This is aimed at both guys and girls but I'm scared to have sex with someone in the future because i've got quite a lot of self harm scars on my legs and they've been there for about a year and I doubt they will fade much more, i've also carved words like 'fat' into my legs as well and it just makes me so self conscious. I've also had anorexia in the past and have had to gain weight so I have quite a few of stretch marks on my thighs, butt and knees and an unflat stomach due to genetics so i'm just really nervous. I obviously won't go for someone shallow but everyone has standards and i'm just worried that it's a turn off.
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God you are so young for all these things but you are lucky you got to overcome them all, I am over 25 and still struggling with my body image, I have noticeably uneven breasts, unflat is not enough for me huge belly :) and I have got stretch marks, butt acne and low self esteem.
It's been three month that I have been with my boyfriend, he's my second and first serious, he accepts me the way I am, I still find it hard to believe, but girl it's true, not all guys are shallow and just care about the way you look. Mine prefers skinnier girls and tease me about it sometimes, but he wants ''me'', that's the difference, he didn't ask me to lose weight but he's encouraging me to do sports with him, which I am to lazy to do but willing to :)
Listen, once you find someone who truly cares about you because you had a connection, you will work together to accept and overcome any scars, emotionally or physically.
And for the fat word carved, honey it's more sexy to make love when it's soft light not under the sun with a microscope to check every inch on your body ;)
Best of luck1