Is this sincere or a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I know this girl is playing hard to get with me to see if I actually care. She is attracted to me but everyone tells her I want to get into her pants but she tells them she thinks I'm sincere about my feelings. I really do care for her but its hard for me to express it.

She always tries flirting with guys to see my reaction, if I actually care and stuff.

Is this a turn off? - I had a bad day at work and was exhausted so I wasn't in a good mood to begin with - Some guy tried flirting like crazy with her and I looked and him and got upset and ducked my head lol while walking away. I accidently exposed myself how I was feeling at that time, I am usually very good at hiding it. Felt like a sissy. She looked at me and her eyes dilated and she started stroking the strands of her hair? Another guy tried flirting and I acted like a sissy once again, I always hide it and don't care but it was just pouring out for some reason? You could tell I was extremely uncomfortable. Her eyes were extremely dilated the second time, she was looking at me, and she started running her hands through her hair slowly?



I don't know if my behavior here was a turn off or sincere? I normally walk with a don't give a f*** attitude but this time I exposed how I was feeling about her.

When she saw my reaction she stroked her hair very slowly and her eyes sparkled and dilated, I just have never seen this before. Does she think I'm weak or sincere?

[Newgirl1979]

I think you're over analysing. It sounds as though she is enjoying the fact you are following her round like a lost puppy - back off a bit, talk to other girls and just smile and be pleasant and polite when you see her like you would with any friend. If she likes you then she will make more effort but you don't want her attention because of pity because she won't respect you. Just try easing off and see what happens

[Stacyzee]

No, if you didn't have emotions then you would not be human.

I am sure she wants to date a human.

She probably finds it shocking that you actually showed them for once,

It probably made her feel good knowing that you care.

How about you two stops the games and cut to the chase?

Ask her out on a date.

[jonnyv]

This is the first time I ever showed emotions like this so I wasn't sure. I just hope she doesn't think I'm weak lol. All my friends tell me to act like you don't care but this time I couldnt.

[Stacyzee]

Well, showing emotions isn't such a bad thing now is it ? ;) you're human ! Nothing wrong with that. Just don't have her wrap you around her finger. Ask her out for a date. If she says no and continues "playing hard to get" then stop the game. Because there is a difference between doing that and showing no interest at all.

[Anonymous]

well its normal, its sincere as you said.