Because for most people at your age it is so easy!
I know a few people who were running two "programs" in their head.
One is going like: "I have to approach some girl or I will be lonely for life!"
Second: "I cannot approach girls, I will be humiliated. She will tare me apart emotionally."
They went like this for years! Obsessing. Guess what happened when they approached girls. Girls felt like they want to get a girl and they are obsessing, not emotionally unstable needy and no fun at all. They wanted to ensure she stays and that scared the hell out of every girl. They messed up things, guilt came in and makes second program stronger. First made stronger as time went by.
One of them was my best friend. He came to a breakpoint and I showed him what he was doing to himself.
You listen to "cannot program" you are unhappy. You get pain cause you run program about what you don't have and "need". You listen to second and you get instant pain and stronger guilt ! Guilt blocks pleasure and next time you will feel far worse if you listen to it. But first program will make you!
You see and feel how this is instant pain generator? Get rid of it!
It will be far easier to do anything about weight if you stop thinking about it!
This friend of mine when I showed him with my help started to run "program" that goes like: Naaaah, I don't care! Not now, maybe later.
If he didn't feel like it he just didn't approach and gone to talk with me or other people he was out with. When he felt like it, no obsession. He just got to her and talked relaxed about anything. And he got pleasure from both situations!
He got instant pleasure generator for his life. And things gone ballistic! He is one of greatest guys I know! Girls just couldn't see that before. But then he could choose. He went out to dance with group of people where all others were girls and half of them wanted to talk to him.
And the message? Don't obsess. Get rid of every thinking that gives you pain. Pain sometimes is good choice for behavior change, but mostly not. You want motivation and are giving yourself pain? You are not going to get motivated! Only stuck this way. Get out of it!
Get good stuff and stop obsessing!
Things are going to get great!
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Write me.
Seriously. In those cases is very head if possible to really help if I cannot ask any questions real time. And I don't think writing something long would help.
But one thing for all: You didn't fail yourself. You did exactly what one part of you wanted to do. Nobody really does anything that no part of him wants to do, does he? Don't beat up constantly one part of you for wanting something good. Learn to align all your parts to work as one for one goal. United! It will get you far stronger consistent more powerful results!
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Diet alone isn't the best way to sustain weight loss. You need to exercise a lot.
If you don't exercise, there is no buffer to protect you from pig-outs. Not only that, exercise increases your metabolism.
Try eating about 2500 calories per day and combine that with high intensity cardio and light weight training.
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