I Asked People to Rate My Looks and This is What Happened

[actualdisneyprincess]

Ask me to describe myself. One of the adjectives I'd use is "confident." Not confident in a blatant, outright prideful kind of way, but I feel as though I am proud of who I am, what I believe, the people I am blessed with in my life, and sometimes, my looks. It's taken me a long time with that last one. In fact, another word I'd use to describe myself is "insecure."

Sometimes, I look in the mirror and am fine with what I see. But that's only sometimes. Very often, more often than I'd like to admit, I look in the mirror and frown, pointing out every perceived flaw. Every little bit of fat that clings to me, every stretch mark, everything I don't like about myself, and I often forget the things I do like. It used to be crippling. What other's thought of me was an idea that consumed my thoughts.

Over the last few years, I've come to terms with my identity and my looks, and even come to be proud of who I am. I'm healthy, I exercise, I eat (somewhat) well, I'm young, I've had boys express interest in me, and most of all, I am uniquely me, beautifully and wonderfully made, unlike any other. Comparisons can crush you, but I have slowly been trying not to compare myself to what I see in magazines or even just on my beautiful friends. Sometimes, I even step outside and think "Man, I look fine." Not in a stuck up way, but in a confident "Hey I feel sexy" way. I think everyone, man or woman, deserves to feel like they are absolutely beautiful.

But those insecurities still haunt me all the time, every single day. Maybe it's what drove me to post a picture of myself online for complete strangers to rate. It was all rather impulsive if I'm being honest--a quick action spurred by unbridled curiosity. Asking internet strangers to rate me was something I always said I wouldn't do. But it was late at night, and I just really wanted to know what people saw when I walked down the street. Even with my head held high and my favorite outfit fitting me in all the right places, what if they didn't see what I wanted them to see? Or what if they love me? That would be a great ego boost. But what if I really am ugly, and do I really want to know that?

I guess I did.

I posted a picture of myself in which I thought I looked very beautiful. I was wearing an outfit that hugged me in all the right places and showed off my body. My hair was done nicely, I was modeling for the picture, and I had a sweet but not over the top smile. I felt really good about how the picture looked (which made me very nervous because if they hated that picture then I was in trouble!). I asked people to rate me numerically from 1-10, starting with a 1-2 category, then 3-4 and so on and so forth, with 10 standing alone.

I got some pretty interesting results:

I refreshed the poll constantly, and my first vote rocked my confidence quickly.

It was a "5-6"

I wasn't extremely nervous going into the poll. That first vote made my heart stop. Granted, a 5-6 is better than a 1-2, but 5-6 meant one thing:

I was average.

Average is fine. Average is great. But I wanted so badly for people to believe I was beautiful. What if everyone believed this way?

The votes kept coming in, and some were higher, others not so much. One of the first few votes that came in was a perfect 10, so that made me feel a little better. But as the votes streamed through, I observed a couple interesting facts (Off topic: being a psych minor I felt like I was back in my undergrad psych classes analyzing data points!):

Firstly, I noticed girls thought I was less attractive than men did. Men were most likely to rank me a 8 or a 9, while not a single woman rated me above a 6-7. The highest ratings I got were 10's, and fortunately, that got more votes than the lowest rank I got, which was a 3-4. Men were also more likely to vote and more likely to comment below on my appearance. Most of the comments said "She's really pretty" or "She's really cute." This was nice, but the comments also disappointed me. A big part of me wanted people to be giving grandiose compliments, like "Wow, gorgeous/beautiful/so sexy/11 out of 10/most amazing looking girl ever!" Most of them did not say that.

I didn't get many girl comments that were extremely positive. The positive ones said very generic "she's pretty" kind of things. One girl called me "below average," and I read that and froze. Was that true?

