Just a question I've always wondered. Like do hot people know they're hot? Ugly know they're ugly? Etc?
Since I constantly see those "Am I ugly? RATE ME?" questions, and I wonder if these chicks (mostly chicks) are attention seeking, legitimately curious, etc.
As for my original question; let's say you think you're hot shit, but everyone/majority thinks you're fugly "she's acting like she's cute, why is she so confident?"
Or, you think you're ugly, but everyone/majority thinks you're pretty "why is she so insecure, she's beautiful!"
So, who's right? Would the person opinion of themselves, or the majority? Or a bit of both, or neither? Is it the old adage "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", whoever is attracted to you determines it? Who determines if you're physically attractive? Is it healthier for one over the other? Here are examples of what I mean:
-Like let's say someone is so obese, that it is affecting their health. But they think they're the best looking, and should not change? Everyone says this person is ugly, and should make changes not only for appearance, but health as well (their sincerity of concern of health is questionable but doesn't matter in this scenario). This person doesn't care, s/he thinks s/he's beautiful, and doesn't what to change.
-Or someone who's really attractive, but doesn't think they're good enough/good looking enough, so they starve themselves. Everyone tells this person that s/he is beautiful, and to stop obsessing. But s/he doesn't care about anyone else's opinion, s/he thinks s/he is ugly and wants to change.
So, who determines if you're attractive or not?
*Bonus question, what do you consider yourself?
*AS USUAL, INSECURE PEOPLE, ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK!*
- YOU determine if you're physically attractive. (For ex, If you think you're ugly, but everyone thinks you're pretty and vice versa, forget their opinions, YOU are correct)10% (3)3% (1)6% (4)Vote
- OTHERS determine if you're physically attractive. (For ex, if you think you're hot, but everyone thinks you're ugly, THEY ARE RIGHT and vice versa)24% (7)50% (17)38% (24)Vote
- BOTH EQUALLY determine if you're physically attractive. (For ex, if you think you're ugly, and everyone agrees, sorry you're fugly)21% (6)15% (5)17% (11)Vote
- MOSTLY YOU, BUT A BIT OF OTHER'S OPINIONS AS WELL.(I hope you get the point now)24% (7)15% (5)19% (12)Vote
- MOSTLY OTHERS, BUT A BIT OF YOUR OPINION AS WELL.21% (6)17% (6)20% (12)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
Ultimately, self-judgment is the bottleneck through which all other factors have to pass. No matter what other people say one way or the other, you are the one who decides whether those things are valid or not.
For many people, though, self-judgment is so founded in others' judgments that they don't even feel like they are individuals. These are the people whose opinions of themselves go up and down based on what others are saying about them.
Still, to reiterate my first point, everything has to be understood in terms of what the you decide about yourself. If all the world thinks you're ugly but you are certain you are beautiful, then of course you are beautiful. Every mind is its own reality; there are no "wrong" self-impressions, because they prove themselves true just by being self-impressions.
On the other hand, if you let the world determine for you that you're ugly, and that becomes your self-impression, then you are indeed ugly. That is your reality.
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Most Helpful Girl
At first you may judge how attractive you are based on your subjective view on other's apprarance. If you think someone is beautiful and then compare their traits that you find beautiful to yours, you might think you're ugly.
If you compare yourself to a person YOU find unattractive, you might think you're beautiful and so on.
But a big impact comes from others. Comments regarding your appearance may influence you and make you think "Oh I am ugly because others say so, or guys don't like me etc". And it gets in your head.
Or they might think you are beautiful, but you're stuck with the idea that you aren't from comparison
So I say it has to do with both, but both situations are very subjective, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder
As for bonus question, I find myself unattractive, partly because that's how I view myself compared to others and partly because I've been called fat or ugly in the past by others. At the same time some people (friends mostly) tell me I am beautiful and I don't believe them.
So in the end, both parties are equally responsible for one's view on their appearance :)1