Dark Skinned Girls

[xXiTacoXx]

I'm making this for dark skinned women of all races, not just for African American women because unfortunately dark skinned women of all races go through this. I've noticed a lot of younger dark skinned women especially teens have this unfortunate mindset that says light skin is the right skin because they see it in the media, and even hear it from their own families, and that they'll always be ugly because of their darker skin. I'm not making this to bash those of a lighter skin tones, but to help these darker skinned girls love their unique dark skintone.

Now, as a darker skinned woman you've probably heard/felt the following:

• You have masculine features.


• You're ugly because of your darker skintone.


• You're super ghetto and rude.


• You're mean with a stand off-ish attitude.


• That you shouldn't go out and enjoy the sun because you'd get darker.


• You have @#$% coloured skin.


• Guys will never like you.


• Light skinned girls are prettier.


• "You're pretty for a dark skinned girl."


• You're automatically jealous of light skinned girls.

Even though there's negative things felt and said about having dark skin there are benefits from it too. The following benefits are:

• You have more melanin in your skin which means less sun damage, and better protection.


• Skin Cancer is not a big a risk.


• Bright clothing makes you look fun, and lively because of the contrast with your skintone.


• You age better and look younger than what you really are.


• You don't have to worry about freckles.


• You have naturally warm, and glowing skin so there's no need to tan.


• You have a beautiful and more exotic look which makes you unique.


• Your skin looks way more beautiful when you're under the sun rather than out of it.


• Red and purple lipstick shades are your friend.


• No matter what eyeshadow colour your wear there's always a mystifying look when combined with your skintone.

And last, but not least...

• You're bomb not matter what stupid trends are in.

[Minxxie]

Love this take! My cousin is very dark skinned and she always says she wishes she was white like me, it's so sad because she's only 8 and she cries because she thinks she's ugly because of her skin but she's absolutely beautiful!!! She's got this cute little button of a nose and huge brown eyes she's going to be a knockout she literally looks like a doll! I remember when Lupita Nyong'o said she loved her skin on sesame street and I made my cousin watch it, she had little happy tears and couldn't stop smiling, we need more representation like that for little girls especially! 38.media.tumblr.com/.../...zkxx4S1sdwksno1_500.gif

[RedThread]

I saw a video relating to this that broke my damn heart.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkpUyB2xgTM

People say the media doesn't influence our perspectives but these children have clearly been influenced by our movies and television and our fashion magazines. It's so widespread and although it is slowly changing there is still this mentality that "white is right". We need to celebrate all skin tones because it's unacceptable that children think people are bad or less intelligent due to the color of their skin.

[DisastrousQu33n]

Omg my boyfriend told me about those experiments (cause I'm interested in psychology) and every time I think of it I don't even know how to react, it's so awful..

[RedThread]

@DisastrousQu33n this video definitely made me more sensitive to the issue. A lot of our beliefs and perspective of beauty is shaped by our society. I've had to do some debrainwashing myself.

[DisastrousQu33n]

How do you even fix something like this

[RedThread]

@DisastrousQu33n I'm not a sociology expert of anything.. I think we just need more positive reinforcement encouraging everyone to be confident in their own skin. We also need more diversity in hollywood and other forms of entertainment. We also need to stop pigeonholing people of color into stereotypical roles. Unfortunately it will most likely be a slow process until America and the rest of the western world becomes increasingly diverse.

[TupacShakur]

This is ridiculous. With kids this age, the racism is put into their heads, partly from parents, but also through the media. All little kid tv shows have the bad guy either dressed in black or just looking dark. This makes them think EVERYTHING dark is bad. They are scared of being in a dark room, scared of dark things in general. Most kids can never grow out if this unless they either have parents that can knock it out of them or they realize how ridiculous the whole concept of racism is. This is very rare though...

[TupacShakur]

Referring to the video, obviously

[Albinoninja66]

It's always the white man's fault

[ObscuredBeyond]

What turns me off in a dark-skinned girl is the same thing that would turn me off in any girl:

1. Disingenuous

2. Dishonest

3. Grudges last a lifetime, no matter how small the initial slight

4. Cannot lose gracefully.

5. Cannot win gracefully.

6. Insists in a dispute that I be isolated from anyone who would back me up, but does not apply the same standard of fairness to herself.

7. Speaks loudly and on Facebook about "feeling the love" and "showing the love," but rejects every offer I put forward and shows me none.

