So.. I send these to my fiancé who I have not yet slept with for religious reasons. But I tell him that I am fat basically for me this is the best I can do and he wants me fully nude I feel as if I am no good because I can't do what he wants as I am not comfortable, do you think I should do full nudes or stay with this? As I don't even feel comfortable with this. Please tell me of I look okay or am I actually too big and really need to lose lots of weight thanks
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Hey, so, a few thoughts, some of which might be conflicting but here goes anyway!
First, and there's no lack of clarity about this - you have a beautiful body. Personally I wouldn't say you need to lose any weight, you're curvy but still fairly slim - you're a million miles from 'fat'. I'd be more than happy with a girl with your figure, no question about it.
Second - this guy should be primarily concerned with your feelings, not his personal titillation. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with, and don't allow him to make you feel guilty for refusing to do so. Frankly he's pushing is luck - you're perfectly within your rights to tell him to shut up and grow up. Harsh, but fair.
Third - you really need to think about how you feel about this. What you're doing is in itself perfectly reasonable and harmless, providing you're comfortable with it. In fact it may be helping you to feel more comfortable in that you're slowly introducing to him the things you're insecure about, allowing you to know that he accepts them before you actually need to 'get down to it' so to speak. So if you're okay with it, go ahead, and share and wear whatever you find fun or useful. If for example you are insecure about the size/shape of your boobs, wear something like a camisole or babydoll where there's obviously no padding or support, he'll love it and you'll have another insecurity ticked off (because, I promise you, if that does worry you it shouldn't!). But point being make these decisions on your terms and don't be pushed into anything you don't want to do. But you do have a fantastic figure, you should be proud of it and it's good that you enjoy it with your partner, nothing at all wrong with that! :)2