When people say hurtful things to you do you think they realize it hurts?

[Anonymous]

today I was having lunch with my sister and she was staring at me. I asked her what was wrong and she said, "you have really bad skin. and hair. and teeth. and your eye twitches a little."

i asked her why she was telling me all that. she said, "i'm just appreciating that you got the brains and I got the beauty."

and if you guys are going to say brains are better and will get you farther, I went to a good college but I'm a minimum wage office worker because that's the only job I could find. my sister (two years younger) married an older rich guy (she's 22 and he's 45) and has everything you can imagine wanting and more. looks like she won.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that she did realize what she said, but may have not calculated how much of an impact it would have. A lot of people say things that are meant as very mild, forget-it-in-a-minute shots, but come across as deeply hurtful remarks. Another possibility may have been that she may have been having an "I feel ugly" day, and was trying to boost herself up at your expense.

Neither option are particularly nice of her, but both are extremely common events. Either way, I'd take offense at her remark. Then again, I'm a borderline personality, so I tend to take a little more offense than your average Joe. Still, if I were you, I'd be offended.

Just my two cents...

[SunSeeker]

Wow, your sister is a straight up SNOB. Even if what she says is true, she definitely didn't get the charming personality. At the surface it may look like she won, but deep inside I'm sure both her and her husband are miserable. Of course she knew what she was saying, anyone with a brain would, but considering she's an absolute snob her opinion wouldn't matter the least bit to me.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes they see it as constructive criticism when all it is is hurtful. You're right. I understand how you feel.

For the longest time my sisters called me fat (I've lost weight now) & now they've moved onto calling me fat & stupid. I finally broke down a few days ago & cried my eyes out, telling them how much their words make me feel inadequate & like they don't even consider me their sister. They just told me that they're telling me the truth... And that I need to get thicker skin.

My advice to you is to let your self-worth come from your own opinion of yourself. Of your real friends. Because sometimes family doesn't necessarily mean unconditional love.

[Red_Raconteur]

i've seen your pics. you are NOT fat. you have the perfect body imo. your sisters suck.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you! You can't please everyone I guess.

[knowmeyourself]

Sigh. You are very intelligent and really really thin. Your sisters are mean :/

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

tell your sisters if you're fat, they're fat. You silly triplets you :P

but ya.. that's really mean :\ sorry about that Tia :(

[Opinion Owner]

I don't want your pity LOL.

[Nicefuture]

I doubt that.

What a mean & Heartless b***."sorry for saying that"

You got the Sweet heart and the brain these 2things not every1 can have it and if you got the personality too then that's perfect,be glad that you make your own money and don't need a man to bUy for you everything.

Not like her.. she is dumb,pretty,dependent and poor without her husband.

she will get old and ugly one day and then he will buy another woman the way he did with her,many Rich men do that a lot since they have money,maybe even he already cheating on her,at least one day when a man fall in love with you,he will LOVE YOU Not your beauty.

[Habakkuk]

she didn't win. Nobody likes a gold-digger. But you really have a hurtful sister.. I don't think people realize that it hurts the moment they say things like that. That's why I don't say hurtful things. I'm very calm and level headed and patient, because I know burning bridges is a lot harder than building them, and fighting gets us nowhere.

[TheDarkNoodle]

She's your sister course she's gonna be mean don't take it to heart. Plus I don't think she's won, she's going to be a trophy wife till her looks leave her, either way she's trapped. Even if she's prettier than you looks don't last forever, you got the brains so you actually have some kind of potential :)

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I'm sure she realized it but she's just jealous of your intelligence. Remember beauty fades with time. Knowledge is forever...well until you pass away.

[tangledlover]

Yes, they do realize it's hurtful & that's the point. Some people just like to hurt others, you can win simply by not letting their words affect you.

[Shaun]

Pretty people get everything handed to them without effort, and yet still people kiss their ass.

[Shaun]

I suggest cutting her brakelines.

[b_luvedbaby]

Pretty people get dumped on too my friend.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

Cutting her brakelines. Hahahaha

[Anonymous]

I would of told her off tbh I'm not going to take tgat from no one.. None the less a gold digger

[bel42]

Don't let her get to you. Just ignore whatever bad thing she has to say about you.

[DebiPie]

Yes, of course they do.

[DebiPie]

You could see if he has a brother.?

[Vasillilaw]

So I'm guessing you don't like your job?

[stevo]

I don't think she won at all. She's just jealous.

[sweet_18]

How callus of her