Everyone in my life tells me I am a gorgeous girl and extremely kind. I love to help people. Guys compliment me sometimes (my age). But it's a rare thing that I have a boyfriend. I have had 2 in my whole life and they were extremely controlling so I broke it off. I have Googled it and there are other girls like me who have the same situation...
Do I intimidate guys? What is it? I am so nice.. :/
Why are guys so nervous around me? I fear being alone. I'm a social butterfly! I live talking to people and making them laugh and be happy. I don't understand. Please help me understand.
Most Helpful Guy
If you are a truly stunning and gorgeous girl, you are probably experiencing some dating trouble. I'll explain why...
Despite the show of confidence most men put on, we are generally aware of our own level of attractiveness and appeal and can get a good estimate of the type of girl we can attract. For the average joe, we look for an average jane. When we see someone that is gorgeous like a supermodel, of course we find them irresistible. But at the same time, we subconsciously place her as unattainable. Someone to be admired from afar and worshipped... but never approached.
The reason? We have led ourselves to believe that a super gorgeous girl will get swept up by some man equally attractive or rich. Consequently, when you go out with your friends, your less attractive girlfriends will get hit on - but you will be left alone and untouched due to your aura of unattainability.
Many models have complained of something similar, while the public often wonders why someone so beautiful is always single.
In these situations, you are the one who has to make the first move. I don't mean that you have to ask a guy out. But the first smile will probably have to be made by you. A simple gesture like a smile is a signal for a guy that it's ok for them to approach you. Too often, girls play this little game where they look away or don't smile at a guy. This does not tell us that you're playing hard to get. It tells us that you are unapproachable, which is why so many girls who do this are not approached by men.8
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