Okay so I'm in this never ending cycle of being in the friend zone. I'm usually that guy that girls/women can come to when they need someone to listen to them about personal problems, drama or someone they can confide in but that's usually about as far as my conversations go. I don't think I'm terrible looking, I do have a slim build and far from overweight but am working out at a gym 3-4 days a week to do strength training, I've got a good, stable job working in a physician's office doing billing and minor IT work, so what is it about me that I'm just not good enough to be with? My standards aren't high, just someone who likes me for me. I can ask them out but it's usually the same old answers that "I just don't see you that way" or "I'd prefer we just stay friends". It is frustrating to hear and see that women would prefer a guy who is good to them, has a stable career, and want to someone who betters himself but then when I do all these things, I'm still turned down.
So, I'm willing to entertain anyone's suggestions. Thanks for your help.
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I find that it is all about confidence and the way you go about asking a woman out. I'm much more attracted to a guy who doesn't make a big deal out of it and psychologically it's been proven that once you inform someone you have feelings for them, they'll likely start fantasizing, rationalizing, or even start to feel that way toward you as well. I know confidence is not an easy thing to come by, but "faking it until you make it" in this scenario could really help you make it to the point where faking is no longer necessary. Good luck!1