To The Petite, Flat-Chested Women: Yes, You're Sexy!

[Anonymous]

It's disheartening to see all these posts about petite women insecure with their bodies. Bigger women also have the same insecurities, and by these super strict modern standards, you just can't win. I think, truth be told, there's so many guys out there who will love your body, bigger or smaller. You can't let a small percentage of haters or people who don't like it get in the way of the many many guys who would love your body.

I'm a male in his mid 20's. I'm a bit of a chubby chaser. I love bigger women with curves. But just because a lot of guys talk about curves a lot, doesn't mean that petite women are any less sexy. My last girlfriend was half my size and was a B cup at best, and I still found her incredibly sexy. I don't care about your height, size, or weight. Just put all your energy and passion into kissing, cuddling, making love and in other aspects of the relationships. Make great use of the body you do have.

Women tend to over-estimate the importance of their breast size. Yes, big boobs are nice to have, but it's not really an issue at all for many guys if a girl is on the smaller side. In fact, I'd say there's benefits to having small boobs.

When a guy hugs a girl with big boobs, the boobs sort of act as a buffer zone between the two bodies. But when a flat-chested girl hugs a guy, her body feels much tighter, denser, harder, and she can get much closer to the guy, chest to chest and just squeeze him with her embrace. And that feels amazing too!

There's lots of things that petite girls can do that bigger women (or even bigger guys like myself can't). I've had petite women crawl under and through my leg, dive straight on my body and start kissing me, out of nowhere, slithering like a snake, and swinging around my limbs like a energetic orangutan. Sometimes guys like to feel big and they like to spoon with someone smaller than them. My last girlfriend was half my size and she was totally amazing.

We all have different bodies, and they all come with different advantages. Never say your body can't be sexy. It definitely can be with some passion and the right attitude!

[Anonymous]

I also feel sad when girls are insecure about themselves, because they are attractive and guys do like them... but they never feel that way and will never go after that boy...

They are mean to the boy who she thinks doesn't like him, and he thinks she doesn't like him and nothing ever happens.

[iAMNirvana]

you're right. I would like if girls feel confident enough to approach a guy and initiate the relationship.

[Jennifer94]

This is true. Lots of women with small breasts just believe that are not sexy or desirable - they think they might be found 'cute', but that's it, not hot or sexy. So they don't try, they don't speak to guys.

Of course, this isn't true for all women with small breasts, but some.

[iAMNirvana]

@Jennifer94 Breasts has nothing to do with being sexy i think. That feminine look and girly mincing is what attracts men.
and don't forget to be kind and put a smile on that beautiful face and your the best.

[Jennifer94]

@iAMNirvana Ah yes, the face and the look is the most important. As for boobs, men have different preferences... Nowadays, it does seem that a lot of men prefer larger breasts.

[iAMNirvana]

@Jennifer94 Yea thanks to Jessica Rabbit lol
But i personally don't care.

[Opinion Owner]

I should mention I find Petite girls very sexy, even if they don't have boobs...

Boobs aren't everything...

[Anonymous]

Who cares what guys think

[GingerGuy]

Women do, a lot of them anyway lol

[BlueWalker]

I'd have to agree with this post. Our society makes too much of a big deal out of having big boobs. I am not opposed to larger boobs either, but they are certainly in no way a prerequisite at all. Also, like the original poster, I like larger women too, but again, body type is not a prerequisite for me. I find women who are petite with an A cup just as attractive as a larger woman with large boobs and visa versa. More importantly, I am more concerned about who a woman IS - her personality - as opposed to what size her boobs are, or how thin or "thick" she is. I certainly don't see a woman who has smaller boobs as being "deficient" in any way, shape or form. At all. She is just as attractive as a woman with big boobs in my opinion. Just in a different and equally pretty way. I think our society places too much emphasis on looking a certain way that it shames women in particular to conform to a certain stereotypical and unrealistic "ideal" that 90% of women just do not fit into. It's partly the reason why there are so many breast augmentations in North America. Not to say that a woman "shouldn't" have that done for themselves if they so choose, but I always wonder how much of our culture's pressures of vanity play a role in women wanting larger boobs. It's not for me though. I'd also agree that hugging women with smaller boobs is generally better too. It allows for more body contact which in the context of a mate, it very arousing and gives a certain sense of closeness and emotional connection. Not to say women with big boobs cannot do this as well, but there is something about the added tactility of the human body against yours that is very special indeed. I'd say to any women reading this with smaller boobs and a petite figure: learn to love your body and know that there are TONS of guys out there that love your physique. Myself included. In fact, I would say I come across just as many guys who are in love with your physique as there are with guys who like larger boobs. If not more. Love what you've got and keep rocking that hot bod of yours! You're sexy AF as the next girl! ;)

[Robin35d]

I definitely needed to read this. I struggle so bad with insecurities that I would almost call it an illness. I literally made my boyfriend walk out of my life for two months because of them. That was a slap in the face that I needed! Made me realize that I'm going to lose him if i don't work on my issues. It's hard for me not to get inside my own head sometimes and over think things and obsess and cause issues out of things that shouldn't be an issue to begin with but since we got back together I'm working harder than I ever have and with this post I think I just got the boost I needed. Thank you for sharing it.

