My height for a 14 year old is 5'4" I've always had a problem with what guys thought and how I look with my body. Just a heads up in this photo it took a lot of confidence to post, I am about to work out. As you can see in the photo I try to embrace all the flaws lol.
I've never had a problem with boy/men they tell me I look fine even when I know better. I weigh 148 pounds. I know I'm not skinny, but I know I'm not fat. Help?
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Unfortunately, confidence and self-esteem issues are really common... well, for everybody, really, but especially common for women in your age range. You are not fat, you don't even qualify as being a 'big' girl. You are not skinny, per se, but your body is totally normal. For guys that are in to 'big' women you would be far too thin.
Your body is really nice, it will not be a factor in trying to find a boyfriend. Far more boys will find it attractive than will find it a problem. Just as some guys only want super skinny or super muscular women, some guys also only want super heavy women. And for people into such extreme fetishes, your body will be too baseline, to 'normal'. Which is a good thing, it means it will be seen as being attractive by a far wider range of people.
It's easy for me to say 'be more confident', but I understand it is one of the hardest things to actually do. But you need to try to separate your feelings of self-worth from the need for external validation. Being a happy person draws people in. You say you are trying to embrace your flaws, which is good in theory, but your picture isn't showing any flaws.
The thing is, you are saying boys/men tell you you look fine, but you are not believing them. You are saying you know better. But the things is, you will actually look fine to most boys/men. You will not fall into a fetish, but for most normal people you will be what they are looking for.0