Feeling lonely and unwanted and don't know if he even cares?

[Anonymous]

'Kay so my boyfriend is a real busy guy, lately he's been with his guy friends a lot drinking and stuff, we usually call each other every night to talk and we barely talk anymore - he falls asleep on the phone - Yeah I can understand he's tired and stuff, but it's that he doesn't want to make an effort to spend time with me and I feel crap. I've told him how I feel and he joked about it and said give him a break and he's sorry and that he'll make time for me, but he's out drinking with his friends again. Don't know whether to ignore his call lateron tonight or not should I ignore him like he's doing to me?

[ArtistBboy]

Honestly, it doesn't sound like something he's doing to "get to you".. It just sounds like he's an immature boyfriend who can't respect a relationship... In time that will change, but do you really wanna stick around and grit your teeth in agony until that happens? Everyone has to go through this with whatever relationships they fight for, at least somewhere in their own lives. Maybe years ago in highschool, maybe years later in marriage.. BUT SOMEWHERE, people eventually have to "train" their spouse on different areas to show respect or some other characteristic they don't already have. In the end, that agony will definitely bring you guys closer together.. But it's about being completely selfless WHILE trying to help him change or transition into a "Better him" (not changing him for your own expectations, but changing him to help him in his own life)

~ ArtistBBoy

[Asker]

Thank you for the answer, I never really realized that he might be immature, but come to think of it he is! He's 20 and I'm 19 so it's a little weird that he's still immature in his ways and I'm all about helping him change, problem is, he doesn't seem very interested. We've been together for 3 years, it's just that sometimes he behaves in uncaring ways and when I talk to him about it he either laughs it off or gets mad about it.

[ArtistBboy]

It's tough.. You can either stick it out or walk away..but the choice is urs.. I encourage you to "taunt" the fear and take on the challenge of working with him.. it'll make you a better person intrinsically.

[DaveMicharl69]

I really don't think he's doing it to be mean, or he wouldn't have joked about it. If You give it a little more time, I think it'll work out...

[sana789]

don't keep on asking him his time.if he calls ,talk or else have your own life,..don't call on your own.let him call on his own.observe this behaiviour later watch out what to do.

[Asker]

I agree, I think he's just having a tough time because of campus and a hectic home life.