I lost weight & I want to dump my boyfirend?

Question

I was super-fat at one point, got tired of it & lost the weight. Everyone told me if I lost the weight I would be a total knockout, & they were right.

So many hot guys notice me now & I want to dump my boyfriend. My boyfriend treated me like a goddess, but I am embarrassed to have him on my shoulder because I am a 10 & he's a 4.

His body repulses me. It always had. We NEVER had sex, I just gave him a bit of oral & only one time because I couldn't stand the site of him.

Sexual attraction is important in a relationship, & it's not there. If he's not going to make the effort to take care of himself why should I stick with him? The only reason why I went out with him to start with is because I was so fat & couldn't do better, & now that I can do better I don't want him.

How can I tell him nicely it's over?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Since you now are a "total knockout" I hope people see that ugly personality of yours and run the other way.

This person that I am seeing in this post, was probably always there. She was just covered by the layers of fat that you once possessed.

How could you bring yourself to type such things about your boyfriend? He loved you when no one else would. Now you want to get rid of him for those who only notice you because your body weight?

Its your life so do has you please. If you don't have the heart to tell your boyfriend, just show him this post and now towards those that love your exterior.

Blue_eyed_beauty · Accepted Answer

Okay all these other answers were nice so I'm going to say what I'm really thinking:

Wow, you sound like a complete bitch. He was with you when you were fat so he obviously wasn't superficial and he dated you for you! So now that you lost some weight you think you're better than him? Sounds like he's better off without you anyway. You may not be fat anymore, but your personality is ugly as hell. I can't stand girls like you. If he "repulsed" you, you never should have gone out with him in the first place. That's pathetic, grow the f*** up.

nermalinda · Accepted Answer

It doesn't matter if you were fat or now you're hot, or you get fat again, or if he's fat or hot or not or whatever.

All that matters is if you want to be with him or not.

If you don't, there is no point in staying with him.

Just tell him you're not feeling it anymore, spare him the details, and move on.

lovecraze · Accepted Answer

Why is it that people like you get the caring, loving guys, while people who need that get the jerks :/

anyways... to answer your question, just be straight, because you really, do not want to beat around the bush with this topic. Just tell him straight and leave him immediately.

stubbsy · Accepted Answer

Let him know that you both have started to move in different circles now, he's going one way and your going the other, and that you feel that your more friends than anything else, tell him that to think of it as the relationship does not have enough in it to last, and that you don't want to end up resenting being in a relationship with him, so you have decided to call it a day and do the things you now know you enjoy, he might hurt but he will understand, good luck and well done on the weight loss, keep it up,x

Lakeburn · Accepted Answer

It sounds like that was a bad relationship from the start.  If you only go out with someone because they are "the best you can do",  you have whole other issues that have nothing to do with your appearance.

gabriel31784 · Answer

Wow just wow. You are getting rid of a guy who was there for you at your lowest. The only reason you were with him was because it was the best you could do at the time. Now that you lost your weight and completely conceded you want to get rid of him.

If you weren't into him to begin with you shouldn't had started a relationship with him in the first place (regardless if that was the best you could do). Why do you think that those guys are all of sudden interested in you and talking to you. It's not because they think you're such a great person. It's because of your body. Is your boyfriend that horrible of a person?

Just remember that everything comes back 10 fold. Karma is a bitch.

Anonymous · Answer

First of all. Let me tell you how this little cycle you're on will work. You'll dump your current boyfriend cause you believe that he's no longer good enough for you. You'll find a hot guy and begin to get comfortable with him. You'll get so comfortable that you'll gain EVERY BIT of your weight back and then you'll be dumped faster than diarhea on a roller coaster. But, that won't be the end of your dissapointment. While you're single and lonely again, you'll begin thinking about the your previous boyfriend and how you shouldn't have dumped him because of how good he was to you when you were so fat. So, you'll look him up on Facebook, only to see that he's engaged to a really attractive girl that loves him for who he is and not just because she needed a boyfriend. I've seen it a 1,000 times and it always ends up bad for the dumper. Good luck though and have fun! :)

