:( i'm 114 pounds and I feel morbidly obese. I used to be 105 but I gained a lot over Christmas. If I lost 25 I would be 90 does that sound nice
Most Helpful Guy
I would say your body is incredible. Were I married to a woman with such lovely shape? I'd lay her like tile as often as possible and spare no effort in satisfying her.
I wish I could wave my hand over my keyboard and magically type the words that would make you see how lovely you are. I think we both know it's going to take more than that. Other than a few douche bags, you're probably getting lots of compliments and think they're all lies. They feel good for a moment, and then that feeling is gone the second you look in the mirror again.
I'm going to go against the grain of the common responses and say that your beliefs that you need to lose weight are valid and important... but really only to you. Other than some cruel people who are only looking to exploit your weakness, you posses an enviable figure that many would enjoy to have or hold. So instead of telling you to "just be fine with it," I'm going to push you in a different direction where you have an active role and more control over your body shape and composition than to be at the mercy of everyday life.
When it gets warm again, you should join a CrossFit gym for at least one month. While there, take note of the women's bodies around you. Look for what you like. (You're not going to see Venice Beach bodybuilder chicks.) When you see women who've got the bodies you wish you had, watch what they can 'do'. During a workout, they will absolutely crush you in strength, speed, stamina, and coordination. You 'need' to actually see this. And these are women who've been through life, had kids, gotten a few years on them and are still beautiful and healthy.
What you should consider 'today' is that tomorrow will always be different. It's possible that your negative image of your body may morph into fitness addiction, but there are worse things. But here's some things that will help:
-The endorphins from working-out at such a high intensity are natural medications for your mood. You 'will' feel better and not have to take pills with nasty side-effects. And if you feel better, it's easier to feel better about yourself.
-Check out pregnant CrossFitters. They have far less weight gain (stretch marks), smaller babies (easier delivery), and shed all the weight in no time.
-Super positive and supportive community is really helpful emotionally.
-They teach great dietary lifestyles that keep your mood from crashing and from excessive weight cycling.
-You may learn to care more about what you can do vs look like.0
Most Helpful Girl
I've seen more of your questions and I think you really start to develop a mental illness.
My sister had anorexia till the point she was a bone. Her hair started to fall out and if she kept her eating habits she could've even became infertile.
So I recommend you to seek help before it's too late.3