8. Won't take responsibility for any of her own screw-ups, but is quick to put words in my mouth or indict me at the drop of a hat for things I was never even around for.

9. Makes gross assumptions about my family history, then tries to use them against me.

10. No matter what my initial point is, if any of my words can be hijacked to make it about her pet issue, suddenly nothing about my original point matters. It has to be all about her. Even if it had nothing to do with her.

11. Pounces me like a wolf, then cries wolf to get herself out of trouble.

12. When I start connecting the dots on some news events and suggest there's a false-flag operation, she doesn't hesitate to use the R word to dismiss me. When I tell her the Trotskyite origins of that thinking, she's oblivious to what I'm talking about, and refuses to be educated.

13. I come alone, see her, say hi. She sends a posse after me to tell me that I'm "a problem."

14. Gives me some sort of bull about "the patriarchy," instead of just admitting that had she used more common sense and waited the 10 damn minutes I asked her to for me to back her up, instead of going somewhere dangerous on her own, she might not have been all alone when a bunch of creeps jumped her.

Any woman who behaves this way ends up on my to-avoid list. Regardless of shade of skin.

[alphadoggystyle]

I really dont see why dark skin women are so insecure about this, men are not nearly as judgmental about skin color as women are. If we see a hot girl then we know it regardless of skin color, and in media representation there are plenty of dark skin beauties representing you, recently a dark skinned indian American won miss universe, and in victoria secret you have plenty of dark skinned, African or otherwise models.

I very much doubt its common for the minority of guys who truly dislikes dark skin to openly voice it to such women. So this insecurity and inferiority complex of darkskin women mainly comes from the treatment they receive from other women, and maybe the media which puts white people on top (but this affects both men and women, and it shouldn't be surprising when white people dominate the western world)

If anything its dark skin men who should feel undervalued, since dark skin is associated with low status among males, and often associated with violent or criminal behavior. women are way more open about not wanting to date darker skinned men, and its very noticeable that dark skin men need to do a lot more to prove their value to get a chance at dating women compared to white men.

[xXiTacoXx]

Actually insecurities like that come from the insults men, women, and the media throw out there. People no matter what gender or race disliking dark skin isn't uncommon at all. Darker skinned men are also preferred more over darker skinned women. Men actually are more judgmental when it comes to skin colour than women are. Even though there was a dark skinned Indian Miss Universe it doesn't change the fact that darker skinned girls get more hate than anyone else when it comes to skin colour.

[alphadoggystyle]

This is simply not true, dark skin on men might be considered masculine, but i can guarantee that there are more women excluding dark skinned men than there are men excluding dark skinned women. dark skin alone is not a big deal, if some American white guy claims he doesn't find black women attractive that has more to do with the fact that he has probably never seen an attractive black woman, and it could be that a lot of the black women in his area are overweight or he isn't exposed to as many of them.

You have to remember, men are the initiators, so even if they like all skin colors they might prefer lighter skin without excluding dark skinned girls, but since he has limited time and he has to initiate, chances are he will initiate on his first choice. Women regardless of skin color can sit and wait for a guy to approach, and often if the guy is darkskinned he will get rejected outright, and if she gives him a chance he must often show more value than what is expected of a white guy

[xXiTacoXx]

Dude, even dark skinned dudes have better chances and would reject a darker skinned chick just because she is just as dark, or darker than he is.

[alphadoggystyle]

No, if the guy likes the girls facial features and her body, then her skintone makes little difference to her overall attractiveness. its more about facial features than skin color, at least for guys since we are purely visual and dont let media influence us much, we just know what we find attractive when we see it. Women are heavily influenced by the media, which is why the glorification of white people on TV affects womens self image more than mens, however since women are more easily influenced, this also makes them less attracted to dark skin males, even if they might find it physically attractive, they often avoid it because of stigma and percieved lower status.

[xXiTacoXx]

Actually that's the complete opposite from what I see. You'll even find entire youtube channels and shit dedicated to spitting and shitting on women just for being darker skinned. They've even invented skin bleaching creams in quite a few countries to help women be lighter.

[alphadoggystyle]

well thats called confirmation bias, you filter out evidence that contradicts your belief, but actively look for evidence that can support it. The reality is that on the internet you can find hate towards any group, some more than others but it doesn't truly reflect on how people would act in real life. skin bleaching has more to do very old cultural phenomenon as being associated with being working class. It might affect mens choices in countries with traditional values, but in progressive countries it doesn't have nearly the same effect. as i mentioned a guy who has only seen attractive white women, and gets this image reinforced by the white centered media might go online and say some shit like he doesn't find dark skin girls attractive, but that same guy if he went outside and saw a girl like keke palmer he would eat his own words. Some guys might not want to admit it due to cultural upbringing but the attraction is there unless he is gay.