The final and most interesting observation in this little experiment of mine was that the results were SO scattered. I wasn't expecting that at all (but then again, I went into this with no idea what to expect in the first place). The consensus was that I am somewhere between a 6 and a 9, which helped me not at all, because a 6 seems so different than a 9. Everyone had a different opinion. One person would comment that I was sexy, and then the next would say I was "meh." People were very quick to take a single look at me, assign a number, and move on, but to me, that number was everything.

People were very quick to take a single look at me, assign a number, and move on, but to me, that number was everything.

As I looked over the results I felt my confidence begin to fail, and in just a minute all the confidence I had been working years to build started to melt away as I felt all my insecurities taunt me. I guess I really was just "average." My mom has been lying. My friends lie to me all the time apparently. I guess the boys that dated me were just pitying me or one in a million to think I'm hot. I am nothing special. I am just me. Plain old me. Ugly me. Because today, to be average is to be ugly.

But then I looked again at the results, gritted my teeth, and thought "Wait a second, these people are complete strangers. They don't know me. They don't know my life. They don't know the battles I've fought, the successes I've worked to achieve. They don't know the little quirks I have, or what I do that makes those around me smile. They don't know how I like my coffee, or where I live, or my love life, or even what my favorite color is. They don't even know my name."

And all that was true. I thought of my friends, and I thought of my family, and I thought of the boys that have liked me, and even the people I hardly knew, that had taken time out of their lives to tell me I'm beautiful, and I thought "Whose opinion was really more valuable? The people on the internet who decided to rate me after seeing one picture? Or the people that have known me my whole life, or at least have MET me, and have said otherwise?" The answer wasn't hard to come to.

Why are we so quick to assign a number to people based on one quick glance and a head to toe scan?

I have met some of the most beautiful people in the world (and I'm talking inside AND out here!). Most of them have been called "ugly" or "average" in their life, and I can hardly believe it. Everyone has beauty, and that's not me being overly optimistic or cliche. I believe it. Sunflowers are beautiful. So are Christmas lights. So is the new snow, and so is a sky filled with clouds. But their beauty is not the same, and neither is ours. I've never met a person I couldn't find something beautiful in.

Everyone has beauty. Sunflowers are beautiful. So are Christmas lights. So is the new snow, and so is a sky filled with clouds. But their beauty is not the same, and neither is ours.

Even if no one ever said I was beautiful, the opinion that counts most in this world is my own, and trust me, I've been a hard sell. There are days, all too often, that I don't believe in the beauty, both inner and outer, that is me. I don't think I can be anything more than "average" (and that's if I'm lucky). But then, I try to remember my unique individuality, focus on the things I like about myself, and remember that I am so loved. Does that always work? No. There are days when nothing can convince me I am worth anything simply because I think I'm not pretty. But that is false. There could never be a more beautiful me, and there could never be a more beautiful you.

If this experiment taught me anything, it is that I am NOT defined by my physical appearance. It is a part of me, yes, and sometimes, it's a part of me that I like. But it is not the only part of me. As Proverbs 31 says, "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears God, she will be praised." That is the woman I want to be. Even if you are not religious or hold different beliefs, I think that verse can apply to anyone. In the end, external, youthful, ideal societal beauty does not last, and it is your actions that you will be remembered by. People may remember you as physically beautiful, but if that's all you are remembered as being, then it's not much. I want to be known as someone who is kind, compassionate, strong, joyful, driven, and brave. I believe that in being those things, I am beautiful. The human race is full of beautiful people. Be one of them.

[Miyumi]

Ok well, not to be rude but who cares... here goes:
'I posted a picture of myself in which I thought I looked very beautiful. I was wearing an outfit that hugged me in all the right places and showed off my body. ' Good if you think you look good then why show it off to strangers? If you think you look good in it then good for you. Not the whole world is gonna agree, but you feel good. Who cares what others think.

