In hs I was rejected by my best guy friend and our friendship ended, it affected me greatly I didn't even want anything to do with guys for 9 years after that. I've had 2 friends with benefits and never developed any feelings for either and was with each one a year. Now I'm with another guy and he made it seem as if he wanted more of a relationship but we've been together just over a year and still no relationship, he calls me his friend. We get along great and have great sex and all, I've told him I have feelings for him a few weeks ago and he said we'd talk and never have so I'm guessing he doesn't feel that way for me. I just don't understand, I have a bath obsession so I bath a lot through the day so I'm not dirty or smelly, I always make sure my hair and makeup are done, I smell good and have clean clothes on etc but no one seems to want me for anything more than sex. I like to do a lot outside and have been told any guy would be lucky to have me but no one wants me. I just don't understand what it is about me that makes guys not want to be with me.
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D'awwwww, you're too damn cute!!! First off, stop settling into the position of being a booty call (the original 'Friends With Benefits'), I know of very few people who started out as such and actually ended up with the person in the long run... Not saying it can't or doesn't happen, just that the chances aren't all that great.
Second, it's time to cut some ties.. Don't give more to a person than they're willing to give to you. Here you are giving your all to this one person and he's not even acknowledging you, let him go. If he can't, doesn't, or just plain won't see you as more -- Find someone who will... It's not that hard, but some people get so caught up in finding that person (or those people) and lose themselves...
Love yourself more. Go out and have fun with/by YOURSELF, look in the mirror every morning and ask "How are YOU today, [Anon's name]?", walk with your head up, and don't be afraid to smile/be happy. You're more than your body and have every right to do as you please with it, and I'm not traditionalist, but stop giving people something (such a strong sense of intimacy) that wasn't meant for *just* anybody. You're more than that and when you let people have their way, before they show you the commitment they're willing to make and where they hold you in regards to their life, you only hurt yourself... As well as encourage their behavior to a fair extent.
You're cute, Anon, you really are, but your whole post was more from the standpoint of "What's wrong with me" ... The only thing wrong is that you care more about the perceptions others have of you before yourself... Make a list of your best assets and learn to werq. Everything will work out. *hugs*0