[diarrhea]

Dark-skinned girls are as attractive as any other girl, and the only reason anyone feels otherwise is directly related to racism. If you find dark-skinned girls ugly, think hard about why, where that stigma comes from, and realize it's bullshit and totally racist.

[koko124]

... so having racial preferences is racist now?

I guess everyone in the world is racist. Might as well embrace it.

[Sam19XX]

Nah that is just stupid ok? I totally agree with @koko124 and the three other down voters bcz this is stupid af. There is something called "Preferences" . Just read about it. All the black girls that i have seen are ugly bcz of their skin color. Guess what? I am not a racist and i have black friends too ! I just dont like that skin color at all.

[xXiTacoXx]

@koko124 @Sam19XX No one said it's wrong to have a preference, but bashing someone who isn't your preference to promote your own is what's wrong.

[diarrhea]

@koko124 lol yes having racial preferences is racist you moron, it's literally what racism is. Not everyone has racial preferences, for example I don't, so you can't feel better about yourself by using that vapid argument. But yes, everyone in the world is racist, that's actually true; and no, embracing it is retarded.

@Sam19XX OK, but you just don't like that skin color because you're racist. That doesn't mean you hate black people, it means you're conditioned to think dark skin is unattractive. It's racism.

@xXiTacoXx No, I'm saying it's wrong to have a preference I think that was pretty clear. If someone has a racial preference they should think about why and realize that it's racist conditioning and try to rid themselves of it. It's wrong.

[koko124]

I'm curious to see what you have to say about girls who have racial preferences for guys.

[diarrhea]

@koko124 Why would it matter if it's a guy or a girl? It doesn't. There's racial prejudice towards men too, and of course girls can be as racist as any man can.

[Albinoninja66]

I'm a racist now

[Gojira]

Wow!!!' That girl in the first pic is drop dead gorgeous😍. And i think her skin color accentuates her other beautiful features and is one of the major factors of her attractiveness, if not the main factor. WOW.😯😯😯

All the other girls are beautiful too but #1 just struck me instantly as gorgeous.

Thank God I got off the Kool aid and woke up so I can see this beauty of melanin without filters or bias or negative pre-programming👍👍👍👍👍

Oh, and I'm totally on board in understanding your take and agree with it👍👍

[justmypov]

We love you back!!:)

[juststrollin]

I'm African American and the more I talk to people from different countriesat college, they all seem to know as much as I do about American beauty standards and media while i know nothing about there culture. It's kind of sad. Also, in Korea they get surgeries for more western features.. Hollywood's women of color and all of there nose jobs, I honestly reject the media now and its beauty standards it's stifling other cultures and shaming people or a large group of humans. I'm gonna be a d bag for this but lighter skin is a mutation due to environmental change (hence the burning in the sun, all living things need sun and dont "burn" from it.) as the first women and men were darker skinned Africans (The African skeleton... named Lucy? ok life.). But if people need to tell themselves dark is ugly ugly to feel good about themselves or higher status? hey, survival to the fittest and what ever it takes for your species to survive. I hope people are smarter and realize that racism is a survival tactic to preserve resources to a group by discriminating physical features. There's a Documentary called the Journey of man that shows a geneticist tracing back all cultures blood to 3 tribes in Africa and shows how the environment changed peoples features when they migrated from Africa. Us dark skinned women are modeled after the first women hence, fertile bums, larger lips, hips, hair growing up toward the sun (like all living things do..) not burning in the sun, etc etc.. The shaming of Africans is a european survival tactic bruhs

[runningislife]

Two things. Dark skin girls are so good in bed they make sure you are treated well. And second their funny as hell. However this does not go to all the dark skin girls. This is my personal experience. My personal experience with women. Don't get me wrong a lot of dark skin girls (talking about African American girls only in this post) tend to be quite ghetto as you put it though not all dark skin girls are like that. Dark skin girls are not the only one that tend to be ghetto. So light skin girls who are ghetto as well are a turn off for me. It's about being a lady not being able to beat a dude with your bare knuckles lol

[Albinoninja66]

Ummm I don't know where you get your information from, but dark skinned girls are actually prefered by a lot of people including myself. It's all about preferences, just like long/short hair and thigh gap/ no thigh gap. Some people like paper white and some (like myself) like darker girls. There is even a specific range for most people. For instance I am attracted to any skin tone from a tan white to olive Hispanic. This does not mean that I think that a black girl or super white girl is unattractive, it just means that I naturally don't prefer those skin tones. I prefer Hispanic or Latino just like how someone can prefer black or white.

