If you are socially awkward past a certain age, do you suppose it could be there for good?

[Anonymous]

Some people have the gift of gab, a lot don't. But what about people that don't say anything during lulls in conversation or can't smooth over a heated moment between friends? Is this something that can't be fixed past the age of say, 18?

I'm in my early 20s but still usually find that socializing makes me anxious and I always feel that getting my thoughts out is like pulling teeth. Especially if I'm talking to someone I don't know well. Should I just accept this as part of who I am?

[SunSeeker]

Well I think it's normal if you just met somebody. I consider myself a pretty good conversationalist and I've been told by a few people but to be honest with you, sometimes I meet people that make me feel awkward, as if I'm the one who's sucking at the convo but then I realize it's not me and they're just making it really difficult on me so that may be your case. If they're just giving you short answers, not looking you in the eye or seeming interested, or not asking you questions, then it's not you that is socially awkward, it is them. Also, don't fret too much, sometimes there are weird social moments upon just meeting someone (or especially if you like them) but over time it always smooths out. hope this helped :)

[Anonymous]

i am SA too and just introverted most of the time I'm not the funniest or the loudest girl around and sometimes I do worry if I will ever find someone, but I'm patient and believe there's someone out there for everyone we just have to wait

[angyismytitle]

i'm socially awkward as well, I always have been but I find it's been helping to push myself outside of my comfort zone socially. It really does make it easier not easy but easier anyway.

[Gt68hgt]

Gift of lulls...