So I asked a question regarding wether I was pretty or not and most people said I was ugly or a plain jane like two said i was pretty (assuming they were just being nice) How can I get a guy to like me in high school. I've basically just hid from all guys because I've been too scared of rejection as its happened many times in the past by guys i fell for a ton. And my one boyfriend whom I fell in love with cheated on me multiple times and broke my heart. So how can I get a good looking guy to like an average girl?
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I ask myself that question every day. Except with cute girls, not cute boys...>.>
I can tell you that I'm not just "trying to be nice." I really don't care about being nice, or about other peoples' feelings. I tell it how it is. I say the same to all the fat girls who call themselves "thick". I don't care.
You're very, very much not ugly. I'm sure there are many, many boys who would love to get with you. You just have to let them know that you're open to the idea. You can't be closed off and expect all the cute boys to come running. You have to be friendly and talkative and get to know people. Attractiveness is not your issue, at all. You are certainly above average attractiveness.
You're not a "plain Jane". If it's girls talking all that shit to you, then don't take it to heart. Sometimes they can say passive aggressive things just to try to hurt people, either out of jealousy or vindictiveness. You just have to learn how to be comfortable with yourself and accept how you are. For some people, that means accepting that they are unattractive or not smart or not popular. For other people, that means accepting that they are average. For other people, that means accepting that they are attractive and have some other failings.
If you're hiding from all the guys, then how are they supposed to find you? As for the trust issues, everyone gets that over time. It's just something you have to break free from. Just like jumping into a cold pool, you can't let doubt ruin possibilities in life. Just jump into the pool, and you'll adapt to the cold. There are risks to everything. But if you never take risks, you will never gain anything.
Your appearance is not your issue. It's you hiding from the guys. And perhaps your personality or distrust. Both of those can be worked on. G'luck.