My intention is not to sound arrogant or to show off in any way. It is a question that I've been asking myself for a few weeks now. I don't want any bashing or hate, solely constructive criticism.
Many of my friends (both guys and girls) very often make compliments on how I look and what I (can) do. However, I don't feel like I'm all that. I am aware of my talents and am proud of them and of the hardwork I've furnished all along, but I don't feel like they are so exceptional that they need outside praise. When it comes to my looks, I love them and am proud of them and grateful for them. But I don't feel like it's as good as my friends and the people around me make it seem to be. Almost all my friends always say that I look "so good" or am "so cool" while I don't even try. I'm just being me, wearing or doing what I want. For example, lately, I have been receiving the "you're so attractive" compliment a lot, from both genders of any sexual orientation. But I don't really believe it.. I never needed any sort of approval from others, and I honestly don't like it when someone else than myself approves or disapproves what I am, do or say. I accept it politely, but it doesn't have an impact on my self-esteem or motivation. I still love myself after someone tells me something mean or if I mess up.
Recently, a guy I barely know has been staring at me everytime he meets me. Just this blank, "I see nobody but you" stare. And it made me think. Not only because I'm attracted to him too, but because of the image I could give to people or the vibe they could perceive from me.
I have been extremely blessed in life and I will never be grateful enough for it. I am just asking for help on how I feel, if it is normal or if I'm just overthinking.
What do you guys think of that?
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I feel exactly how you feel. I don't feel like I'm an alpha male or anything, but my friends and family say I'm "the perfect guy" and they always ask why I'm still single after like two years... I've had a number of oppurtunities to go out with some girls, I just don't have time for them, and it just doesn't seem worth it to me. My decisions and actions are completely based on how I feel, not what seems cool or popular to everyone else, and I get compliments similar to the ones you mentioned.
I honestly feel like with this kind of mindset, you have a lot of inner confidence, and you don't need to change the way you're thinking.1