[FlowerChild94]

I totally feel you girl!!

[BlueWalker]

No matter the situation, I just hope he loves and cherishes you for who you are. Including your physique. For yourself, you deserve to be loved by YOU too. ;) :) I am fairly new to the site, but as I have always felt before joining here, reading so many of the comments here it's almost sad to see how so many of our culture's unhealthy pressures about what vanity is has affected so many women here. Men too. I just hope you can come to a place of not only "acceptance" about your body, but coming to a place where you can truly LOVE your body. To see that you are beautiful because you are YOU, and that you don't have to conform to a certain cultural norm to feel attractive. Because you already are. You just haven't found that side of you yet. Keep striving towards it, because it will feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders. Take care and all the best. Cheers. :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

It takes far more for us to be considered sexy though. A woman with big boobs can just appear and be sexy. A woman with small boobs has to be flirtatious, confident, the right attitude etc. Then, the man will finally overlook her small bust, if he does.

[myTake Owner]

not true. i think a girl with small boobs that are firmly locked in a by a tight little shirt is so attractive on first sight. it looks more flattering than girls with big boobs who have to buy a shirt size up.

[Jennifer94]

It depends on the man's preference: some men like butts or legs...

[666threesixes666]

boobs are fat, i like a chick to be healthy, really healthy, just not muscular kick my ass healthy =)

[BuchitaBuchys]

@666threesixes666 I'm not muscular though. I'm merely skinny.

[PatriciaH]

I don't want offend you but if you really think this way, you should have a different view. when a muscle men appears, you probably think: he is sexy! Many guys appear and they can be so smart, sexy, funny but you ignore it.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@PatriciaH I'm not into muscular men though. I prefer scrawny string bean types

[PatriciaH]

=) Cool! you know that some people like different bodies. but I mean if you prefer scrawny string bean types, a woman with small boobs can be sexy to some guys.

[jjesica346]

True as true can be, not to many posters w a "b cup" washing a sports car... lol.

[PatriciaH]

@jjesica346 Those posters are fantasy. Some women can have that body, but almost all of us live in a real life. Mature men know that.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@PatriciaH not so many mature men then lol

[Wonderbread131]

@Jennifer94 I love petite girls bit nice legs and a nice ass is always good

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

A woman should have a great personality no matter of her looks

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae sure but if we're talking about purely sexually attractive, the woman with big boobs would cause more boners just by looking at her than small boobs

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

@BuchitaBuchys Depends on guys, I got more boners from small chested girls and I really like them

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae I'm not saying every man, just more

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

Maybe it goes the same for other sexual preferences that girls have too

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae I never said it doesn't. But that doesn't negate the fact that it does for small bust women

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

Maybe I don't really have buddies to talk about their brast preference and I really consider small breast more beautiful than bigger ones

[BlueWalker]

Yeah. Sadly, that's the culture we live in. It's sad and it's so unfair. On the other hand, once a woman finds a man who appreciates and loves her and her physique, none of that will matter anymore, because she is already loved. But these cultural norms can be so hard on women especially. The fact that women of all shapes and sizes are confronted with these biases can make it so unfairly difficult. It's not fair.

[Tony_1693]

I mean, small tits can have their appeal if it fits the frame of the girl even though I prefer bigger tits. That whole petite, young, and cute girl with small tits can def be appealing. The picture you posted above is absolutely unattractive though. I like fertile looking women, not women who hve the body of a prepubescent boy. If you think I'm shallow for that, then I don't really care. I know what I like and I have standards. Most guys would agree with men that are too PC to say that being flat chested is unattractive.

So speak for yourself dude, a lot of us guys appreciate a nice pair of tits and nice curves. You can hug all the flat chested girls all day long if that's your thing. I'll stick to my standards and you can stick to yours. When you say "most guys" don't care though, you're wrong. A lot of us do.

[JustAGuyInTX]

I hope a LOT of girls read this because I really agree with it. And, after reading a lot of the comments, I think it's pretty clear that a LOT of guys either don't care much, one way or the other, or just outright prefer smaller breasts. Not trying to be a perve, but I remember two girls I dated. One was more average, I guess, like 34C. She had a really nice body but, frankly, not the greatest personality. But this other girl was def smaller, like 32B or something. But when we were out doing physical stuff, like running somewhere or riding horses or whatever, her boobs didn't bounce around like the other girl's, but they had this kind of jiggle that just drove me outta my mind. I REALLY like her small but tight breasts. Just being honest.

