I don't know if guys find me attractive or not (I've gotten comments saying that I'm "hot" but others saying that I'm "okay" or that "they could see why people would think that i'm cute.") But I am definitely not one of those girls that walks down the street and commands the attention of every guy there (except for the creepy guys. they seem to be the only ones interested) and has a lot of random dudes trying to talk to her. Since I'm mixed raced, I'm not "conventionally" attractive, if I even am attractive at all. I'm not blonde with blue eyes and pale skin and a perfect ski-slope nose. I have olive-toned skin, wavy light brown hair, big hazel eyes, and a straight nose.
I'm also pretty tall for a girl -- 5'10". I feel like a lot of guys rule me out because I'm on the taller side.
Anyway, the point of this question is:
How much do you factor looks that are considered traditionally beautiful into the equation?
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Personally think you're ridiculously attractive and mainly for a quality you have that my wife shares -- long, graceful neck, skinny, though you're considerably taller than her.
Probably long neck has always been an aesthetic that I always loved for some reason, something about elegance and grace to me immediately strikes up this image. I've changed my mind about all kinds of other things at various stages in my life.
Since you worded the question as how much I factor in looks considered *traditionally beautiful* (I'm not sure what it is exactly, but I can imagine some kind of canon), then I'd say very close to zero.
I factor in looks but generally the girls I find most beautiful don't fit the canon, because the canon itself is actually kind of generic and boring. To be unusually beautiful is probably the most interesting kind of beauty there is. A man who has such a woman will feel incredibly lucky, as she'll truly seem like a one-of-a-kind even down to her appearance.
He'll also have the worst heartbreak in the world, as he'll probably never quite find someone who remotely looks the same.1