I think this guy is awesome just because he does not use Facebook. You are five years older than him...no big deal. He is an adult obviously so no problem there. He probably likes you like you like him, but sometimes guys can very often be intimidated with dating or making the first move with an older woman. I remember when I was about 18 I was crazy about this girl a few years older, but was intimidated because I felt she had more experience with dating, sex, etc. I know guys think like this. Plus since your his boss he may be slightly concerned if you ask him out on a date you will say no. I also remember when I was 25 I was crazy about this 18 year old who worked with me. She had a boyfriend but we were crazy about each other. When they eventually broke up we dated awhile and had the most amazing sex.
I guess my advice since you are his boss and are older you should either give him your number and say call or text me or get his number and call/text him or ask him to hang out outside of work and he will get the idea-just the 2 of you. I would say you should be the more aggressive one here and the pursuer. For all he knows you just see him as a working buddy and friend. Some guys, especially that age, are clueless and insecure no matter how good looking he may be.
Don't mind working together and gossip, etc. If you guys do hook up and start dating and don't want co workers to know just ask him to keep it on the DL. But ya you gotta live your life and if you like him and there is chemistry go for it. Plus at his age he is at his sexual peak and can probably rock your world plus you can teach him some tricks yourself that he can include in his repertoire. Good luck.
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It's not about age, it's about maturity. Why do guys usually date girls younger than them, and girls date guys older? Maturity? Women mature faster, and thus need an older, more experienced man. Men mature slower, and need to date someone more their speed.
If, however, this guy is mature enough, and experienced enough with life, then there's no reason you can't pursue it. Heck here in Canada 18 is the legal age. Some places it's even lower. So not being able to get into a bar shouldn't be a concern of yours (except when you want to go to a bar with him of course).
Well that is except for the fact that your his boss. Is the job a life long career for you? Are you not allowed to have relationships in the office? Do you feel it may affect the way your work? What happens if the relationship ends and things get awkward, or sour? These are questions you need to ask yourself before knowing if you should pursue it.
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This is twisted, however dating/banging your temp is not professional. If you really like this guy follow your heart, ask him out for a quick cup of coffee, nothing crazy. While you doing that, ask questions learn about him and let him learn about you- have a good time. If you feel he enjoyed himself let him pursue you! If a guy likes you he let you know some kind of a a way and pursue or not if shy or stranded (like this twisted situation), I find it weird that the women be the pursuer instead of the guy. Don't get me wrong its okay to pursue sometimes, no matter the sex, but it is in a mans nature to pursue - he probably isn't tho because Lol he could probably be thinking the same thing your thinking and asking the same question on this forum in anonymity like you lmao. But offering for coffee is a big step, that's shows him you are okay with it.
Love > Work. give him an opportunity, *make a phone call* lol - man! 'he doesn't texts / Facebooks - can't think of another way!' lol. make a date, see how he baits. if he's into what you're offering it's not crossing a line. he probably isn't too career minded at 19.
Good Luck / Have Fun.Don't f*** anyone at work, especially not if they are under 21 and you are their supervisor. Unless you want to look for a new job soon and potentially face some legal trouble. Stay away! Or quit and then date him.
if your his boss then keep personal life & business separate, you may think it can work he may to but in the long run it will alway & I mean always come back to bite you in the ass in one way or another
I once dated a girl from work, I risked it and it worked out. Maybe he can get a promotion...
How much do you like your job?
It could become awkward... and you are his boss
So really it depends... xoMid 20s is pretty much the perfect age for women and men of any age are attracted to them. He probably likes you if he spends a lot of time with you. I'd say go for it if you're really interested. He definitely won't say no because of your age.
I'd say he just like you as a work friend. Plus, being 19, he is very young. Give him a few more years to let him play the field a little more before you make any move.
Go for it. I'm a younger guy around his age(20) and I like older girls from 23-25 probably even more than I like younger girls closer to my age.
Either drop really obvious hints or just flat out tell him.You just have to wait for the right time. Let the dude make the first step, some men thinks if the women are the first to take the step it will lead to a clingy relationship(he will think that you are clingy).
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