''People were very quick to take a single look at me, assign a number, and move on, but to me, that number was everything.'' Yes lady, ofcourse. Thats what you asked for. *I asked people to Rate me and this is what happened* What do you think they are gonna do? Be like: oh the questions says: rate me, but instead I'm gonna give her a weird sign? like oh girl you're a @.

'' Why are we so quick to assign a number to people based on one quick glance and a head to toe scan? '' Cause you ASKED for it!

Come on. Be real. You ask to be rated, and then decide oh lets write a mytake about it and complain about people rating me? God stupidity is real here.

Stop posting that shit and stick to your last part, if you feel beautiful then who gives a fuck about what others think. #carecup \_/

[Belgie]

Two things you should have learned from your experiment which I have been trying to teach on this website for ages and ages.
1) Women don' judge attractiveness the way men do, and often don't know what men actually like.
2) No matter what you look like, there will be guys out there for whom you are the perfect ten. And there will be guys who think you are fugly.

Would you rather be a miserable worried hungry 140 lbs who knows her guy will leave her if she puts on 5lbs? Or a happy 155lbs or 170lbs and with a guy who thinks you are perfect that way?

You don't seem to have learned the main lesson though. (Not that women are their own worst enemy, surely everyone knows that by now) The important part of self confidence is the word SELF. It has to come from within and not be derived from the superficial opinions of others, whether they are strangers or friends.

[Transigence]

I can assure you that women don't know how men evaluate women's attractiveness.

[SweetMissShar]

Very well said! It took a while for me to gain the confidence I have now. Every person has a preference---I may be a goddess to some, but a hobbit to others. It doesn't really matter, as long as I am happy and pleased with myself and my looks. If there is something about my appearance I don't like, I improve it to fit MY liking.

[bits_y]

@Transigence so how do they? I'm curious

[Benedek38]

@bits_y
Face is probably the most important. It doesn't matter if you have any extreme characteristics - large/ugly nose, unibrow, scar, puffy face or something - as long as the whole looks good. What is usually a turn-off is facial asymetry and/or crooked teeth.
-The second most important thing is probably not being fat. Most guys are fine with their girlfriend having something to grab, but above 26 BMI, things can quickly get iffy. It depends on your body shape too - some women have hourglass shape even if they are fat. Genetics sucks.
Contrary to popular belief, unless you are really attractive as a guy, and you can pick whatever woman you want, boobs and ass size and shape barely play any part. It's good if there is any, but it's not a key factor.
Then comes personality. I don't think I have to explain this.
The last thing I personally consider is "trashiness". If she looks like trailer trash (disgusting clothing, bad fashion taste, bad makeup), that's definitely a detractor.

[heavensgift2girls]

You clearly didn't learn anything. You literally asked to be rated like a piece of meat, and then got offended, not that people were so quick to rate you without knowing you, but because they weren't rating you as high as you wanted to be rated. That isn't female empowerment. That is a sign of a woman that didn't get the answers she wanted, so is trying to convince herself she is still as attractive as she thought she was, by trying to redefine attractiveness.

The lesson you could have learned was that what is attractive to one person, won't be attractive to another person. There is no such thing as a woman that is a perfect 10 to everyone. If you had walked away knowing beauty was in the eye of the beholder, then you would understand what female empowerment really is. Instead you just walk away saying, they couldn't judge your beauty properly since they didn't know you, so it doesn't count. You just changed your standards of how you should be judged, so that you can still feel attractive to the masses, without accepting that it is impossible to be everyone's type.

If you could have walked away knowing that some rated you a 5 or below and been okay, because all that matters is what you and your partner think, then you would be able to claim to have learned something. Instead you choose to try and redefine beauty as something everyone has. Not everyone is beautiful. If that were the case, the word beautiful would have no meaning. The only thing you could say is that everyone has their own standard for what beautiful is.

