Okay so for my whole life I have been made fun of for my pale skin. I have been called a vampire, asked if I spilled white out on my skin, and asked if I have ever heard of the sun. I feel miserable and now I never wear white OR black just because of the comments. My hair is a strawberry blonde and I have blue eyes, naturally dark lips, and subtle freckles. I know people think tan is healthier and it really does look beautiful but now I'm putting myself down because of my skin. I don't feel like I can even talk to someone who is beautifully tan because I feel out of place. I can't tan, I only burn so awfully that my skin peels... but for some reason, my brother (who has the same paleness) can tan and even HE bugs me about it. I feel socially awkward and like no one would ever want to be my friend because of my paleness, and even some of my friends make comments and I feel like I'm unwanted and I can't trust anyone. Society really gets to me. When I see anyone on a magazine, first thing is TAN gorgeous skin and a million mentions of HOW TO GET RID OF UGLY PALE SKIN, TANNING MIRACLE, GOOD BYE PASTY WHITE SKIN, etc. I'm NOT looking for ways to tan. Maybe someday I will try self tanner, but I just want to know why people can make fun of pale people without notice.
made my day :)
Most Helpful Guy
Pale, porcelain skin is beautiful and not many women can pull it off.
Let me tell you a secret of life. People make fun of you for one of three reasons, or a combination of all three:
1.) They're jealous of you
2.) You're different, and different always stands out
3.) They're self-conscious about themselves
There is NOTHING wrong with you or the complexion of your skin. You should embrace it, you have a unique feature. Society is full of people that are the same. Don't take to heart anything you read or see in magazines, they're made to feed you junk. In a world where people are running towards indoor tanning and spray on tans, you're different, and different is sexy.
The first girl I ever fell in love with and will remember for the rest of my life had stunning pale white skin, and she was the love of my life. Anyone who tells you your skin is bad or gives your crap for it is shit and doesn't deserve to be in your life.
Please don't force yourself to tan, definitely don't go to tanning salons, and realize that your unique complexion is amazing. You're definitely wanted; someone out there is looking for someone just like you so don't give up hope and love yourself.
And vampires are sexy!4
Most Helpful Girl
I didn't read all of what you wrote up there, but my advice to you is just ignore what other people say. I've been in your position, and I failed to believe in myself due to my insecurities. I regret this a lot right now, and I wished I could've been happy with what I had instead of forcing myself to change for the sake of others. Since you're only 13, a lot of the kids your age are probably extremely immature. Think of the people who has similar skin; do they also critisize you? I bet it's mostly those tanner then you who are always complaining about something that's none of their business. I would kill to have pale skin, and like you, it's not that I don't like tan skin, but I prefer myself with a paler skin tone. The girls who complain about your skin might be jealous of something they will never obtain.
Never, and I mean NEVER, consider changing for the sake of others. They can complain forever but that's not going to change the fact that you have pale skin. If you're insecure, it probably means you're a shy girl because usually the shy ones have more insecurities. Don't think of it as "I have to change for them," think of it as "Why do they even care." Because they shouldn't care. And if they continue, you can and SHOULD, politely bring it up that not everybody will be tan nor get tan easily.0