overextended time-wise, but make sacrifices to get there. Most work 50-60 hours a week, go to the gym 10 hours a week, and still raise a family. They are not rich, buying expensive (healthy) food. They make absolutely no excuses and just do it. Diabetes, sports injuries, whatever, the still go in there and sweat it out. There was a man there yesterday who was 80 if he was a day. Did 8 pull-ups. Again, if I'm wrong (or if you.re one of the .1% who are genuinely 100% physically unable to work out), please excuse and disregard this. I say it because I see it a lot.

Also, you say to the anonymous user that she doesn't know what you've been through. Then you say she doesn't know how it feels, or about life. That is EXTREMELY hypocritical. You also have no idea what she's been through.

I genuinely hope you find the power to do what you want with life. Many including myself may sound like assholes, and it's true that none of us know what you're been through. However, even valid excuses are going to hold you back. Take what would have been an excuse and make it a reason to succeed. I don't know you, but I know me: I'm proud of the fact that I'm an engineer. But I'm even more proud because I was in special ed. in high school and still managed to bust my ass and get the engineering degree. I'm proud of the $20,000 car I bought, but even more proud that I bought it at age 17 because I started working and saving at age 14. I was proud to have the highest average on my softball team, but prouder because I was coming off 6 months of being unable to walk from an injury.

[Asker]

Everyone is different. So what you are saying is not even logical. My whole thing is you can't say what you won't EVER BE in life...

That is my point...

[ShishKabob]

Excuses. I'll bite on the logic part though.

body fat = calories burned - calories eaten. Logically, if you can control calories burned (exercise) OR your food intake, you can control your weight. Where is the logical fallacy? Again, there is maybe a fraction of a percent of people who are adults and have no control of either for medical reasons.

Never say never. You are correct, but I feel it's beside the point as it was a poorly thought out attack, albeit not uncalled for.

[ShishKabob]

I doubt you'll be able to get them to stop. They're either trying to help you get motivated, or, more likely taking out their own shortcomings/insecurities onto you.

You're 23. It's time to stop expecting things to get changed without you doing anything. If you're family won't stop it's extremely simple. Either get healthy or move out. I suggest both. It is EXTREMELY hard to get healthy when other people around you are not. I guarantee that as soon as you start having success they'll start picking on you for being healthy to feel better about their unhealthy lifestyle.

FYI I don't know how big 12-14 is. However, you're 23. It's only going to get harder from here to get in shape. You might as well get started.

[Asker]

You are right. It is going to get harder as I get older. I just have to find a way for what they say not to bother me anymore...Thanks for being respectful.

[ShishKabob]

You say we have no idea. Very true. Care to divulge? Maybe we can help. Please.

Psychic: Nope. Never predicted you're future.

Psychologist: Mentality only has the amount of power over your physical health that you grant it.

Nutritionist: Amateur. I'm genuinely curious about the human body and foods, and read up on it about as much as I can. By no means an expert.

Genetics: Aside from extreme cases (really bad diabetes, mesomorphs, etc.) I've only seen statistics around 10% for differences in metabolisms from genetics (all other things like sex, weight, activeness being equal). There is some ambiguity as to exact numbers, but I can say this with confidence: THE BIGGEST ROLE GENETICS PLAY IN FITNESS ARE AS EXCUSES.

[Anonymous]

Then lose weight.12-14 IS big

[Asker]

you are a loser...one day you will be 18-24...lol saying 12- 14 is big...and you are a woman...you are really a trip...you have no idea how it feels...you are so wrong...bitch.

[Opinion Owner]

I am a size 3/5 & no I won't be 18-24. I work out and eat healthy and I wouldn't blame being fat on depression like you

[Asker]

good luck...its funny how people are so caught up in what they think...You have no idea about life...you never know what will happen down the future...so be careful...i always thought I would be small but guess what life happens...grow up!

[Opinion Owner]

I know you're plus size which is fat and you're in denial and making excuses. You can try to take the attention away from that and attempt to criminalize me but I'm being honest.

[Asker]

Thank you for being honest...I am making excuses...You are such a psychic...grow up.

[Asker]

12-14 is fat...Thank you for reminding how fat I am. You are so clever.Whether 12-14 is fat or not. I am WOMAN. I am curvy, beautiful, and smart woman. Just because you are 3/5 doesn't mean anything. You have just as low self esteem..To call someone big or fat. Look in the mirror. And be careful what you say to people..You never know when you may be in my shoes...Read into the future.?lol

You would think a woman would support another woman in her curves or her shape...

[Asker]

but no she wants to tell me how fat and how big I am...Women can me a trip...I am glad people like Tyra, Beyonce, Kim Kardashian, and Jennifer Lopez...Are all curvy women that ARE NOT A SIZE 3/5...I love these women...

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[Opinion Owner]

Curvy doesn't mean fat sweetheart, learn the difference.

[Asker]

It doesn't even matter. So now you are a linguist? You are such a character. Just grow up and don't bother with my post.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm assisting you in differentiating between curvy, which is a body shape and being overweight.You're overweight and refuse to accept that, you can call yourself curvy, which you may be, but curvy doesn't replace or change the fact that you're overweight.