I am not trying to insult you, or calling you ugly. For all I know physically you might be my personal ideal form of physical beauty, but you shouldn't need to redefine what beauty is, so that you can think you are more attractive to others. All you have done is shift your wanting to be judged on your looks, to something else in order to save your ego. You still don't get that no matter your personality is like, you still won't appeal to everyone. If we could look into your very soul, people would still judge you far differently than you want to be judged. There will always be people that just don't like you, because they are incompatible, and not because there is anything wrong with you, or them.

[hellionthesage]

"Why are we so quick to assign a number to people based on one quick glance and a head to toe scan?" They where so quick to do so for a very very simple reason, you asked them to. You asked to be judged and they did, you asked them to judge you on a single picture, a single aspect of who you where (your looks). This is not some great revelation on the contrary this was not even an experiment it was you seeking validation. If all of them said 9-10 what would have happened? Would you have had this great introspection? Would you have realized it doesn't matter? No. You would have immediatley puffed out your chest and bragged about it, if only to yourself. This response was only because the results where varied. The fact is in real life interactions their are multiple variables voice action looks personality all of this plays a part in a persons judgment. The greater their good feelings about a person the better they look. The fact is rate me questiones have no real use, they don't give you knew information they don't raise self esteem and they don't tell you anything beyond that men are generally more forgiving (far more then society likes to admit) and women not so much (because for women looks are everything, hence your immediate response to this "experiment" being to attempt to validate your idea that you are beautiful (I don't know what you look like so that isn't a jab just a statement). This isn't personal acceptence its you trying to justify your desire to be beautiful. This isn't societies fault, this is biology. Womens value is on their physical appereance, the reason for this is very simple, in reproduction her body is taking all of the trauma of reproduction so men are naturally attracted to women who exhibit good physical capabilities ie small waist wide hips breasts, healthy skin etc etc all of which are indicators of good health and good reliable genetics. If you want its like shopping for a truck or tools, you want to know they are durable and resilient so that they survive the task they are meant to do. (neoteny also ties into this) so its only natural that women would obsess over their looks because it ensures they are constantly taking care of themselves and thus have better survivability for reproduction.(men have different standards)

[hellionthesage]

The revelation should have been not that you are beautiful regardless but that you shouldn't reduce yourself down to a singular aspect when you are a complex being, as complex as the people you have asked to judge. You will never be the best (in anything really) so your goal shouldn't be in convincing yourself that every one is a ten it should be in acknowledging that their are a range of people, that your one of them. Then after accepting this also accepting the fact that you have other traits and skills which fills in the gaps that your looks may have. I can absolutely tell you for me, a woman with a good personality looks far more attractive then one with out. I think most people are this way. In short, the problem I have with this is that you are ignoring the results because you don't like them, not because they where wrong, and that you immediatley blame societal standards and make excuses why its not really true. Its a judgment of society yet you asked for their superficial

[hellionthesage]

Judgment and thus are as guilty as they are. You reduced your self down to a picture, a half a second moment of your physical being while ignoring everything else. Thats the problem, they didn't do that, you did. "If you ask the question you cannot run from the answer" Realize that this says a lot about who you are and what you value, learn from it and become a better person.

[Blueeyes81]

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[hellionthesage]

