Well I'm completely confused! I have been best friends with this guy for a long time, like 5 years long time. Eventually, over time, it became a relationship but a very complicated one. Put simply, he has no confidence in himself. He has this group of friends that he follows around. He doesn't even like half of them but he does what they do, just to fit in and look like a complete bad ass. But when he's with me, he's real. He's realaxed and you can tell he's comfortable. I actually let him get away with pretty much pretending he didn't know me when he was around his friends, but in private it turned into this great thing. That's my fault. I never should have been ok with a secret relationship.
Well arguing for us is normal. When it comes right down to it, I usually end up getting mad because he's so two faced and he just doesn't understand why I can't let it go. That's the underlying message behind ALL of our arguments really.
Recently, something has gotten into him. He's decided to keep secrets from me, but yet everyone else in the world knows them. He is having a problem, he admits there is something wrong, but he won't tell me what is wrong. All I've tried to do is help him but yet he always makes it seem like it's my fault, like I'm the one with the problem. Honestly, it feels like he's decided he's too good for me.
Well forget that shit. After he yelled at me in a crowded parking lot, I decided to just walk away. I was a little bit sad but more enraged more than anything. He has ignored me for 2 months, only muttering words when forced. So I decided to do the same. I could tell that first day I decided to play that game, that his feelings were hurt about an hour into it. Yea, I felt bad but that's how I had felt for 2 freaking months and he knew it. So honestly, I've given in. I'm talking to him again but I guess (in all fairness), he's trying to dig himself out of the grand canyon size hole he's in right now but he's not doing that great of a job. I'm really torn right now. Part of me doesn't even want to give him another chance, but then there's another part that literally can't give up. What do I do? Do I talk to him, ignore him, or what?
Well arguing for us is normal. When it comes right down to it, I usually end up getting mad because he's so two faced and he just doesn't understand why I can't let it go. That's the underlying message behind ALL of our arguments really.
Recently, something has gotten into him. He's decided to keep secrets from me, but yet everyone else in the world knows them. He is having a problem, he admits there is something wrong, but he won't tell me what is wrong. All I've tried to do is help him but yet he always makes it seem like it's my fault, like I'm the one with the problem. Honestly, it feels like he's decided he's too good for me.
Well forget that shit. After he yelled at me in a crowded parking lot, I decided to just walk away. I was a little bit sad but more enraged more than anything. He has ignored me for 2 months, only muttering words when forced. So I decided to do the same. I could tell that first day I decided to play that game, that his feelings were hurt about an hour into it. Yea, I felt bad but that's how I had felt for 2 freaking months and he knew it. So honestly, I've given in. I'm talking to him again but I guess (in all fairness), he's trying to dig himself out of the grand canyon size hole he's in right now but he's not doing that great of a job. I'm really torn right now. Part of me doesn't even want to give him another chance, but then there's another part that literally can't give up. What do I do? Do I talk to him, ignore him, or what?
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