I don't drink alcohol. I don't turn it down for religious reasons, it's just a personal preference, I don't enjoy drinking nor do I have the desire to drink. I never judge people who drink or put them down in anyway. In my longest relationship I was told I would be a lot hotter if I drank. (Please keep in mind that I'm 22). I never thought much of that comment until after my relationship ended and I tried meeting new people. There seems to be a consistent pattern of things starting off great but then things will end with "sorry, I need someone who will go out and get drunk with me." I tag along with friends to parties sometimes and I still mingle, I just stay sober while I do it. I've been told that I'm rude for not drinking at social events, i'm boring, and that by not drinking it automatically comes off as thinking I'm better than everyone else. I truly wish that I could drink with others and enjoy myself, but since I don't like to, there's no point in forcing myself to.
If you met someone who didn't enjoy drinking at all, does that make them less attractive?
Most Helpful Guy
I see that a lot of answers are coming from guys that dont drink themselves, so here's my perspective as someone who does enjoy drinking with friends or at parties.
I would prefer it if a girl didn't have a problem with drinking occasionally, because not drinking when everyone else is kinda does leave you as an outsider a little bit. And I know how it feels like to be the only one sober when everyone else is really drunk, and thats why I would be conscious about my own drinking , and Id much rather be able to just go out and have fun with a girl, drink with her and not having to worry about her being sober.
That being said, I dont think thats a deal breaker at all, and I definitely wouldn't end a relationship or brush them off because of that. It just makes things less complicated and more fun if she doesn't have a problem with drinking. Like if we are both drunk I can tell the stupidest jokes and we'll both laugh, but if you're sober it makes it so I kinda have to hold myself back.0
Most Helpful Girl
It just seems to me like you're going after the wrong people. I don't drink and I've never heard anyone tell me that I'm less attractive for it. On the contrary, I have people praising me for it instead and telling me that it's a wise decision to make for someone who's so young.
So maybe instead of going after those who just want to party hard, go after guys who aren't as into partying and are more like you.1