@Blueeyes81 I do what I can.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you feel. In fact , i went through this too. Being insecure is the worst. I've always wanted to know what people thought of my looks. I thought to myself , getting an opinion from strangers on the internet would be a good thing because i'd get honest answers since they really don't give a shit about your feelings. I was really nervous too when my question was posted , my heart started beating fast , my hands sweating, i checked the poll every 5 seconds. Weridly enough, The very first few people voted "beautiful" and "cute" . That made me feel very happy and relaxed. But soon, all that changed. I started getting "bad " votes and not just a few but a LOT. Back then , i didn't really know what "average" meant and average is what i got rated most by users on here. I always thought someone was either attractive or ugly. But when i found out what it meant it really hurt my feelings. I was soon crying a lot. (yes , i know that sounds VERY lame but, i already have/had terrible depression and self harm/esteem issues) . There were days where i still felt pretty but ever since i got "rated" i couldn't help but feel i'm just lying to myself and can't accept the truth and that i should just apply several coats of makeup since i'm very natural and don't wear makeup at all. Few months later though, i look back and that situation is such bullshit. To think i put such value to a stupid meaningless number and label on me by someone that i didn't truly know or care for is RIDICULOUS. Fuck that! I'm beautiful and if these people couldn't see it than that is their loss! This taught me to quickly realize that i Shouldn't live the rest of my life caring and obsessing over what others think of me ESPECIALLY people i don't even know or care for/love. I am the of judge how i look , if i feel pretty, then i AM. i believe and know i am beautiful now won't let others put me down. We are worth WAAAY more than a number or a label . We are what we see ourselves as not what others lack to see in us. I really love this post and i'm glad you believe in yourself now , too :) i actually really really want the "how do i look section" closed forever. It's not ok to to put a number on others and it can be very unhealthy for those that are still in the process of feeling beautiful.

[actualdisneyprincess]

Wow, thank you for such a beautiful and insightful answer. I absolutely relate! It definitely has been an interesting experience. The poll is still open actually, and more people consider me an 8-9 and since writing this post I have gotten a lot more positive answers, so my confidence has been raised, but either way, whether everyone thought I was a 1 or a 12, this really opened my eyes to a set of issues that I feel really matter. Thank you again for sharing. I hope you enjoyed reading, and don't forget how BEAUTIFUL you are!

[TinyHope]

Really a nice feedback girl! I like it!

[mikemx55]

Well, you asked people to rate your looks, so you got rated on it. Of course they couldn't see the whole you, because they don't know you, and that wasn't what you asked.

About your expectations for the "11/10", and the exaggerated comments, it goes two ways, because there are a lot of pretty people out there.. if we start giving 11/10 to one person, then we gotta shift the whole scale for a lot more people who also deserve that or more.

As for the system, it's a really skewed one. The points mean different things for everyone...
For instance, I'll explain what it means to me, (and even I'm not sure about what I'm gonna write next)
1-4 -> I wouldn't even vote, or comment, because I wouldn't be able to find the words to describe what I thought without sounding degrading or offensive, or that the other person would feel bad about it.
5-6 -> completely average, normal to slightly ugly face, maybe chubby or too skinny, with a balance of these factors.
7-8 -> above average, absolutelly dateable and girlfriend material. Angel eyes, with perfect hair, and average to rocking body
9-10 -> too perfect. The kind of perfect that I would feel uncomfortable being around, much less being a girlfriend. The kind of person I would feel insecure or unworthy.

Now, it may sound silly to disregard the 9-10, and I should just shift my 7-8 to the 10s, because that would be the perfection, but since that is not what most people see, I keep my exterior views the same as most people, but change the meaning of the scale.
This is just so you see how much craziness is there around those numbers.. if you think I'm crazy, then think about all the other crazies out there who might have completely different meanings for it.

As for the value of our visuals, I think they are important, because they boost our intellect, and the intellect of the people around us. People are more receptive to a pretty face, or a smile, and that's just how it works.. nothing we can do about it... the mental traits usually come in a second phase.
Consider it a curse or a bless.. I leave this last one to your interpretation...

[Tanuron]

I always found the whole number thing to be so silly honestly. I have seen so so many posts like it, but I never given anyone any number. Cause yeah like mention also, how is people really supposed to see the true beauty of someone if they dont know you. Which in my own case is further more true, cause I honestly can't feel an attraction to anyone based on their looks. To me its all about personality.

Can in many ways find it even demeaning to the individual when you lower yourself that much, to only make a focus of your outside, thats not who you are as a person. Like as an example if say my girlfriend who was in my eyes beautiful, the reason for she being beautiful would be so far from just simple looks, cause I do love her, the individual, her personality, I would find every fiber of her beeing beautiful, including her looks. But if she was to ask people, random strangers about her beauty and all she did was post a picture of herself she basically demeans her beauty to me, cause its just such an unfair representation of someone that is beautiful. If beauty was a universe, all you do with a picture is like showing one single star, or not even that. There is just so much more to you.

