Afraid that if I gain back weight then I'll lose my boyfriend

[Anonymous]

I've really been trying to lose weight, but I have PCOS which makes it really hard to lose any weight, but extremely easy to gain. I've lost about 20lbs which really isn't much because I still weight about 275lb. I've still got about another 90-100lbs to go. I recently started dating this guy I've known for almost three years. He's so amazing and treats me amazing and he really loves me and I love him too. He has liked me since we pretty much met so he did like me at my heaviest. He always tells me how beautiful and gorgeous he thinks I am, but I just can't accept that he likes me so much because when I look in the mirror all I see is fat and ugly. I'm always just so worried that if I gain any weight back he will leave me even though he liked me even when I was heavier. How can I work on my confidence? How can I accept that he actually does think I'm attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm in the similar situation as yours.

my case is not about weight, but I'm so insecure about my look compare to my boyfriend's, and plus, I'm not a native speaker and every time I talk to him, it bothers me to hell that we have language barrier.

I know he loves me cares me, but I don't understand why would he see me since he can get hot beautiful girls better than myself.

so I definitely feel you here.

and the answer is, there's nothing you need to worry about. he loves the way you look. he liked you at your heaviest, means he just loves the way you are.

not all guys like skinny girls. guys have different tastes and to him, you are the beautiful one.

you know he likes you and treats you amazing. you sound like you are confident about that and that's what's important.

thinking this way like I'm asking you advice for my insecurity in my relationship.

my boyfriend's good looking successful guy, and compare to him, I even have difficulty communicate with him sometimes, I think I'm not pretty enough for him, so it's hard for me to accept that he actually does think I'm attractive and care me. what would you say to me?

people are beautiful in their own ways. there's nothing to worry about, be confident about yourself.

he should be happy dating someone like you treating him amazing. don't spend your time worry and think too much, spend those time thinking how you gnna make him fall in love with you more. like how to care him more and show him you are the one he cannot live without.

lol I sound so cheesy but really stop worrying!

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation and the guy did dump me when I gained weight back. It gave me motivation to get to a healthy weight, it has stayed off this time I am now with a guy who really loves me. I hope it works out for you

[Pedantic]

Take it from a guy - he loves you.

Now, stop losing weight because you think you'll lose him.

Instead, lose weight because you love him and want to look pretty for him, because you love yourself, and because its healthy.

Do not let your life be ruled by fear. Walk in love, lose weight in love.

[Anonymous]

work on your personality and interests. focus less on what you look like and how to make yourself more interesting