[KibblesBits]

So many women are trolling and don't realize. I can't even count the number of times I've heard a woman describe herself as flat chested. Meanwhile her breasts jiggle if she jumps up and down. If they do that, then you have them.

I knew a girl who was actually flat in high school. She wasn't even 5 foot tall and while I never saw her directly without clothes, you could see when she wore low cut shirts that she was actually straight flat, real flat, not insecure flat where they're just small.

[PrincessofNohr]

A few years back I was really worried about being small chested. I'm certainly not flat, but I'm still only about a 34A, maybe a B. I was terrified that it made me unattractive, that it would ruin my dating life, etc. The more I thought about it though, the more I accepted it. I've never had a guy complain about not having enough, and they actually fit my smaller frame quite well (I'm only 5'2" and 105 lbs). It's less about how big they are, and more about how they fit into your figure.

[myTake Owner]

That's totally true. Everyone's has different assets. Most women have at least something going for them physically. Maybe it's boobs. Maybe it's a great ass, a great stomach, great legs, etc. I'm a tall chubby guy. I hated myself for my weight for years, but it's all up to how I view myself. I could see myself as a fat loser, or as an adorable big bear that girls love to cuddle with.

Skinny girls can get away with having small boobs just like girls with big boobs can get away with being overweight. Even if a 250 lb girl with B-cup asked me out, as long as she had a cute face and an amazing personality, I'd totally say yes and her body wouldn't be a problem. With exception to super-muscular bodybuilder women, I'm attracted to just about any female body types.

[BarbaraP]

awww big bear that's cute

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

@BarbaraP I am 5'8" and 120 lbs I like small chested girls but some are pretty bad at personality

[BlueWalker]

@PrincessofNohr, That's great to read. I'm happy to see you've found a happy place with your physique. Hopefully your story inspires a little hope and self-worth for other women reading this. Good for you! :) A woman's worth is not in the size of her boobs, but in the size of her heart. I truly believe this.

[Brokenheartedx]

Big boobs or small doesn't matter.. eventually they will all head south.. just the largers ones tend to head south first...
None are safe from breast cancer... look at women who have the cancer gene they are having their boobs removed and that's all of them including their nipples.. so no matter how big or small we all are we should be humbled to kno at least their healthy... remember that girls be thankful our boobs are healthy...

[xxmamichulaxx]

I love this answer. I think most girls especially the ones insecure of their breast size need to realize this

[Brokenheartedx]

It Used to Bother me having small boobs until A larger breasted woman saw them and went yours is so perky wish mine were like that... she was a bIt older than me and hers ovb dropped a little but puts in perpective that in time larger breasted women will look on to small boobs as being better while smaller breasted women want larger breasts... Roles do reverse in time... but as I typed being humble about being healthy should be top of everyone's priorities

[BlueWalker]

Good reply. My aunt battled breast cancer and also had a mastectomy. Slef-examination and regular screenings are so important. Please be vigilant and take care of yourselves, ladies! No matter what your breast size is, you are cherished by family and friends who love you.

[BlueWalker]

@Brokenheartedx, It's so true. I have heard how women with breast sizes at opposite ends of the spectrum can oftentimes feel that the other has an advantage. I would say on a comfort level, smaller breasts generally would probably be much more comfortable on an everyday basis. And as far as size, in the end, I don't think it really matters at all. Health is so much more important. Without health, nothing else matters.

[ak666]

I actually prefer to have sex with women who have small boobs.

I tend to prefer looking at women on the street with slightly bigger.

There's bedroom appeal and street appeal. For example, silicon implants can make a woman look very nice in a dress while walking around on the street. However, it seriously degrades her bedroom appeal.

Bedroom appeal to me is more important than street appeal.

[AriadneSky]

Flat is fine and she has a nice body but that top is horrible lol

[myTake Owner]

yea she should take it off

[AriadneSky]

It would be better than keeping it on. It makes it look like someone is pulling her greats down by way of her nipples.

[SpecJack]

I totally agree! When a guy hugs a girl with small boobs, their hearts beat stronger as they're closer to each other 💕
Girls need to stop feeling insecure and inferior because of their flat-chest or small boobs.

[Fearless_banana]

@rgb008

[Fearless_banana]

Dude that has got be the fruitiest shit I've ever read on this website lmfao.

[rgb008]

@Fearless_banana I'm gonna vomit that was so gross lol

[SpecJack]

@Fearless_banana Well, guys who dated flat girls certainly agree with me 😄

[Jennifer94]

Haha, I wish we could stop feeling inferior... But what with society since the late 80s up until today, with the Baywatch fake boobs, then all of the huge fake boobs in Playboy etc etc, it is difficult not to feel inadequate in the looks department...

