Is it bad to settle on getting an MRS degree?

[peace-love-couture]

I feel bad for admitting this, but I already decided what I'm double majoring in and they're both basically bullcrap(not really, but still). I go to a private Uni and in general most people here have really good connections as does the school, particularly in business. My major isn't business or within the business school, but most guys come here for that or engineering

Anyways, basically, I've decided I'm just gonna hope to marry a wealthy guy from here. Not just any dude and not an old one, but I think I'm on the hunt for my MRS degree or a potential boyfriend who could one day grant me my MRS degree

I have a boyfriend now, and he's a typical wealthy fraternity man, but I'm not planning a wedding or anything. All I know is, I'm too lazy to work and just rather be a housewife and stay at home mother

I never thought I'd say that or admit that, but it's genuinely how I feel and my mother has no opposition to it despite the $60,000 tuition she's paying.

Do you think there's any way to instill work ethic in someone like me?

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Soo I know it sounds bad, but this is how I've come to feel. My mom was a stay at home mom with my sisters but not me. Of course, I've seen it in some parts of my family, on my moms side(she's Hispanic). I can't cook and hate cleaning, but I think I could master the art of cooking and cleaning. Maybe I just lack ambition in this point in life

[J_White90]

Look, I don't really have any problem with a woman wanting to be a stay at home mom. But only provided she is actually a functioning, important part of the household. Interestingly, women who actually DO get their MRS, never seem to end up that way. Rather, they end up sitting out by the pool all day doing nothing, while maids and nannies take care of the chores and the kids. Essentially, you have to ask yourself whether or not you like the idea of being compared to the "Real Houswives" In other words, do you think you can live with yourself when you realize that you would have NOTHING to do with how you would be living? Can accept the fact that if people say that YOU haven't accomplished jack sh*t in your adult life, that it would very likely be absolutely true?

Personally, I think you're just being a lazy POS who's hit a few snags in the career path you had in mind when you first started college (i.e. something that happens to damn near EVERYONE), and now wants to take the easiest path to instant gratification. You wanna know how to instill work ethic in yourself? You suck it up and keep taking the lumps and bumps with the knowledge that, eventually, it will all pay off.

[peace-love-couture]

I'd say achieving my goals of getting an MRS degree and being a good wife and mother is accomplishing something. Believe it or not, I DO want children and I DO want to be a good partner and mother, regardless of whether I stay at home or not. Children are something I genuinely want. I don't want them now, but I do want children.

And it's unlikely that I'd marry a poor person, because I don't come from a poor family and rarely associate with poor people...but I'm stating it verbally now

[J_White90]

Getting an MRS degree ISN'T an accomplishment. It's taking advantage of the fact you were born an attractive person and using that fact ALONE to parlay a good lot in life. In other words, a trophy wife who simply happens to be of similar age to your husband. And guess what? EVERYONE who wants to get married and have children has those same goals. So it doesn't necessarily make you a particularly outstanding person if you meet them. It just means you haven't completely f*cked up in life...

[peace-love-couture]

I never said it makes me an outstanding person...but there's millions of people who flip burgers and fries, teach students, etc, and that doesn't make them outstanding

But ok..it doesn't change my goals

[J_White90]

Did you seriously just compare being a teacher, a job which requires a bachelor's degree and which can potentially influence kids lives, to a job which consists mainly of 14, 15, and 16 year olds trying to put something on a resume? O.O

[peace-love-couture]

No

But it's obvious you can't comprehend what I said

I said none of that makes a person outstanding, because there's a million other special snowflakes who do the same damn thing, some better than others, some sh*ttier than others

I never said I wanted to be an outstanding person and most people aren't outstanding individuals. A label doesn't make one respectable or special. Being in the military doesn't automatically mean you deserve respect or that you're an honorable individual

[J_White90]

Lol of course I couldn't comprehend it. The way you phrased that sentence made it come nowhere close to what you were actually trying to convey (which I DID comprehend). I just wanna ask you something, though. If you aren't trying to be an outstanding person (maybe accomplished person is a better way to phrase it), why did you even ask how you could instill work ethic in yourself in the first place? Because you don't need a work ethic if you're just gonna be a housewife with an MRS...

