How do you make a grown man grow up?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a 26 year old.. we've been together awhile, but he "depends" on me to do simple things for him. This man doesn't hardly clean his own place, or furnish it, which isn't really the deal. What bugs me is that when he knows I'm coming over, he will ask me to bring drinks, food, or even TOILET PAPER so that he doesn't have to go get any. Now he will go to McDonald's to get his special coffee, and he will go to a gas station to get drinks for a little while, but he won't get things like food to keep or toilet paper? How can I try and adjust this or talk to him about it without seeming like a bitch? I'm tired of having to bring things from my place to his that he should already have...

[Tacoma]

Tell him to get off his ass and do something. if he knows this might affect him getting laid he will do something about it. (As for toilet paper who doesn't keep stock on that at 26 years old?) bottom line tell him to man up and start taking care of him self.

[Asker]

He's a rare breed that you can't pin sex on. He's so stubborn, he'll just be like "fine" about it. I am the more sexually dependent between the two of us.. he doesn't seem to "need" it.

[Tacoma]

Ok but still just tell him he needs to grow up.

[Thatfijikidd]

Dump him it's only gonna get worse in the future if you don't put an end to it. You're gonna end up being his maid/mother if this persists. So unless you end it and tell him to get his sh*t together; Dump him.

[Anonymous]

you can, he has to grow up himself, you can't change him

[xzinax2]

stop doing it. he's not 5 and you're not his mother.

[Asker]

But I need those things when I visit! I don't want to do without, but I don't want to be a source for him to just not do anything.

[xzinax2]

endure for a while so you don't have to serve him for the rest of your relationship

[Asker]

We've been together over 2 years.. is it too late for that?

[xzinax2]

it's better to set the rules now than go with it for the next 2

[Asker]

You're right. Thank you!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You don't make people do anything that they don't want to do. You enable him to be a big baby by doing simple tasks for him. You are wasting your prime dating life sticking around with a guy who doesn't share the same goals as you.

[kheserthorpe]

Stop doing it.

[Anonymous]

Stop enabling him.