Okay, so I've been dating this guy for about 1 month+ now. I really like him. Anyway, he doesn't go to school anymore. (No, he didn't drop out.) And I still do. Every single day, my friend's parent picks us up from school and drops me off at home. But now my friend is playing a sport so after school I have about 2-3 hours to waste everyday. I see my BF coming to my school after school, and sometimes he hangs out with me, but other times he says that he's going to hang out with his friend. He told me one day that he wanted to hang out, but then he bumped into his friend and told me he was going to hang out with him instead. Another instance was when he said he wanted to hang out, but then when I finally got my plans going, he told me he was at a friends house. When we do hang out, it's great. I trust him and I know for sure he isn't cheating or anything. I just suspect he's losing interest. What do you think?
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Oh, and he never shows any other signs of losing interest. Just the ditching part.
He did, however, on Valentines day, tell his friend to go home because he wanted to hang out with me.
He did, however, on Valentines day, tell his friend to go home because he wanted to hang out with me.
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I agree that he probably needs some space. But at the same time, he shouldnt be ditching you for other people. If you guys talk about making plans, then it's rude for him to do something else, whether he's a husband, boyfriend, or just a friend. It's just common courtesy. Maybe just sit down with him, and without accusing him, or pointing the finger at him, just let him know how you feel. You don't want to be needy or clingy because people don't like that. Start off with something you really liked. Just like on Valentine's Day. Say, "Hey, I really appreciated that time we hung out on Valentine's Day. That was really cool and made me feel special. And I know that you love to hang out with your friends, and everything. But that one day that we said we were going to hang out, and you bumped into your friend and you hung out with them, kind of hurt me. And maybe I'm overreacting because we really didn't make solid plans, but I still kind of felt like I got ditched."
But don't come off as clingy, needy, or emotional. Also don't come off as you pushing him into the corner because then he will get defensive. The whole idea is just for you to let him know that getting ditched isn't your favorite thing.
He probably just needs his own space. He is focusing on his life and having fun and you should do the same. Don't always be thinking about him when he's not around. When you are not with him think about and do things that will make your life more fun and exciting.
Also, pay attention to what you really want in a relationship. If he ditches you more and more he probably isn't the type of guy you are looking for. The fact that he made it a point to spend time with you on V-Day shows that he does care for you. Everyone gets bored in relationships from time to time. So do something to excite yourself and everything else will fall into place.
He needs his own space.