[kxera]

She isn't saying darker girls aren't attractive, she is just trying to make them feel better because statistics show time and time again that darker skinned girls are seen as less attractive. History even displays this. The world has been shaped off of Eurocentric beauty standards. And yes, every individual has their own preference.

[smexyysludge112]

Sorry but as a dark-skin girl, dark skin people are usually seen as uglier. Even though white people usually want to be tanner, many blacks and Indians, especially, are usually taught that the lighter, the brighter, the better.

[Albinoninja66]

@smexysludge112 so you're telling me that even though people don't actually care, Blacks, Hispanics, Indians, etc. Teach their kids that they should try to be European?

[smexyysludge112]

A lot of people do care, and no they dont teach them to be European, but wevtaught that you can be dark but not "too dark". Its called colorism, look it up

[MrOracle]

I've never understood this. A beautiful girl is a beautiful girl, regardless of skin tone. I've met, known, and in a couple of cases, dated some girls with dark skin who were lovely.

The irony is that the only people who seem to care about this (in the US, at least) are black people.

[Albinoninja66]

Pretty much, I have NEVER seen anyone hate on a dark skinned girl and say that white skin looks better. Maybe it's because I live in florida, but most of the people I know prefer darker skin. Hell I even dated a Brazilian girl for 2 years and I'm your sterotypical white guy that is slightly tan

[kxera]

Black people probably care more because statistically, it is the least physically desired group. You wouldn't know because you aren't black, but we do get more hate on skin color. None blacks may face ridicule based on beauty but black people really do get comments more specific to their race rather than as individuals.

[MrOracle]

I get that, but the "racism" is blacks hating on other blacks, which, again, I don't get. I admit, I live in northern California, which as things go is relatively non-racist, and there is plenty of interracial dating (whites, blacks, Asians, Latinos, etc.) and so forth, but the ONLY people I ever hear commenting about skin shade (in both positive and negative ways) is black people. It's kind of sad.

[Jxpxtxr]

I've read this although I'm not dark skinned and surprisingly in my country I've encountered almost the same stereotypes for being too fair!
I'm also perceived more ugly or even sick because of my skintone.
People also tell me I shouldn't go out and enjoy the sun because I'd get sun allergy and sun burns or worse, even more freckles! I often heard that guys will never like me because they 'prefer' girls who look 'healthy'. And where I come from tanned is definitely perceived prettier than fair! Oh, I could go on with this forever..
So although I'm not dark, I still understand what it's like to be judged just based on skin color - and it sucks! But honestly I think you, no matter who you are or what you look like, shouldn't listen to the negative things but focus on the positive things - and those women in the pictures are all so pretty!

[xXiTacoXx]

You should ignore what those haters say because you're a really beautiful girl.

[Karen_Lucrece]

Yes, you are absolutely right. I have been told so many times that I am ugly because I am dark skin. I am only 17 and I have had guys tell me if I was light skin, they would date me. Therefore, since I am dark I am considered ugly.

I have been insecure about my skin tone since I was six years old and girls in an elevator told me how I was ugly and I had shit colored skin. I am tired of society telling me that I am not beautiful. I am tired of putting myself lower because I am dark. Dark skin girls tend to be the most insecure, and criticized the most. That I am dumb, ratchet or rude, have an annoying voice.

When in reality, I have a 3.9 GPA, I have been told I am one of the most polite young lady some people have ever met, and my voice is usually mistaken for white because I sound proper. (Because I am dark skin and black, I can't speak proper English with big words. Amazing right?)

[dominiquois]

That's unfortunate that dark-skinned girls ALLOW themselves to be brainwashed like that. Don't let them dominate you like that, it's weak-minded.
Look at this utterly stunningly gorgeous dark-skinned girl and tell me if she should ever be ashamed of herself?
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[xXiTacoXx]

She shouldn't and this myTake was made for dark skinned girls of all races to know that their skin tones are awesome too.

