I'm Tara... unfortunately.. im not as pretty as my name sounds... I'm 5'3 thick.. not flabby.. even tho I feel fat.. I have dark brown eyes.. dark cocoa skin and neck length black hair... Growing up I've always heard from my family (siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents) even my own mother and father when ever they get upset or are frustrated these same words cone out ta each of their mouths "you ugly black ( witch.. or b-word or skank)... it especially hurts cause my family is all brighter than me from caramel to high yella... and the way I see it... when a beautiful or pretty girl gets yelled at or picked on... the word ugly doesn't come to her because she's beautiful... they find another word... but anyways.. when standing next to someone lighter than me or Caucasian , my skin tone is hideously black.. then I find a mirror.. to compare myself to others who are flawlessly beautiful and I see ugliness.. black and ugly... And I'm tired of being used by guys... they see I'm ugly and dark... they flatter me with compliments... to use me for money or my car or even try sex but never do they want to love a dark skinned ugly girl... just use me.. so they can respect and marry someone beautiful... I m glad I'm able to get this out... cause I can't say this in real life... no one can understand where I'm coming from... but thanks for listening and reading.
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Hon, Why on earth would you think that your skin color makes you ugly? What really makes a person ugly is the what they act and treat people! Your family members for example who filled your head with this kind of garbage just might fit that bill! Sorry you had to live with that growing up, people especially family can say some of the dumbest things.
You sound like you have a sweet personality and spirit (a little wounded right now), so physically you could be as ugly as the proverbial mud fence yet still be beautiful! I don't even have an idea of what you even look like or what shade of any color, (green? = ] ) it doesn't matter. What matters is how we treat oneanother, you sound like a really nice person who'll make some guy really proud to have you as his girl. Don't ever let anyone sell you short of anything but that!.
You know you might be used by guys because you believe what you've been told that you're ugly, so you settle for the first guy who looks your way. Right? Don't settle for just any guy, pick the guy. Make sure he's a nice guy in the first place not some abuser cruising for another victim.
Start believing in yourself. Start looking for the good in yourself, others will see and recognize it when you believe it!2