Hi everyone :) I'm 24 1/2 years old, and have never kissed, dated, come close to having a boyfriend, or anything. I'm still a virgin too. Guys don't really ask me out and I never notice them looking at me. I feel so ashmed of myself, that I'm nearly 25 and have had no experience. It makes me feel worthless, like I'm not normal compared to other girls, or like less of a woman.
I have attached two photos of me from this past weekend. Can you please give me comments about my appearence? I'm wearing clothes I would nortmally wear and minimal makeup.
Do you think I'm ugly or unattractive? Why don't guys like me or talk to me? How come 10-13 year old girls can get boyfriends and I can't? Please give me some advice of what I can do. I feel so sad right now. Be honest.
Thank you, and happy holidays.
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"I feel so ashmed of myself, that I'm nearly 25 and have had no experience. It makes me feel worthless, like I'm not normal compared to other girls, or like less of a woman."
And you should NOT feel that way. Seriously, that's what jackasses peddling the latest shitty American Pie movie want you to think, but they're a bunch of fools.
It's normal to want to feel loved, feel beautiful, feel wanted. Us guys have the same desires. We ALL have those desires. And it's okay to feel upset if you haven't experienced any of that by the time you're 25. I'm 26 and I haven't experienced any of that either, and so have a lot of other people.
Think of it like this; a lot of guys and girls HAVE had those experiences and haven't ended up so well. Some are baby daddies, some are going through constant drama because of obligations left over from past relationships, and some keep chasing after people because they can't find "the one" so they don't respect themselves and just hook up with anybody because they've convinced themselves they NEED to have someone special in their life.
But none of us really NEED someone in our life like that. It's okay to want to have someone, but you will find someone eventually... it just takes time for the right person to come along. Until then, there's a LOT more to life than moping about not being in a relationship. You can focus on furthering your career, getting a steady job, finding gainful employment, playing video games, vacationing in far-off destinations, developing relationships with your family and friends, etc.
I've been where you are before. It sucks. It really sucks and it's painful to go through, but once you realize that the whole "you're a loser if you don't have a relationship by X year of your life" thing is a lie made up by playground bullies to shame and humiliate others... well, you'll find that there's a lot more to life than all that.
And you really do look fine! In fact, if I met you at college or something, I'd probably NOT ask you out because A) I have no confidence (that's why I don't have a girlfriend lol) and B) you look like someone who's so attractive, I'd figure you were already taken! xD
So please, remain calm, and don't compare yourself to everyone in a relationship. Not everyone in a relationship is happy all the time, and not everyone who's single needs to be constantly depressed! :)1