I'm a very nice person and I'm very caring (or so I'm told). For some reason though guys don't like me and whenever I ask a guy out he rejects me. I was bullied since 5th grade. I know I'm fat but I want to lose weight. I am also in love with one of my guy friends but I'm too scared to tell him. I think I'll get rejected yet again cause I'm ugly. I also look like my mom and she's ugly. Why did I have to have inferior genes?
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Look. This may sound cliche, but it is true. There is a guy out there for everyone. You are not ugly, and you will find love.
Literally, the worst thing you can do right now is accept circumstances of life as unchangeable fact. Bullies are idiots, don't listen to them. I was never bullied, but rather ignored by everyone. I went through years of school without a single person knowing me. It may not be as bad as bullying, but it still messed with my self esteem. Just remember this to keep you going-- You never know what will happen in life so there is never a reason to quit working hard. Life may change for the better if you just keep trying just a little bit more.
If you want to lose weight, I can only say to go for it! Even if is simply running around the neighborhood, anything helps! Tell your parents that you need shoes and stuff. Message me if you aren't sure how to start and I can try and walk you through it. (Haha "walk" through--- I just made an exercise pun-- oh nevermind). Anyway, exercise is a great way to boost self confidence, plus people will respect you for trying to make an active difference in your life. I have a good friend who was on the cross country team with me back in high school. He came in last every race, was pretty heavy, and fell behind everyone in every practice. Before cross country, people made jokes about him. After, people gave him mad respect for how much effort he gave. So basically, it is better to try as hard as you can, even if it feels like you are failing, then to curse at the world.
So, time to address the point how you want to confess to a guy friend. When you confess, the important thing is being direct and having confidence. If you feel you are lacking confidence, I suggest you hold off on the confessing to him and set it as a goal. You can then be like "Once I reach ____ pounds" or I have done so-and-so, I will confess to him. That will motivate you even more and will give you confidence.
I know that it probably seems like an impossible journey from where you stand. It is indeed not an overnight one, nor an easy one, but it can only help you. If you need help or direction, or you having self-esteem issues, just message me, and I can help you in privacy and as best as I can. (Or if you want to insult my mini novel, or disagree, or I wasn't clear).
In case we never message or chat with each other again, I wish good luck! Stay strong! You never know what good things life has in store for the future!13