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[actualdisneyprincess]

I agree! Thanks for the response!

[kat_gran]

It just means clearly you are the type of girl who thinks is very hot but to some people you are not.
You are what they call, diverse kind... You appeal very much to some people and to others you do nothing at all and they dont find you attractive.

That's life, get over it and move on... There are wayy more important things to worry about in life. I also did the question once because I was quite curious, it came out at about a 7, it was between 6-7-8, and all pictures were nice pictures (beautiful backgrounds mostly and just me looking normal - not much make up and just natural looking). I think people appreciated the simplicity and ease of the photos and myself... I only had one photo of me at the club and even then, my face wasn't looking at the cam.. So I came out average. Im sure if I had taken club/night photos I would have come out a 9, but that's okay. As long as you're happy with how you feel thats what is most important/

Being a 6 or 10 or 5, won't change anything.. It's all about perception.

[actualdisneyprincess]

I completely agree with you and came to pretty much the same conclusions! Thanks for an insightful and thought out response. I really appreciate it!

[Cosytoasty]

So, you asked for a rate and was displeased with the results? You wanted people to rate you 10 or even 11 ... You realise 10 means absolute perfecton right?

I find men here inflate their rates by 2/3/4 points most times. There is a huge number of guys who lack exposure to real women and a bigger number that give you a high number just so you 'like' their comment. In the real world you see generically pretty girls every single minute, which raises the "average". I can count the number of '8' girls I've ever seen on here on one hand. Most of them are between 5-7 (i live in a city so like i said i see many pretty women all the time).

Thats before you filter out the jealous types who rate you 2-4 (very few people are a legit 3). Or people who might just not find you their type - amazing i know. You should take anything said, and certainly rates with a massive pinch of salt.

I am curious can you link your HDIL question? I guess i could find it easily enough based off your description of it, but perhaps you could save me the trouble?

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

I love this! I've asked how do I look questions on here a few times. I will find a picture I really love, post it, and make a poll. I never do numbers though because I think people consider numbers a lot differently - once I read a guy saying it takes a lot for him to see a girl as a 5 (on some other girl's post) and I was like damn lol. I just pick categories like ugly, below average, average, pretty, gorgeous. It's funny because even though my average usually ends up around pretty, it's not good enough because there are still people who pick "below average" or "ugly." The bad ratings sting way more than the good ratings feel good. It's just too bad how easy it is for our generation to destroy our own confidence even more. It's far too easy to post on social media and the internet and ask strangers for a rate. And it's sad because, chances are, those of us posting it, are posting it because at that moment in time, that number a stranger hiding behind their computer screen gives us means everything and defines our entire value and can make or break our self esteem for those minutes as we hit refresh over and over. It's so toxic.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Your results don't surprise me. Why? Because beauty really is in the eye of the beholder, and that's not a myth.

I did the same thing. Unlike many others, I didn't post my photo due to a low self-esteem; I actually have a very high self-esteem. I did it out of pure experiment.

Strangely enough, it depended on which website I posted my photo on. On www.youthink.com, I got BLASTED. Almost everyone gave me a rating between one, and three (out of ten), but on www.yahooanswers.com, I had the exact opposite experience: Most of everyone gave me a high rating. I did it on www.caloriecounter.com, and many of the women rated me mid-range (five or six).

