I'm 27 and have been single for 5 years. I haven't been in any way intimate with a guy in 5yrs let alone been on a date in 5 years. I don't get out much but when I do I wear heels and nice dresses and do my hair & make up etc. I have fun and laugh and am approachable but guys never even look my way. I'm the first to admit that I am ugly - I have a large nose, bad teeth, acne scared skin, flat chested and red hair. Several times I have been called a tranny and I was bullied severely at school for being an "ugly freak".
Unfortunately I can't afford to get any of that fixed but I'm saving up and getting a credit card to get laser scar removal. I accept that I'm too ugly for any man to want me and was doing ok but after 5 years and all my friends are married & have second babies on the way, I'm starting to get really really depressed and lonely. I'm a good person with a good heart but no man will ever find that out because let's face it, people take one look and instantly dismiss me. I thought crap things were meant to get easier with time, but I'm finding that being alone at my age is just getting harder and harder. What female in her 20s can't get a guy? And yes, I tried internet dating but got no interest and no replies. I just don't know what to do?
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You've been single for five years, which means you weren't always single, someone at one time saw the value in you, enough to take you on a date. You say you don't go out much, which might be another reason why you haven't been taken. I've seen very many beautiful 30 and 40 year olds who've been single for longer. It has little to do with looks, and it's quite normal. You aren't weird, neither are you ugly. Once you think that of yourself, then all the makeup and compliments in the world will never compensate. Beauty goes far beyond looks, you know. You have a beautiful face, but the mentality is ugly. I'm sure you've seen very many not very good looking women who are married.
Besides, everyone's different. Appreciate what's good about you, focus on your strengths and see just how unique you are. If you focus on the positive things change. Go out more, smile more, take time to love yourself first, and the world will conspire to shower you with more joy. True love is like a cat, it ignores you when you desperately call for it, but when you're looking away, you might feel it settling on your lap. Focus on being the best you, and not on what you think is wrong with you.1