i need your advice... help... im a guy... im a sophmore in college and one thing that i care deeply about is my weight and looks. around 2 years ago i weighed in at over 340 + pounds... i decided to make a change and ever since i have changed.. i lost over 100 pounds... and during freshman year of college... it was like the new me is here and i want to succeed. i want to succeed in having the confidence to talk to that pretty girl in class or that pretty girl at the party. and i did... i gained confidence... but within the past 4 to 6 months, i realized that even though i did lose 100 pounds... i still wasn't happy with my body. i still couldnt take my shirt off and walk around my suite and have my sutiemates stare... so i guess that i looked great thin with clothes on but was not confident with my clothes off. last month i weighed in at around 237 pounds... i have lost my confidence and im trying to gain it back... recently i have payed attention to my diet and excericse and really tried to make a change... so today i weighed in around 219 pounds... i feel better... i feel happier... but im scared of next semester... i guess im a person who thinks that my friends are more attractive then i am and they get the attractive girls. my entire point of what i just wrote is... can a guy like me regain confidence? can i actually date a girl who is stunning and proud to say that she is my girlfriend? i guess what im saying is... is that i feel like my entire life being fat, the only girls that were attracted to me... i wasn't attracted to them... and now with this change... i want to find someone or people that i think are attractive and they think that im attractive as well. again.. i feel like my friend is always succeedding with pretty girls because he's in better shape, and he's been thin for most his life while i am a rookie in being a person that is not considered obese... or fat. not many people know how i feel.. not many people know that i do struggle with self improvement.
and on a side note... i think major reason why i had lost confidence is due to the fact that i had a crush on a girl in high school and i recently told her what was going on. she had acknowledged my courage to be proud for what i have done... but basically it was a rejection and i took that heart and i think thats why i went south in my confidence and trying to gain it back.
Most Helpful Girl
You're the perfect weight for a guy, not too skinny and not too big :) I think it's great that you're trying to lose weight, just don't take it too far, and trust me, I think others would agree that being skinny isn't the reason why most guys get the "pretty" girls. You could easily find someone who would be proud to call you their girlfriend, you just have to go to the right places to meet them :D Don't worry, you're doing great.2
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know I was 324 I'm 297 trying to get down to 210 I weight lift and keep myself happy. Guess I've just found the right girls in the past even though I wa insecure they liked me. I would join clubs at school like I did and get to know girls there. Best way I did and started hanging out and got romantic with one... just have to throw yourself out there wether you want to or not. You'd be amazed0