[VikingWarLord]

They can be decent, but face it, they're not in the same league as a hot B-tch with a slim figure and big t! ts. Nowhere close! They instinctively know they're inferior too and most of the ones I've dated or had as FWBs, BDSM Subs / S! aves, etc.. have a lot of masochistic energy. I'd never stay faithful to one, they'd have to put up with the cheating or share me with other women. I've never seen a chic with small t! ts who I'd consider over 7 out of 10 in looks (even celebs).

[Anonymous]

I think with modern society and social media the world has become a smaller place. People have become more pickier on whom the like, thinking they can do better and judging the person on their physique and not the person. It means we in some ways are treating doing a life sentence in the bodies we have. Until we learn to love ourselves then it makes it harder for others

[Jxpxtxr]

I agree with the take but wtf is with that bikini in the picture lol I'm sorry but that looks terrible.

[archiz]

Lol the bikini is fine she just wore it like that to tan
You know the top ties are used on her back

[Jxpxtxr]

@archiz ohh I see lol how mean of whoever to take photos of her in that situation

[archiz]

Hahaha 😂
She doesn t care though lol

[Jxpxtxr]

@archiz yeah she's not me 😂

[archiz]

oh most def not...
you re way hotter ;)

[Jxpxtxr]

@archiz I only know I have more boobs lol

[biguyct]

mmmmmm

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

I think that pic is sexy

[PatriciaH]

thanks for the quotation. I can be wrong but I think women suffer much pressure to being perfect (hair, body, behavior...). I have curves but it's not very clear because I'm very small. When I was a teenager, I used to dislike my body. After a while, I tried to find myself in different ways. I developed my own personality and I found out how sexy I can be. I had 2 long-term relationship and the ex-boyfriends told me they love this body type.

[BlondeGirl_]

Im not petite flat chested.. i think (Dcup?) but i do agree. That one girl with the bikini should really fix her bikinitop tho lmao

[lucky1988]

I hope you're right because I'm an A cup and it sometimes gets to me.

[BlueWalker]

That's too bad. I think our culture's narrow scope of what women "should look like" has a lot to do with how many women feel about their bodies. It's so unfair. I know I am just some random person on the internet, but I can only hope that if you read my post in the guy's section that it at least gives you a little hope and gives you a little self-confidence boost. You are just as beautiful as the next woman. Never let anyone else tell you otherwise. Even yourself. ;) :)

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Very valid point - My preference is petite anyways but I find bigger sizes attractive as well - I think most guys and girls may have a notional preference but would not be surprised if they fell completely for someone who was not that type at all.

[Asianchick100]

Thank you for this take. It was really nice to hear a guy actually say that curves aren't what define a women.

[BlueWalker]

I wish more guys were more forthcoming about their attraction to petite women with smaller boobs. Sadly, due to our culture's narrow scope of what beauty "should" and "shouldn't" be, there is a lot of shaming that comes with it. Unfortunately, it goes both ways. As much as these cultural standards shame women into being something they are not, it also shames men for being attracted to women outside of the perceived social norm, so many of them stay quiet about it, or are at least reticent. With any body type outside this narrow scope, a man's attraction isn't always always readily shown, so sometimes it gets stifled, which only makes the issue worse because it gives many women a sense that they are "not as attractive" as other women because of a perceived cultural norm. It's terrible. I can only hope that sites like this help to begin to break down those norms to uplift both women and men about what "is" and "isn't" attractive, as well as coming to accept and love their own bodies.

[musicbrain5]

I'm tall and flat chested (ish). It's disproportionate, lol.

[myTake Owner]

I love tall girls. you're fine

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

If you're the girl in the pic you look way awesome and hotter than you think

[musicbrain5]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae Yes that's me lol. Thanks.

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

Sure great hope you feel more awesome and confident in the future

[jessiesgirl2017]

Finally someone else I can relate to 😄

[musicbrain5]

@jessiesgirl2017 😊😊

[BlueWalker]

Many men find your kind of physique very attractive. It's not disproportionate at all. It's just a matter of perspective. I hope you love your body, because there will always be someone out there who does. Rock what you've got and love what you have. :)

[musicbrain5]

@BlueWalker That's true. This is a super old answer, lol. I've since found a guy who likes me the way I am.

[BlueWalker]

@musicbrain5 That's awesome! Glad you found someone who loves your body. 🙂 Through him, I hope his love for you has boosted your self-confidence a bit and has helped you lay any of the concerns you had to rest.

As for these replies, I'm new here and have been looking at old posts, but for whatever reason it doesn't show me any dates for any of them on either my phone or computer, so I have no way of knowing how old some of these questions are. lol 😊

[musicbrain5]

@BlueWalker Timestamps disappear after 3 months, I think. Kind of stupid, but it's always been that way.

And yeah, he's awesome.