I felt the same way when my boyfriend of then 4 months did that too.
To this day I'm not sure why he didn't, but I've brought it up before and he said he felt like an idiot and stupid for not doing anything.
Maybe he just didn't know what to do or get you.
Maybe he thought you didn't really care or want anything.
But I know if you've been dating for 7 months that he cares for you, and that's all that should matter.
I don't think you are being selfish, I would be feeling hurt as well. It's up to you if you decide to accept that he was broke and that he couldn't get you a present or a card. Maybe you should talk to him about it and tell him that you are hurt even a card would have done. He probably didn't mean to hurt you but he must have known that your birthday was coming up so he could have put a little money aside?
Yeah...How old is this guy? I would be saying what a douche bag. On the other hand if he is kinda young it could be that he just didn't think of just making you something small or doing something like what the other girls here said. So I would talk to him first and go from there.
If he was entirely broke than he could at least fixed you up a nice dinner, and maybe a full body massage. Did he at least do that? If not, he sounds like a cheapskate. Money should never be that much an issue, but EFFORT is another thing altogether.
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Yeah.. I am in the same situation right now with my boyfriend whom I've been with for 5 years now (mainly LDR).
I feel like someone , no matter how busy they are , they can still make some effort to prepare something that cost NOTHING or near that to make their special someone happy OR find some time to at least spend time with them on their birthday doing something that they (the birthday partner) enjoy.
For this year at least he is giving me the courtesy of warning me that there will be no gift because he is "broke" and that he will be busy on my birthday (7th day of his new work) ... I might be acting like a child here because who dictates the rule that he HAS to do anything for me on my birthday but honestly if a specific date means something to him I'd do my best to make him feel cared for and loved that day and that can be achieved with just a little bit of "care".
I honestly dont think its so much to ask for since I as a "broke" uni student with an unpaid internship and no side job am able to prepare something in advance for his birthday and he can't.
Crazy side note: Litterally the next day he says that he wants to buy a gift for my sister's birthday since his last birthday she tried to get him a gift (tried to stay positive by thinking that he prioritize making me proud in front of my family )
+ He announces to me that he got a freelance pay check that he is gonna use to pay all of his debt and use a big part of the rest on a gym subscription and he can still afford to go out try new activities with friends and family meanwhile Im sitting here with a sad credit card situation taking nothing for an excuse to bring some joy to his life.
I don't blame you at all. I would be hurt too. It's the thought that counts wether it's a picnic in the country, camping, watching stars, going on a hike...I know what you mean. I would express your feelings to him and let him know that even the smallest thing means the world.
Let see his reaction when you say you're broken on his b-day! JK. Well, he might be the type who doesn't give presents or don't expect presents from others on b-days? I dunno, one of my friends was like that. That's what she told me. But this is boyfriend thou, he should have done something for you on your b-day. Tell him that a card should be fine too. There are lots of cards that only cost $1. My gosh how broke can he be? He doesn't even have $1 to spend on you? HOW SAD!
I don't think your being selfish at all there are plenty of things that guys can do weather it being he makes you a card even to use the excuse that its because he is broke is probally just becase he really didn't care and was busy doing somthing else and he is just making exuses so he don't feel bad about it
I would be ticked to and I'm sure my girlfriend would pitch a fit if I did what he did. He could of got you something, or made you something. even if it looks like crap, its the effort that counts
Sounds like you need an older bloke, even if he was skint he should have made the effort with you, a romantic walk through the woods discussing your dreams, a back massage with a candle and your favourite movie or even make it up to you at Christmas with a surprise.. I don't know, there's a million things a guy can do if he has the brains and the balls, but doesn't have the cash.
I honestly don't blame you. This happened to me too recently. Of course I tried talking to him about it but all he says "aren't you kind of old to care about presents on your birthday." At least a card? I'm sorry Hon :( I'm sure you go all out for his birthday right? Cause I do that but I got shit.
I don't understand either. I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years. today' is my birthday and he barely even agnolaged with telling me happy birthday. He's not broke, but didn't get me anything. No card. Nothing. Hell his mom bought me the perfume I like and his boss even brought me a 12yr old bottle of my favorite whisky. Tons of facebook bday wishes. But not a single gesture from him. No kiss hug, or backrub. But he does act like I'm not supposed to be upset.
7 months and already he's bored / compliant / disinterested / apathetic?
I don't see this as a normal thing...
OMG that is not acceptable. Too broke to take you out for picnic or bring you even 1 flower? Im sorry but you are dating a loser.
If i were broke then i would do at least something that does not require too much money.
Don’t feel bad I didn’t even get so much as a card last year from ANYONE not from my friends or family all I got was two happy birthdays and that was it. And I don’t expect anything from anyone this year either
Yes, i think you should be angry. i spent a month in the hospital once and my girlfriend couldn;t even send me a get well card..
I would have been hurt. At least make a card and pick some flowers! It's the thought that counts!
Neither did my boyfriend and i confronted him and told him it really hurt. that worked for me, it made him realise he wasn't being a very good boyfriend and now he tries a lot harder. perhaps that'd work for you too.
join the club i never got anything from that asshole in 5 years not a card not a happy birthday nothing from that jerk no cake nothing even though every year i went out of my way to make her birthdays extra special
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years he didn't want to see me on my birthday when he did he made me cry all day he didn't even get me a card am so upset I have always made his birthday special :(
You mean your ex boyfriend?
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