Hi I am new to posting on this website so I am hoping that I put this question in the right section.
I've been trying to get myself out to date since I would like to get a boyfriend but have a hard time attracting nice guys.
The only guys I have attracted so far have been super creepy. I had a stalker in high school before I dropped out & finished HS at home. Then a guy I knew from kindergarten showed interest during the summer & while he wasn't my type I wanted to give it a shot & he came over to play video games at my apt where i live alone & let a friend down the street know he was there in case something happened since I hadn't seen him for like 15 years. He was ok until he found out I was virgin & started asking me a lot of sex questions. He didn't try anything but it was super uncomfortable so I asked him to leave me alone after that. I was also molested when I was 6 so even though it was probably stupid to actually tell him I was but I have PTSD & I was afraid my anxiety would act up or have freeze if he touched my arm or sat too close.
He also asked me why I won't have a bf yet but I had no answer lol I also agreed to let him over as a friend by the way so his mixed signals freaked me out a little bit. I still worry if I over reacted & misjudged.
I'm shy but will talk if someone talks to me, polite, have a passion for music & video games, love animals, & even though I do cuss a lot I never do around people that don't like it. I also don't like makeup.
Also I did tell this guy friend I liked in my Japanese class in college 2 years ago that I liked him (even said it in JP cause I was embarrassed to say it in ENG) he was flattered but I was awkwardly rejected cause he couldn't flat out say "sorry I don't like u like that" & beat around the bush.
So am I doing something wrong? Is it because I'm damaged goods? I'm not good at being a girly girl. I like cute things and looking cute but that's it. Sadly lol
Thank you to those at help me! Sorry its long too.
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You're not damaged goods I can assure you that from what you've written so far. You just haven't had good luck and that's fine. Good things will eventually come to you, I'm not sure if you heard this saying "Dont go out looking for love, let love come looking for you" or something like that... Well that might just happen, or you know "Expect the unexpected". Just give it time, I'm sure the right guy will appear and will like you for who you are and how you are and you'll think exactly the same of him. As of 2013 the earths population is at 7.125 billion people, so trust, eventually the right one will come :) Don't rush, give it time!2