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I do as well. Its a constant struggle. I feel like i can read people, so i immediately think they are seeing some flaw in me already, and i may make up this "flaw" and focus my energies whilst engaging said new person, into fixing said flaw. Usually ends up with me not paying attention to what the said person is really saying. I can't really self conscious and feel as if im being judged.
I've tried to correct this a little bit at a time, but its stil hard. And its also because i think a lot and never really speak out much (introverted type).
Id say its not particularly healthy for me, but it has helped in the sense that i get to present the best possible version to my self to peoples. Downside, my stress levels are high. ja.0