[peace-love-couture]

because I'm curious if it is possible

it doesn't mean I'm trying to, because I know work isn't for me, just curious

[Anonymous]

I think its hard to instill work ethic in someone like you because you never had to see the value of money growing up. You were silver spooned all your life rather then having to work for anything. Granted there is nothing to feel guilty about coming from a rich family but you are selfish to not take advantage of the opportunity others would kill for. You won't be motivated till you realize the reality of life means things don't come easy and you can't always be spoilt and get what you want.

It was horrible reading that and good luck to the rich guy you end up with if it lasts... But if it doesn't then you're screwed. Or mommy can bail you out when things go wrong. Think of the bigger picture if you can since I couldn't imagine you would cope with little money. Realise how lucky you are to have what you have and you're mum is paying for you to make something if you're self

[peace-love-couture]

I know I'm lucky and I'm thankful for that

[LuvBiddy]

I felt lost in college, and a few years out I feel so lonely that I really want an MRS degree.

Fact is, you may or may not meet someone who wants to put that ring on your finger, and even if you get engaged, you may learn something about him that would make you want to break it off.

Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you agreed to go to college, you must have some kind of work ethic that would help you keep a job. Keep searching for your true passion. The thing that gets anyone through life is some kind of work that they feel proud of.

Once you get a full-time job of any kind, even if you don't like the field, you will realize how great it is for your self-esteem, and you won't want just an MRS anymore.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Go and get your Mrs degree. There is a man looking for his Mrs who wants what you want. Not every guy wants a career woman. I would suggest that you don't pin All your hopes on the Mrs degree and get your own just in case anything happens, but when you find him #score!

I love how people are acting like stay at home moms are lazy.that's hard work.

[peace-love-couture]

People here are very against the wealthy or a woman deciding anything but abortion for herself. One second it's feminazi town then next it isn't. Hey, I'm not hurting anyone and I never said I'd marry just for money, but I'd like the guy to have money or a career to support us both.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I know! First feminism was bad but now staying home as a wife and mom makes you lazy lol.can these people pick one? I guess its the money thing.you were supposed to say you don't care about money,u two could live under a bridge as long as he treated you right lol

[AnonGuy23]

To answer your question, yes, there is a way to instill a work ethic in you. You can get your MRS degree but I can tell you from experience (mom/my life) that it isn't a good lifestyle. Being a housewife is boring as SH*T. I mean, if you don't need much intellectual stimulation, don't mind pleasing the hubby when he wants, etc then it may be for you. Imagine being cooped up in a suburban home for the rest of your life. Sure you may go on cool trips for two weeks but you'd be miserable the other FIFTY. Rinse and repeat. Repetition. Schedule. Vanilla.

It's avoiding this lifestyle at all costs that gives you work ethic. If you choose that life, god speed.

[Misty_04]

Do what you want. Personally I feel like that is a ridiculous amount of money to waste, money that someone else worked hard to make. You didn't. Sounds like bullsh*t to me.

[Misty_04]

The reason is simply because you're lazy, you didn't have to work three jobs to pay for your degrees. It was just handed to you, like it probably have been your whole life. No one can motivate you, if you want to waste money go ahead. I find it ridiculous, someone else with the motivation deserves your place.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm not going to feel bad over the fact that I'm fortunate enough to have parents to pay for my tuition. That wasn't really a topic of discussion, because if I didn't deserve to be in school, I wouldn't have been accepted. And my majors are something I'm genuinely interested in, but it'd be hard to actually get a a job or career rather. I'm not wasting my moms money in school, cause whether she pays for it or not, she wouldn't pay for someone elses.

[Misty_04]

You are wasting it. Based on the fact that you don't wish to do anything with it besides score a husband. Therefore the money is essentially wasted. I don't think you should feel bad for coming from a well off family, but I do think it is blatantly obvious that that factor has contributed to your lack of motivation.

[RedSmartie]

If you go to a university like that, a guy will expect a girl from there to be success driven. If you want to marry a guy and just be a housewife, you have to let him know that before you marry him. I know I'd be pissed if I married a guy just to figure out he wanted to be a house husband. You owe the guy that you marry an explanation as to why you expect him to support you completely.

