I have Trichotillomania, how do I tell my mother?

[Randomgal16]

She knew about it when I was younger but didn't really do anything about it other than tell me off for doing it and came up with some really bad suggestions about how to stop me from pulling my hair. At my young age I didn't really know what it was but ever since it got bad again I have looked it up and found it is an actual condition; my mum is oblivious that I still do it even now - she has however asked if I do or if she sees something about it on television which is rare, she would say that I 'used to do something like that but don't do it any more' which makes me feel bad for not telling her. Even if I show her the condition on the net she will still get mad at me and won't get the help I need, that's her normal personality any way but I could be wrong about the way she would react. I really do need help about this but I don't think I can get any without telling my mum first but even if I do she may not get me professional help. What should I do?

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Also, is there away for me to seek help without telling my mum straight away because I think that would be the most ideal.

[MoskauMoskau]

Tell your doctor at your next checkup. If you don't have one for a while, go to your school to the coach/office/sports department and ask about the physical forms for participating in spring sports. Tell your mom you need a physical.

Alternately, pretend you're getting bad headaches or some random ailment that can't be medically confirmed and ask to go to the doctor. You've got excellent chances of her believing you're actually sick if you do this on a Saturday and not a Monday.

[Randomgal16]

True, but she likes to come to the doctor with me; I suppose that's fine to, it's one way of her finding out that it is a condition and in the presence of a professional.

[MoskauMoskau]

The doctor should give you a period of time when your mom isn't in the room to speak candidly with him. There's also doctor/patient confidentiality.

[vinny]

ok if your mum doesn't believe you when you think this is serious... then you have to seek other adult advice.. or even better if you can. .speak directly with your doctor.. and ask to get checked up.. don't just let it pass by because your mum won't listen to you.. that's her problem.. but you shouldnt have to even possibly suffer because of it.

[Randomgal16]

Thank you for the advice, I just need to try and get to see a doctor now D:

I'll find away, pretend to be ill and go but she is rather reluctant in letting me go to see doctors, she has issues of her own... -_-'

[vinny]

Ohh.. hahah -__-.. doesn't everyone

[Cool-Relax]

Is there a school psychologist/social worker at your school? Even the nurse should be able to help you. Schools usually offer several ways for students to get help without going through parents first.

[regular-guy]

You probably already know more about your disorder than most people do, but it is psychological in origin and can be treated with appropriate counseling and sometimes with appropriate medication.

Moskau has some good advice. Find a way, any way, to get in and see a psychologist, psychiatrist, physician, or other individual sufficiently trained in counselling and/or health care that will keep your confidentiality. They may be able to help you break it to your parents as well.