[Anonymous]

Thank you for sharing this I just posted a question on here "Why can't I be pretty or beautiful like other women?" I have had low self-esteem about myself since I was young. I have always have a beautiful personality. I know many people say life isn't always about looks it's what counts on the inside some people can be pretty on the outside and be ugly on the inside. My friends and family etc post pics and get tons of likes and comments on how pretty or beautiful they are and I don't get that As much. As I look at them I cry inside why can't I be like them it's not fair why does it have to be this way... people say I shouldn't let amount of likes and comments define my who I am or my beauty. I get depressed and insecure that I feel like I'm not good enough. I read a article on why couldn't God make me pretty or beautiful. And the article talked about this- It is true of course, that some people are more attractive than others—when it comes to a body or a face. But our society puts way too much emphasis on the body and not enough on the inside. God doesn’t do that. Remember what God told Samuel in 1 Samuel 16:7…

Don’t judge by a man’s face or height… I don’t make decisions the way you do! Men judge by outward appearance but I look at a man’s thoughts and intentions

[Anonymous]

Rates on this site are completely meaningless. Not to be shallow but virtually every girl on this site that does a rate me question gets a bunch of 10s and guys hitting on her. I've seen girls who again sorry to be shallow but were definitely below a 5 based on every day appearances were also getting told they were perfect by guys. Guys here just compliment every girl they see shamelessly hoping that the girl will want to message them.

But it also works the other way sometimes. Sometimes I see a girl that looks like Natalie Portman and a few people will say she's a 1 and say she's nothing special.

Rates on this website do not have the slightest bearing on how attractive the average person in real life thinks of you.

[Grungenoreos]

I guess beauty really is in the eye of the beholder because some of my male cousins never found Natalie Portman that attractive except that she has a pretty smile. I always figured that it isn't really that subjective but I suppose it is.

[Opinion Owner]

@Grungenoreos It is subjective to a point but the thing is virtually any girl who asks for a rate on this site are going to get a group of guys saying how they are the hottest thing to walk the earth. That isn't subjective that's just those guys kissing ass.

[Grungenoreos]

True. I agree. I was just saying I suppose it is more subjective than I ACTUALLY THOUGHT because guys in my life (some cousins) never really thought she was that hot and now you say something's otherwise. But I always thought she was very beautiful myself... Figures.

[Opinion Owner]

@Grungenoreos Yeah that's true. Everyone says how amazingly beautiful Jennifer Lawrence is. I don't think she's ugly but I certainly don't think she's as beautiful as everyone says.

[LittleFinch]

I hate the opinions people are giving. This post, at least to me, is beautiful because it preaches against relying on the opinions on people who don't matter in order to feel good about ourselves. I love this. I agree with what you said and can relate to your feelings. Thank you so much for sharing this, it's truly inspirational.

[actualdisneyprincess]

Thank you for the read! I'm glad you got what I was trying to say (but I totally understand why some people may view it differently). I definitely feel that we need to love ourselves despite what a few people may say, and I'm glad you got something from it!

[noneoftheabove]

the more and more i read on here, the more and more I've come to conclusion that people are haters. it might be insecurity, who knows, its a bit of a joke. look at what theyre trying to say rather than looking at something to point out and be a judgmental tw@t. i completely agree with you @LittleFinch

[Anonymous]

If you're averaging 7-8, that's hot. Period.

I don't think you understand how the scale works.

Average is 4-6.

9 is celebrities who are world famous for being hot.

8 is very good looking. An 8 in the office, it would be taken for granted that -everyone- would find them hot. 8's can easily get jobs that rely primarily on looks. If you have a 'really hot' friend, they're probably an 8.

A 7 is definitely good looking. Nobody is surprised when someone wants to date a 7. Nobody is surprised if someone has a crush on a 7. If a 7 is your type, you probably find them very good looking.

A 6 is a little above average. Some people find them good looking, some think 'meh'.

A 5 is truly average.

Anyone voting 10 on polls is just throwing 10's out like candy.

[Transigence]

I've always held that I can't give a 10 unless I've seen your labia, and everything else.