vptwarrior · Answer

...(facepalm)i'm gonna say this as kindly as I can, your a bitch, why in the hell would you go out with someone you are not even slightly physically attracted to its stupid and slightly cruel to the person who you are not attracted to as you are giving them false hope. Also you why don't you ask him to loose weight, if he's as nice as you say he'll be okay with it. Also just because your ugly a dirt doesn't mean you should aim low, I mean hell I'm basically crippled in strength but it doesn't totally stop me from aiming high. Also you should dump him if you continue to think like this because he deserves someone who actually cares for him, not someone as cruel as you.

Konnour · Answer

You are pathetic. You shouldn't enter in a relationship with him in the first place if you think he sucks that much.

And it seems like you're becoming too cocky. I'm certain you're hardly a 10. Of course it's very good that you've burned your tires down but you should do it way earlier, like.. before meeting now your ex.

Desperation first and arrogance now. You have serious issues, but it's not about the rolls of fat.

Having such mindset will make it impossible for you to maintain a stable, happy relationship.

justjumpit4 · Answer

That's a pretty shallow and low way to go about it. Why did you get with him in the first place if he was that "repulsive"?

He was with you when you weren't at the top of your game, and now this?

I don't know, you've gotten into a bit of a tricky situation here.

cendrillion · Answer

u sound like a terrible person. you should only be with someone because you love them for who they are, if you don't then you shouldn't be with them in the first place.

I don't care how much weight you have lost or how pretty you might be now.

your ugly personality and terrible morals will definitely get you what you really deserve.

Im just sorry your boyfriend wasted his time and emotions on a heartless self absorbed person like you.

lala-193 · Answer

wow you come of as shallow as hell, there is no way to dump him nicely unless you lie becuase your reasons for leaving him sound hella bitchy. I mean I get that you were never attracted him, but you think you would at least give him some brownie points for loving you when no one else would. just try not to totally chrush him he sounds like a nice guy.

Anonymous · Answer

WOOOOOOW you sound like an enormous bitch. I don't care how you do it, but please dump this guy. He sounds like a way better person than you.

Anonymous · Answer

erm, this is disturbing. you were always a nasty person but you were fat, now that you lost the weight you are a "hot" bitch. I wonder how you hid your nastiness from your boyfriend for so long? hell who knows maybe he was with you out of desperation too?

Anonymous · Answer

There's no way to tell him nicely.

And you don't seem like a very nice person anyway, so why bother trying to tell him nicely?

Let him know what sort of a bitch you are. Maybe he won't be so depressed when you're gone then.

G_GTom · Answer

I don't know if there's an easy way to say something like this, but the sooner you do this, the better. He needs to be allowed to find someone that cares for him. That person is not you.

Just don't seek him out when you gain the weight back.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would you want to tell him nicely since you clearly have no concern for him anyway?  He could do much better than you.  I'd advise you to show him that.

malekoniky · Answer

There is no easy way. Just tell him. Please don't hurt him more than necessary! And please find somebody who you love next time not just somebody that is your level!

rsweet · Answer

you really sound like the biggest bitch.. I'm sorry, OK not really. but you really need to not be so high on your self ..

Betwyn · Answer

Just tell him that the road of life has taken you this far together, but now your paths diverge.. here is the curb, time to get out...

AskChloe · Answer

Just tell him that "it's over" their really is no point in being in a relatonship with someone that you never loved in the first place.

TedStar · Answer

Usually I say just tell him the truth, but this just may be an exception. just.

heatherlu · Answer

Just tell him that it's not working out, and be done with it. He'll be better off without you.

arashmenalagha · Answer

Just say I don't want to be in a relationship with you. Good for you that you lost all that weight.

Anonymous · Answer

smh...thats effed up and you sound a bit cocky.. sorry! let me rephrase that VERY cocky! js i don't feel bad for you I feel bad for your boyfriend that you don't desserve!

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