I'm the quit observant girl when put into a room of loud opinionated people, yea you can call it ghetto if you want. I want to learn how to not take certain encounters to seriously. For example someone mentions how skinny i am or maybe a frien of mine i get full on upset and tense. I feel like i have to denfend myself and others. You dont just go up to a overly weight person and point out how fat they are, that extremely rude. Some people just laugh about there weight and make jokes. I wish i could be like that but i was bullied hard about being thin and tall as a kid so it's still a big insecurity of mine. I've gained some weight to be considered healthy but i'm still on the very slim side.
How do i let people know (especially potential enemies) That making fun of my weight won't get to me but it's still something i wouldn't encourage daily teasing about. (i dont get teased daily but if i was put in that situation i would talk with them privately)
Most Helpful Guy
Okay what I say to myself the other people are looking to provoke a reaction so I will not lower myself and give them the satisfaction by reacting. Questions to ask yourself
If I react?
(1) Do I gain from this experience - No
(2) Do I lose from this experience - Yes
If I don't react?
(1) Do I feel better in myself - Yes
(2) Do I look better than provokers - Yes
(3) If provokers get no reaction, could they move on - Yes
(4) When I think back tonight and reflect on how I handled myself, do I feel good - Hell yeah1
Most Helpful Girl
Well, considering a lot of people want to be skinny - "I work out" could be a good response? Unless being thin and tall isn't a good thing in your area?1