[shinyunicorn]

But... you literally asked them to rate you by numbers... and then you act all offended because they replied with numbers you didn't like? um..
I don't see why it is needed to write a huge mytake about this. this is the internet, everyone is brutaly honest here. what did you expect? seriously you playing the victim here is just pathetic.

[Nicole_sm]

Wow reading this made me smile. I'm one of those people who could rate everybody in the world as a 10. Like you say everybody is designed in their own unique ways and shouldn't be told how to look. Everybody is beautiful inside and outside and nobody should be shamed or put down for who they are. I've been called ugly and all sorts and it affected me when I was younger but I love myself now. Not in the vanity way but I really have learnt to love myself because I have a very good family and amazing friends and around them i feel amazing. I've learnt that I don't need to change the way I am for somebody because I'll fiind somebody who loves me for who I am. I just wish everybody could feel like this

[BelleGirl21]

You asked a rate me question and then were disappointed that people rated you? Oh pleeeeeease.
The reason why I have never asked a rate me question is because I know I'd feel worse about myself after.
"You can't handle the truth" comes to mind.

[actualdisneyprincess]

I actually am not upset by the results whatsoever looking back on it. I've actually gotten a lot of positive responses as well as some negative/indifferent responses, even since posting this Take. There was a while where I was a little taken aback by the less than positive comments, yes, but ultimately, I am secure in myself, however, it brought to light for me a whole set of issues that we face now a days with insecurity and judging a book by its cover. I asked people to be honest, and to my knowledge, they were, but ultimately, I realized that the opinions of those that love me and my opinion of myself are the ones that truly matter. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts! It's much appreciated!

[BelleGirl21]

That's great

[BullyDawg]

Yet another common problem in today's society... we judge beauty but on what scale? Who decides what is beautiful and what is not? I at this point do not care. The things that are truly attractive are not on the outside , but come from within. These are the things people truly remember , and keep the attraction goin... looks fade but true beauty it is ageless and timeless... Let me see what is on the inside first then I will know you and decide... my father used to say two things about opinions. First.…and I quote "0pinions are like butholes everyone has one, and usually they are full of crap." Second most people want an opinion that fluffs or feeds their ego if not... then it is truly because they don't know. Anyway I wish people would know me before they judge my attractiveness... Hugz... I hope it helped in some way..…. be well , and love one another...🍀🐶🍀

[blondfrog]

You sound like a narcissist to me, narcissists actually often tend to be very insecure if you look in the DSM V. So don't compare yourself to other women this is one of the easiest ways women become insecure about their looks being average is not a bad thing you seem like your so banked on looks. The rating were scattered cause men tend to have a wide set of preferences that's normal and of course women are gonna tend to rate you lower they are not sexually attracted to women only 1% are statistically speaking. Women are just competitive like you your not the only women who is and women who tend to be jealous will also give you a low rating and last but not least don't take everything people say on the internet seriously there are lots of trolls on here and I've seen most people start to give the asker low ratings cause they are often the ones who constantly ask a rate me question over and over and over again which starts to annoy the online community.

[Anonymous]

If there is a poll, I always pick the 1-2 category. It's not because I think they're ugly. Most of the pictures I've seen of girls on here are mostly beautiful. It's very rare that I see an ugly girl. That's the real reason for why I do it. Someone who truly feels ugly won't post a picture of themselves. The last thing a genuinely insecure person wants is for people to rate their looks. So I do it because I feel like they are just fishing for compliments. They know they're beautiful, and they won't take the below average comments or ratings seriously.

[adrianalima0]

Well even if you were stunning not everyone is going to like you. Just how it is.
Average is relative as well. An average white person is not the same as an average person from India. To each other both are exotic and far from average. So if you want to be seen as not average just move to another country. Also, not everyone can be stunning. If everyone were then that would defeat the purpose of having the word, the word would cease to have value and would not be used at all. Beauty itself, as we currently understand it and value it, is elitist by nature. That's due to reproduction and the whole "survival of the fittest" animal biology in humans.