Okay so I know I shouldn't care about what others think of me but this curiosity has been killing me, hence why I'm here. So, I used to be extremely ugly and picked on my looks by countless people (in a lot of instances girls I liked) over the course of the last 10 years which made me insanely depressed for most of life. Through extensive work I improved the way I looked drastically (first picture is me from freshman year of high school, just to give some perspective). I exercised my butt off, improved my sense of style, even went as far to get nose surgery (it was really cheap since I went to another country). Deep inside I feel good about myself and the things I've accomplished so far in life and whatnot, but, because I've never been "liked" or crushed on by a girl ever, or ever had a girlfriend and been through over 30 rejections (not even joking lol), I'm kind of curious to see if on a physical level girls find me attractive or ugly now that I've improved on that aspect a lot. So far after improving myself I haven't tried "dating" because I've been having crippling social anxiety due to being rejected dozens of times years ago, even though that was before I tried improving my looks. And yes I know looks aren't everything and that it's mostly personality that matters, but as far as that goes, everyone says I have a really good one, which is why in most situations I've been "friendzoned" instead of completely avoided, so I'm on here only to get some opinions on this question that's been bugging me for a long time now.
For reference, here's two pictures of me from before (I know lol):
Freshman year of high school
Pictures of me now (senior year)
Oh and sorry for the long post haha.
Any opinions appreciated, whether it's good or bad
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There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with your looks.
Maybe you need to project more confidence. Approach girls just to have fun conversation or exchange. I always give a guy solid pts for initiating cold, and even more pts if he doesn't talk about my appearance right away. Don't worry about trying to date them, just focus on having a fun exchange. If it goes well then ask for facebook or email, or give her your number on a note and tell her to text hers. You'll meet a nice girl if you approach enough of them. If you need any tips about how to start conversations with random girls in public places - just respond. I've successfully approached many guys with this mentality.1
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