[dominiquois]

Nice take :)

[xXiTacoXx]

Thank you. :3

[Anonymous]

This is well needed.
I was in class once and the prompt was "If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?" I looked to my right and the girl next to me had written something along the lines of, " if I could change one thing about myself I would change my skin color. I want to have light skin, long hair, and brown eyes." That saddened me so much because the only thing that told her that she wasn't beautiful is SOCIETY. As a dark skinned girl myself I make sure to show my pride about my color. I wear it like a badge of honor.

[Mistnigqa808]

This site is getting SICKENING when it comes to this BLACK VS WHITE BULLCRAP. MFs can't even have a simple discussion without some fucking phaggot and or bitch bringing up skin tone/s. WTF!!! does this have to do with white people? @Charliep

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[xXiTacoXx]

I never mentioned black or whites. I just mentioned women of all races with a darker skin tone. . -.

[Mistnigqa808]

I know you didn't... I'm talking to him ^_^

[xXiTacoXx]

Ahh... I see. Yeah, there's a few idiot guys here bitching about this either demonizing white people, or how they don't prefer dark skin because they think it's unattractive. For fucks sakes this my Take isn't even for them it's for darker skinned girls/women of all race, it's not a place to make their stupidity known. #StupidAssesTheseDays

[Albinoninja66]

I wish I could like this a million times

[Mistnigqa808]

@Albinoninja66 My old name was #MistNinja314 *teaches you the shadowclone ninjutsu* ... now you can like it 1 million times LOL

[Albinoninja66]

Yay!

[purpleballoons456]

Well, I'm latina and have tanned skin like the fourth girl so I'm not that dark. I have never heard or felt any of the things you suggested. And I've never heard those things said about dark skinned girls of any race or ethnic group. It would be ridiculous to say that a dark skinned girl is ugly just because she's dark. However, it's true that the world is constantly telling us that light skinned people are the most attractive. But you know what? This is a lie. Don't believe it! Any person of any color can be beautiful. Don't allow the world's standards to affect your self-esteem or to make you feel less attractive just because of your skin color.

[Stacyzee]

Personally, I will say this.
The misconception is that dark skin people have more melanin than light skin people.
That is incorrect.
Darker skin individuals than the same amount as melanin as someone that is lighter skinned.
The only difference is the rate at which the melanin is broken down which can account for the skin complexion differences.

Also, I'd like to say dark skinned women are beautiful.
And although I am not very dark... I have never been hated for my skin color.
I often get checked out daily by men of different races.
I notice that women who are extremely dark in complexion (tend to go through the discrimination that you speak of).
I am glad you posted this take to empower women that go through this, and remind them that they are beautiful.

[Stacyzee]

And may I add, I am dark skin but not extremely.

[Anonymous]

The only girl I think isn't attractive is the last chick. And that's more because of me not liking her bone structure. Nothing to do with her skin, obviously since the other ones are gorgeous. Then again this is coming from a white guy that lost his virginity to a dark skinned girl..

[vishna]

Oh Anchal.

I remember having the hugest crush on her and, to an even bigger degree, Eugenia Washington from ANTM.

Wonderful MyTake. I live in the south, and it's depressing to live in an area where darker girls are made to feel less than their lighter counterparts. And it drives me insane when guys buy into it. One guy told me a perk of being pretty was being light, and that it was 'better' Hell no! That didn't sit well with me, so I told him so. People have to break the cycle of thinking this way.

There is beauty and in every woman and darker women are just as beautiful, if not more so, than lighter women.

[Sexualchrist]

Out of the black races, I actually like the dark skin women the most.

Especially the contrast between the dark brown and the pink. You know what I'm talking about.

Crude? Yes but still a positive.

There's nothing wrong with having darker skin. Both genders have it and there's nothing masculine about it.

[theshewolf]

Who cares.. at the end of the day.. if the kkk comes to start hanging black people.. We are all getting hung.. light skin brown skin dark skin.. Gosh that skin tone issue is so stupid and annoying.. I myself haven't encountered it because I don't hang out with ignorant people that think skin tones make a person.. My ex is a light skin guy aspiring model.. with no job car or place to live at 25 .. my new boyfriend is a dark skin guy with a career a job and car and his own house.. So let's be honest.. Who would you marry?

[GirlsLie]

I think black women are beautiful and always have, i'm not sure why people find dark skinned girls unattractive and I get so sick of seeing the rude things people say towards them.

I think they have beautiful features and it's ok to have a preference but how some people fail to see how beautiful some black women are, is beyond me lol