[peace-love-couture]

Mmm, most of them don't expect that because most don't come from households like that...my boyfriend for instance, his mom was a stay at home mother and wife. Most of his fraternity brothers come from that same type of background. I think it's just assumed that's the situation depending on who you hang out with

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with it, just that there's less guys than ever that want to settle down and get married. Marriage is usually a very risky move for a wealth man.

[peace-love-couture]

I don't need a wedding, but I'd like some form of documentation and symbol that we're a steady couple.

I wouldn't mind a prenup if he wanted...the most important thing I'd want addressed in a prenup is the children and how exactly we'd share custody, when and where and our behavior during the divorce, but if $$$ is what he wants in the prenup, fine

[Opinion Owner]

Prenups are regularly thrown out in court, usually by judges that say wives were forced under duress to sign them. I admire a woman who wants to get married, just pointing out the huge risk for guys. I suggest you polish up your cooking and domestic skills if you want to become mommy material.

[peace-love-couture]

oh...well I just want some type of agreement that protects the kids, because having 2 parents who bad one another is sh*tty(as I'd know from experience).

But I guess. But I think as long as I marry a white guy, I'm fine. It's not like marrying a Hispanic or Asian dude...they're used to authentic home cooking

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously, learn to cook. I'm a reasonably well to do white guy and if I ever get married, the wifey needs to know how to cook. It isn't that hard. If you put your mind to it, you can learn in a few months with regular practice.

[peace-love-couture]

hamburger helper does not count as cooking. According to the commercials, the other half assed food like hotdogs and peas, does not either. butttt as long as I'm not forced in the kitchen, barefoot and preggers flipping tortillas and making caldo, menudo and mole every single day of my life I'm good

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't take long to chop up fresh veggies and make a healthy meal. I would want my wife, kids and myself to eat healthy.

[peace-love-couture]

In theory, that's nice...but I don't count random meals with some veggies thrown in as dinner.

[Opinion Owner]

Learn the basics. Some nights you won't have time, some you will. As long as it is healthy either way, it doesn't always have to be gourmet.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm Hispanic...we like homemade

Plus, I'll be a stay at home wife, time won't be a concern for me ;)

What else am I gonna do lol

[Opinion Owner]

Wear sexy maid outfits? That would be a requirement for my wife.

[peace-love-couture]

i'm sure she'll have fun with that

[Opinion Owner]

Good deal.

[Prof_Don]

Well...the feminists of the world would probably hate your guts. :-P

Are you having problems finding a course of study that you like? Once you find a course of study that you actually like, you'll care a lot more about the coursework.

I promise! :-D

[aMuse]

lol *smh* good luck with that, don't hold your breath though.

[Anonymous]

Its funny, but I feel the same exact way, I have two degrees but can't get a job in my field and am soready to get my MRS degree.

[Heretic]

Don't feel so bad, it's the oldest profession in the world. Countless women have gone down the same road before you, and countless more will afterward. If some fool is willing to pay your way through life, fair enough.

[Heretic]

"Life offers the human being two choices: animal existence - a lower order of life - and

spiritual existence. In general, a woman will choose the former and opt for physical

well-being, a place to breed, and an opportunity to indulge unhindered in her

breeding habits."

[Heretic]

"Why do women not make use of their intellectual potential? For the simple reason

that they do not need to. It is not essential for their survival. Theoretically it is

possible for a beautiful woman to have less intelligence than a chimpanzee and still

be considered an acceptable member of society."

[Heretic]

By the age of twelve at the latest, most women have decided to become prostitutes.

Or, to put it another way they have planned a future for themselves which consists of

choosing a man and letting him do all the work. In return for his support, they are

prepared to let him make use of their vagina at certain given intervals. The minute a

woman has made this

decision she ceases to develop her mind."

[Heretic]

Watch "flawed male desire leads to traditional parasitism" on YouTube. It's relevant to this question & the guy makes good arguments.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Well given your background, I'm not really surprised. You live how you wanna I suppose. So maybe someday you will feel like getting off of your ass & want to work.

[fefe884]

what do you mean by "given your background"? That's very rude

[Xx_DRE_xX]

IDGAF, she knows imma tell it like I see it.

[CasaNorba]

i say its a perfect idea... just don't change your mind half way

[Anonymous]

Not exactly an attractive feature