Regardless of your weight, there will always be someone who finds you beautiful and who will want to date you. I think it's wonderful that you'd decided to lose weight and work towards a healthier lifestyle, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you have to put the rest of your life on hold. Sure, people can be mean and bring out your insecurities, but sadly, that happens regardless of whether you're big or small, smart or dumb. I think you should go for it, and date when the opportunity arises. Enjoy the new experiences, and learn to take the bad with the good. Remember that you won't always be the big girl -- don't get stuck in that mindset. Be proud of who you are on the inside. It takes a lot of strength to admit that something needs to change, and the fact that you're actively pursuing that goal is admirable. Any decent guy will recognize that, and while they won't all find you attractive, the same will be the case regardless of your weight. So do what you need to do for you, but don't let that stand in the way of your relationships with other people. There will always be obstacles, but there will always be a silver lining. :) Good luck! Have fun!
Hi, glad to hear that you're taking a step towards being healthier. Don't be ashamed. I would say, to wait and focus on losing the weight, and then start dating, but obviously if you meet someone, you don't neccesarily have to pass up the opportunity. Maybe you could meet someone also trying to lose weight? Then you could be supportive of each other, go for walks together etc. Personally I would wait, just because I think its better to date and get into a relationship when you are truly happy with yourself, its hard to be happy with anyone if you're not happy with yourself.
Gotta be brutally honest sorry. You are right, very sadly... There are a lot of people out there who are looking to find the slimmest best looking girl and nothing will sway their mind. However, there are definitely some guys out there who see beyond physical appearance and don't judge based on looks. Those are the right kind of guys out there and you are bound to find one on your journey.
Losing weight is a huge step and you should be very proud of yourself that you have the courage to admit and take that to action! 300 pounds might seem like a lot, but one day at a time and I'm sure you can make your goal and you know what? that might be less than 2 years as well! Be motivated and you can do anything. Don't let your physical appearance let you down, live life to the fullest. Don't be embarrassed, because those other guys and girls should be jealous that you took the time to better your life without looking at the negatives. People like you should exist in a part of everyone's personality. Be proud. Be very proud. Someone out there will see your potential on the inside too.
If you're still insecure about your body, getting into a weight-loss program is just what you're looking for.
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I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. If your weight is making you insecure, then perhaps you should wait until you gain more confidence. Otherwise, I think it's fine to keep an eye out for romance while you lose the weight. There are plenty of people out there who won't be put off by the extra weight and will even respect you for having the courage and discipline to try to lose it. Going after what you want is sexy.
I think starfishh's idea about dating someone who's also trying to lose weight is an excellent idea.
Or, focus on losing some weight and feeling better about yourself before entering the dating scene is a good idea, too. You wouldn't necessarily have to wait until you lost ALL the weight. So that wouldn't necessarily mean that you'd have to wait 2 full years.
I'm sure you can find someone who appreciates who you are RIGHT NOW.
All you have is right now.Tomorrow is not promised to you,so live for TODAY.
geez girl don't let your weight hold you down or deny you happiness.. so unleash yourself and date somebody.
You could take a risk and start dating now but I doubt you will be very successful. Probably a safer bet to wait till you've broken the 200 lb mark.
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