Polls have shown that most people think they're above average, in terms of looks. However, this is statistically impossible.
Since our self-perceptions are so flawed, how do we determine whether or not we're attractive?
If I ask my friends, they're going to tell me I'm pretty, regardless of whether they really think so or not. And I'm hesitant to post my pictures online, because I don't want to be stumbled upon by someone I know, and there's sometimes no way of taking them down.
Most Helpful Guy
Try to actively piss as many people off on GAG--or whatever other website--then throw your picture up and ask people to rate it. If you can piss off enough people to a specific point where they are not quite fond of you, but also don't absolutely hate you, then they'll be more apt to give you an honest answer. Or you could meet someone like me, who doesn't give a fuck about telling someone their bad points.
Our perceptions are excessively flawed, for sure. The human brain pretty much sucks at everything. Memory is shit: they degrade over time, or meld with other memories to form entirely different, fake memories; are remembered with a substantial bias, shifting the memory into a less damaging one for the rememberer. That said. It is the only means one has to perceive the world. The only thing you can do is accept the senses that you have.
Studies have also shown that the less competent a person is, the more competent they think they are. People who have above average competence tend to rate themselves less surely than do those with average or below average.
When it comes to getting the truth out of other people, you either have to use some form of manipulation or simply take them at their word. Even if you do use manipulation, you really won't know what the end result will be: you ultimately have to use an educated guess. Simply put, you can't see inside someone's head. The only method you have to determine their truth is via what they say and how they act.
As for your appearance, you can actively gauge how other people treat you. Good looking people tend to get treated better than ugly people. in my opinion. Average people usually get treated averagely. Particularly if you're female, since males primarily look at attractiveness--so if you get tons of male attention, chances are it's not for your brain.
All you really need is a guesstimate. Below average - average - or above average. You should be able to determine about where you sit in those ranges. Trust me, people who are actively ugly know they're pretty ugly, because they get treated differently than others. People who are totally banging hot, know they're banging hot, because of how they're treated by other people. Models who get paid hundreds of thousands know *why* they're getting paid. That's how I see it, anyway.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's easier for girls to determine this by the reaction they get by strangers while walking around the street, mall, park, school, beach.,, etc... Etc...
And even more so if you're in a group of girls... You can definitely tell who gets the most attention, without being loud or crazy to catch attention... And the type of attention matter too..
I think that the most honest way to get a good idea of how attractive one is...
For guys, it could be more difficult, as most girls even when they find a girl attractive the most one will do is give quick glances... Most won't stare or even make sounds or whistle at guys even if they are super attractive... Simply because we are not like that... Well most of us won't do that... Some girls will stare, but it's very rare... So for us girls it's easier to determine this, than it is for guys...
And yes, a girl who is half naked will get more attention than someone who is covered, but those girls can also determine if they in fact are attractive by comparing if they get any attention at all when they are dressed normally and not with a boob hanging out half way or an ass sticking out of some jeans and such... Etc.. etc..1