Long story short I mentioned I noticed I had lost a little bit of weight that was making the swivel in my hips more noticeable. He said I should keep going and try to get thin. I asked what he meant and he said "it's not that your body is unattractive, it's just that It's not attractive either. But if you lose like 20lbs I'm sure you'll look and feel a lot better and more confident."
I know I'm not flat, but I never have been since puberty tbh. I even tried to get rid of it and got down to 72 lbs. even then I still wasn't flat. If that's mandatory to look good I worry I never will look good, because it's like physically impossible for me. I just feel kinda bad now is all. I didn't know I was that bad. I wear a size 4. Should I try to lose the 20lbs for him?
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, just let me say... 20 lbs? Is he fucking HIGH? Jesus tap-dancing christ! Not a chance!
Look, I'm sorry, it's not my place to judge, but I can't help it. Your boyfriend sounds like an asshat. The mere fact that he would tell his girlfriend she was unattractive kind of makes him a asshole right there... Now, once you add into the equation the fact that you are quite clearly a very attractive female, he really just seems like an even bigger douchenozzle.
Furthermore I feel like SOMEONE needs to say it... You should NEVER be made to feel like you need to lose a single pound to be suitably fuckable to some ridiculous assclown who clearly doesn't deserve you in the first place. The fact that he would say that and cause you to feel shitty about your body really speaks volumes about his character, I think.
Lastly, just so we're crystal clear on what I am telling you, you are a very attractive woman. You do not need to lose any weight. I feel like most guys would find your body very attractive. You seem like a pretty healthy size to me, not to big not to small.
Also, I'd strongly consider ditching the guy who is so shallow he thinks YOU are too fat! Like, wow... lol.1
Most Helpful Girl
I had a weird boyfriend who made rude remarks about my weight when I was around 5'7 & 125 lbs. Also my clothes, hair, choices, etc. He made me feel insane, because he was so nice and attentive at first and slowly started destroying my security. I eventually realized it was just a way to make me feel bad and exert power over me. It's a control thing... Drop this bozo.3