Is my boyfriend being honest?

[Anonymous]

So, I love my boyfriend to death. He is so sweet, we've worked through a lot of fights and issues, everything from a deployment, arguments, and my depression. We trust each other and I would trust him with my life. However, there is only one topic that I have trouble believing him, and that is my weight... I am 5'4", 124lbs, with a short, muscular, "curvy" frame. I feel like I look overweight and should lose weight. He's always very sweet and says that he loves my body, he doesn't want me to lose weight. Guys, would you tell a girl if she actually could use a little weight loss?

[Jade4]

Ok I don't think anyone can give you an answer based on those dimensions because a lot depends on where the weight is and how much is muscle and bone compared to fat. I know big boned muscly women that weigh more than women who aren't fit at all and weigh less and the thinner girls don't always look better. Look at some of the curvy movie stars. But it sounds like you have an insight into your relationship and you feel like you're being lied to. I think you have two options. Either a) have a serious talk with your partner and let him know you feel bad because you know he's lying but that means you can only ask if you're seriously concerned and you can't be mad or hurt if he says yes, since you asked for honesty or b) accept he's trying to be nice and may genuinely not care. If you're still concerned seek some advice from someone who's not emotionally involved and can give you some medically based advice such as a dietician. Try and deal with facts and remove the emotion from it

[Anonymous]

Honey you are in your weight range for your height! Any smaller and you'd be a toothpick! You're fine and think your boyfriend likes you the way you are.

[deWho]

A guy that says his wife is fat is an ass. If his woman has an issue with her big nose and he loved her for who she was..then her nose is perfect. If the guy's woman points out daily her big nose, looks in the mirror and asks me about It daily, jokes about it, jealous of other women with smaller noses...then she is the ass.

Be proud of who you are and trust he likes your ass. But believe me...there something better than a wakeup blowjob...and that is a women that says "I am going join a gym and go 3-4 times a week for 6months" and ACTUALLY do it. Start walking...then light jogging. A woman that says she is going to get fit and sticks to it deserves all the love a man can give...and then some.

[Prof_Don]

A guy will mention that to his girl ONLY under two circumstances:

*he feels her health is in danger

*he is starting to lose physical attraction to her

Believe me... if he says he loves your body, he really does! Use his attraction to you as a boost to your self-confidence. :)

[Nerdvana]

You have a man who loves you and accepts you for how you are? Grow up. Do you know how lucky you are? But you are going to ruin it.

If I get thumbs down for my answer, I am OK with it.

[Asker]

Nah, thanks for the wakeup call.

[Anonymous]

Men and women are different, we see imperfections; they see beautiful. Try and see what he sees.