Why do I always feel like crap at the end of the year?

[Whitechocolate1001]

Every year around this time I feel like crap nothing changes except I get older and my life stays the same boring and miserable. No matter how hard I try to change nothing works out. I try to stay positive but that never works its gonna be even worse in 2014 because I have to go to my cousins wedding he's younger, 10x better looking, and smart. While I'm the total opposite. Then there's my female cousin she's getting her drivers licences next year something I've never been able to get for personal reasons. I want to keep my mind clear and nothing thing about the things that I will never experience but I always do. I feel lost and hopeless.

[Anonymous]

Work on improving yourself with little steps at a time. Stay motivated, join a fitness group on MeetUp or something else there to meet like minded people with similar goals. Download the app Lift which helps you break down your larger goals into little steps to get there. Tell yourself you WILL accomplish your goals, not that you'll try. You have the power to make the changes in your life you want to see. The only thing holding yourself back is you, so just flood your life with positive encouragement. Best of luck!

[Whitechocolate1001]

I get what your saying but the only thing I can say I want to do is lose weight. I tried a few months ago only lasted about two weeks. I've given up trying getting a Girlfriend because I'm too ugly for one no matter how confident I am. Plus how can I stay with one when I don't know how to drive or have the money for a car?

[Opinion Owner]

Losing weight is a struggle- it's tough and it takes a lot of discipline and dedication. I highly recommend watching the documentary Hungry for Change. It really changed my perspective on healthy eating and such. You just have to find the plan that works best for you and stick to it! I guarantee that you will feel so much better about yourself and in general! You have to put it in your mind that being healthy, feeling good, and confidence are more important than giving up or that cheeseburger

[Opinion Owner]

As far as considering yourself "ugly," I'm sure someone finds you or will find you attractive. Plus, there is a lot more to a person than physical attractiveness, you just have to make up for it with personality while working on your physical appearance (exercise, healthy eating, good hygiene, good style, etc). You have to love yourself before someone can love you. For money- find a job or some legal way to make money. For a car, there's always public transport, bikes, etc.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Send me a Friend request & I'll prove it. I took the anonymous thing off my question. The only way a woman will ever find me attractive is when hell freeze over or when pigs fly whatever comes first. I collect disability I'm too slow/stupid for a job. What good is public transportation when the girl your dating wants you to have a car?

[Opinion Owner]

In the case of disability, maybe find other disabled people whom you can connect with and then you don't have to worry about what you're worrying about. Try online dating sites and MeetUps

[Whitechocolate1001]

Its hard finding someone else with a disability especially a female because I think/believe they hide it better. I've tried online dating most of the women on there want good looking successful guys. Plus on top of that they want smart guys.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure there are special sites for disabled people to connect with other disabled. Instead of making excuses for yourself, just find a way to meet people and make yourself the best you- mind over matter. With that, I don't think there is any more advice I can give you so best of luck!

[Whitechocolate1001]

Maybe there is I have no clue lol. And you've been more than helpful.

[MaskofInsanity]

Change won't happen on it's own. You need to make changes yourself. Do things differently. Take chances. Make sacrifices. These things aren't easy, but they're necessary. Challenge yourself and make your life how you want it to be. Stop making excuses.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Yeah because female is so hard. Get the hell out of here what sacrifices do females need to make? What makeup to put on?

[MaskofInsanity]

Sigh. With that attitude, what do you expect? It isn't a competition who has it tougher. Everyonoe has their own issues. Nevermind, I really did mean to be helpful/motivating but clearly that's not what you want.

[Whitechocolate1001]

I never said I wasn't thankful, I just hate it when girls act like they have it hard in life which to me is not true. Guys need to a certain height, weight, have a certain job, drive a certain car etc. All women have to worry about it what to wear and what purse and shoes to make with the outfit their wearing. I'm sorry but that's not having it hard. Try being a guy and not having any females look or talk to you. That's what I meant.

[MaskofInsanity]

So you think life is easy for unattractive, out of shape girls?Unintelligent girls? Girls have the same issues.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Yes because they still have it easier than unattractive out of shape guys and Unintelligent guys. Most guys don't care what the girl looks like as long as he gets sex and also why would a guy care how smart a girl is? Its the women who want doctors, and lawyers.

[MaskofInsanity]

"Most guys don't care what the girl looks like as long as he gets sex and also why would a guy care how smart a girl is?"

That is what women have to face. Men who care about nothing except that they have a working vagina.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Yeah don't blame me. Like women want a fat ugly stupid guy?

[MaskofInsanity]

Sigh. You're a very negative person. I don't think good things happen to negative people.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Why is it so hard to answer my question? That proves women are shallow.

[MaskofInsanity]

You feel like crap because you refuse to accept responsibility and make changes. You blame your problems on other people, and other people aren't going to make your situation better for you.

Good luck.

[MaskofInsanity]

Once again a self pitying man who refuses to be pro active.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Yeah like your life's so great? Ops I forget women don't have it hard.

[Anonymous]

Sto comparing yourself and just look at everything you did

[Whitechocolate1001]

I haven't done anything I can't get a job, a girlfriend, nothing.