Obsessing over beauty? It's the most important thing to me?

[Anonymous]

Obsessing over beauty? It's the most important thing to me?

When I was little I was never a pretty good, after high school I lost a lot of weight and got a nose job. I get a lot of male attention and people in general are more nice to me. I'm extremely obsessed with beauty now . I'm still working on losing more weight. My goal weight is 110-120 pounds. I'm 132 standing at 5 foot 4.

My friend is also like me and obsessed with beauty and told me if I got there I would have a even nicer bone structure. Things like bone structure, is extremely important to me. I need to get my eyebrows done, tan, take care of my hair and everything else

I'm having a hard time losing weight right now and it's bothering me. My looks are constantly on my mind. I want to stop obsessing but I can't. I'm striving for perfection

[Anonymous]

I can't really relate. I'm just fat and happy. lol But I guess if it was as bad as people not being nice to you before, then I guess its worth it?

It seems like you'll never be completely happy with the way you look though, and it also seems like the problem isn't so much an obsession with your looks, as it is a projection of some internal problem, inadequacy or insecurity.

I mean I think doing your eyebrows, taking care of your hair - these are relatively normal things. Your situation sounds more stressful and severe, but I'm just noting that. I do my makeup, eyebrows, and take care of my hair, but I'm not stressed or worried. And I love my face way too much to get plastic surgery. However, weight loss is hard so props on that, I guess...

But on the flip side, do what makes you happy. Its just important to realize when something isn't making you happy. If you're constantly doing something and nothing seems enough, you're still not good enough, you're still not happy, you feel more like you're obsessing over something instead of just enjoying life daily and doing things you like doing, then you need to step back and evaluate yourself and consider what the real problem is. It sounds like you had a tough time growing up and now you seek validation through others approval of you, male attention and admiration from society in general. You may have self esteem problems as well?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

There are more things in life than your looks. Try getting a hobby, serving others less fortunate and pursuing higher education. You might need to start challenging yourself

[cavmanier]

That sounds really stressful and unfulfilling. I love beauty, but there are so many other things in life to focus on. That's just my perspective. I realize beauty is a big deal in our culture. I don't think perfection is obtainable or realistic. I feel like average girls have a lot of beauty in their own ways, but I don't know if many other guys feel that way. I've seen certain guys nit pick little imperfections on a girl that I didn't notice. What's the advantage of being beautiful? Admiration and more guys want to sleep with you? I would think anyone can find a partner that compliments and loves them regardless of their beauty. Prettier people just get more options.

[Anonymous]

Well I for one like beautiful girls more than anything, However don't take things to the extremes where are you enlarge your lips 10 times their size and get Botox and plastic implants in your cheeks, Unless it would make you look awesome! But still it is never good to be obsessed over anything even beauty but a person like you should always do whatever they can to be as beautiful as possible on the inside and on the outside (:

[Anonymous]

obsession is when your life is consumed, and you are prevented from your daily activities, because of this fixation.

[Asker]

I think dropping out of college would consider me obsessed

[Opinion Owner]

yeah that's not good. maybe you should speak to someone.